Getting back on the horse

JimmyCrackCorn

Wonderful expression that.

Just broke up after a long serious relationship before Christmas. Looking to get out there again.

i have friends who are pushing for the blind date thing but im not sure i feel comfortable with that idea. The same goes for dating websites. Id be a little worried about putting allot of pressure on.

I was also never the best at pub chat and meet and always met my girlfriends outside the pub and the going for drinks came later.

So should I not worry about it and just socialise a little more or give dating sites a go.

LegacyUser

JimmyCrackCorn wrote: »

Wonderful expression that.

Just broke up after a long serious relationship before Christmas. Looking to get out there again.

i have friends who are pushing for the blind date thing but im not sure i feel comfortable with that idea. The same goes for dating websites. Id be a little worried about putting allot of pressure on.

I was also never the best at pub chat and meet and always met my girlfriends outside the pub and the going for drinks came later.

So should I not worry about it and just socialise a little more or give dating sites a go.

Hey Op dont worry about it.Maybe if they bring the girl along with you to the pub that way no pressure and you get to choose if you would like to meet up again.Either way just socialize and enjoy your self If you feel better with the dating sites dont let people throw you off them for some might not be good others it would be.Just relax you are only out of relationship have fun

music lover 2

I have used dating sites as part of getting back on the horse:p and while i didn't have a relationships with anyone i met it was good to get out there againg. It was good to date and definitely helped my confidence. Just one word of warning though only do it if you feel you are really in the process of getting over your ex .The first time i was on a dating site i was def no way near over my ex and just compared every man i met to him so nobody stood a chance! I think the blind-date is a good way to go too.

Best of luck

LegacyUser

I think you should give yourself a bit of time on the dating front. In the meantime, go out and do all those things you never had the time to do when you were with your ex, or those things you always wanted to do but never got around to (and I don't mean chores around the house!! : ).

Let your hair down

stephen_n

Do what feels comfortable I guess, I would never be able to "chat girls up" and most serious relationships in my life have evolved from meeting people through friends. Your more likely to really click with someone though when your not actually looking for it and are just being yourself!

Shayman

The problem is that it's tougher for guys. They take a girl out for a date and you're effectively taking their friends as well 'cos the girl will be texting or nipping to the loo to call them and pass on everything you say. They'll analyse it, tell her what exactly you mean etc etc. Guys don't seem to do that.

Tail Wagger

JimmyCrackCorn wrote: »

Wonderful expression that.

Just broke up after a long serious relationship before Christmas. Looking to get out there again.

i have friends who are pushing for the blind date thing but im not sure i feel comfortable with that idea. The same goes for dating websites. Id be a little worried about putting allot of pressure on.

I was also never the best at pub chat and meet and always met my girlfriends outside the pub and the going for drinks came later.

So should I not worry about it and just socialise a little more or give dating sites a go.

Get in there and bath your lovely little feet, you lucky little devil,oh good luck!

Pyr0

Just go out and be yourself, I wouldn't go out specifically "looking" for someone new. If you don't feel comfortable joining a dating site, then thats cool take your time at it, I wouldn't say rule it out completely. You never know who you'll meet ! (that swings both ways ). Not like blind dating ? No bother. Friends invite you out somewhere ? Go out and have yourself some fun, you might meet someone while you're out, you might not. You have to put yourself out there a little while out of course, no point sitting in a corner all night ! Be sociable, chat to people your mates know but you don't.

JimmyCrackCorn

Thanks for the advice.

Some fair points there. I guess ill just relax a little. Go easy on the nights out and just not put pressure on myself. (the non man slut meaning)

I suppose that's what friends are for to give you a kick in the right direction, they mean well, im just not liking the idea of pressure and awkwardness of a blind date.


Thanks again.