Advice on girls?

enola/alone

Heyiz. Just wondering if anyone's got any tips for meeting girls. I'm a wee bit shy so I'm immediately handicapped there.
I've read that Neil Strauss book, but it's useless 'cos he's obviously never met an Irish girl. They can be awful mean at times.

Cheers lads n lassies

Niall

Gillo

One I've found also being the shy type is never actually try chatting up a girl, just go up for a chat and don't think about "scoring", "pulling| etc, it'll take a lot of pressure off you and reduces the chances of you looking daft.

From experience I've found it works well.

Daftendirekt

enola/alone wrote: »

Heyiz. Just wondering if anyone's got any tips for meeting girls. I'm a wee bit shy so I'm immediately handicapped there.
I've read that Neil Strauss book, but it's useless 'cos he's obviously never met an Irish girl. They can be awful mean at times.

Cheers lads n lassies

Niall

I'm sure others can give you better advice than me, but just a few comments.

You refer to being shy as a handicap, but I don't think that's a good mentality to let yourself slip into. Shyness is something that you can get over, with a little work. Maybe not completely, but you certainly can limit the effect it has on your social life. Don't think of yourself as being 'handicapped', just think of yourself as being a little less practised or experienced than most people. Good social skills don't come naturally to everyone, but this is an area where you can see huge improvements if you put the effort in.

Also, I'd recommend avoiding pubs and clubs like the plague. If you're a little on the quiet side, it can be disheartening to go into a noisy club and struggle to meet people. You might feel like it reflects on your people skills, when in reality, pubs/clubs are just horrible, horrible social environments. Others might disagree, but that's my experience anyway.

I presume the book you're talking about is The Game? I'd forget about it to be honest. You don't need a system to meet women. I'm sure it works for some people, but IMO it just overcomplicates things.

Also some Irish women can be mean. Not all. Don't fall into the trap of blaming your difficulties on women themselves! I'm not saying this is what you're doing, but it's something to watch out for. Also, if you do get rejected harshly by someone, who cares? Would you really have any interest in a woman who bites your head off just for saying hello? Her loss.

I seem to have gone on a bit longer than I intended, so I'll wrap it up there. Best of luck though, I know too well what you're going through and I hope you'll do whatever it takes to get over your shyness. Some random advice I found using Stumble Upon: 'Think of what your goal is. Can you imagine even one other person in the world achieving that goal? Then you can achieve it too.'

CDfm

Do you have any friends or work colleagues that are girls

if you do you should fry to socialise with them

if its work try to goto lunch with some women

enola/alone

You've all been great, thanks. Advice was fantastic, I'll put it into practice. Don't really like the club/pub thing as a way of meeting women anyway, and I know not ALL Irish women are mean :P Just a lot of 'em