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Having Doubts

  • 10-03-2010 10:42am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hello Ladies,
    I'm hoping you can give me some much needed advice/words of wisdom/slap round the head

    Ok, been with my other half for 3 years. Lived together for 2.5 of it. When we got together it was amazing, I had never felt the same way about anyone in my life and after 2 weeks of being together would have married him. My OH is gorgeous, generous, great to me, gets on with friends/family/dog (lol) etc.

    Now, I don't know if I have itchy feet or am just looking for something to go wrong or what!! Lately, I feel really restless. I'm part of a club and there is a man in it a bit older than me but I find myself looking at him wondering what it would be like to be with him. Its complete madness really, I don't think he even fancys me or anything. Its more of a daydream. I would never cheat on my OH or anything. I haven't looked at another man in 3 years cos I was so mad about my OH.

    We have a 'sex problem'. He would be happy with once a month, I'm more a once a day girl. When we were first together we'd do it 3 + times a day and I know thats the honeymoon period and that doesn't last. Sometimes I get so frustrated with it all, we've had countless arguements about this. He just says he can't help it. I inciate everytime and its just wearing. We were watching a film last night and the lead pushed his wife on the bed and made love to her and my heart sank, I just want to be desired like that. I think thats why I'm looking at this other man wondering does he think I'm hot, would he jump my bones (lol). We have a party night this Friday and my OH isn't coming (his choice, I did invite him) and I'm actually happy about it. How terrible is that?!

    Thing is, I don't know am I just going through a phase and I'll get over it. Like, if I lost my OH I would be devestated. I mean before xmas I was planning (in my head) what our wedding would be like, can things really change so quickly?

    We sat down about a month ago and spoke cos we were both living in the same house but busy with seperate projects. I actually thought it was going to finish then and I was upset, but we spoke and sorted things and things were good again for about 2 weeks. Actually, typing this I'm wondering is he feeling a bit like me, bored.

    I dunno what am I looking for, advice maybe or if someone felt like this and what you did about it.

    Sorry for the long post. I'm hoping you can help.
    Sue x


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  • #2
    snowy2008
    Closed Accounts Posts: 468 ✭✭snowy2008


    hey there

    well obviously you love him because if you didnt, you wouldnt be writing here. Why dont you take the inititive and prepare a romantic evening for the two of you, switch off the tv, have something lovely to eat and crack open a bottle of wine and have some music in the backround. you say you saw a film the other night and were disappointed that your oh didnt do that for you, why dont you do it and see what happens. You also say you'd be really devestated if something happened to him so theres alot of feelings there, dont go wasting time on eye candy, give my suggestion a lash if you want and report back, i bet it will be a success :) x


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