Ex on dating site

LegacyUser

Going unreg for this.

My ex and me had been in relationship for a good few years. I loved him very much, but since the break up, he had moved on and was seeing someone else. After spending some time getting my life back together, I joined a dating website.

I had been on this website since last year, I think I joined about October. Anyway, I have made a friend from the site and some other guys are interested in going out. But this morning, I accidently came across my ex's profile on the site and I have been shocked since then. I know I shouldn't be but I am.

I do not want him to see me. I read his profile, as I can go incognito to view it, and some of the words he used in his profile, he used to use with me when we were together, and there is also a sense of ego and there are some lies in it too. He even has used as his profile photo one that was taken back in 2005.

I am wondering what I should do? Should I delete my account with them? I don't want him to stumble upon mine as to me I am living my life now and would rather he was not around, but here he is again, trampling on my space!

ztoical

45678910Help wrote: »

I do not want him to see me. I read his profile, as I can go incognito to view it, and some of the words he used in his profile, he used to use with me when we were together, and there is also a sense of ego and there are some lies in it too. He even has used as his profile photo one that was taken back in 2005.

I fail to see what that has to do with anything it's a dating website pretty much everyone lies on them a little and use photos that are either old or been altered with photoshop. Bet if your ex read yours he'd claim the same things about you.

45678910Help wrote: »

I am wondering what I should do? Should I delete my account with them? I don't want him to stumble upon mine as to me I am living my life now and would rather he was not around, but here he is again, trampling on my space!

Delete your account if you want thats your choice but your ex is free to join any site online he wishes. It's not his fault you'd joined the same dating website, it's not "your space" he joined for the same reasons as you did I would guess. If your really so paranoid about it and the site allows you to make your profile private then do that but honestly how do you know [a] he hasn't already seen it and even cares?

stephen_n

45678910Help wrote: »

I am wondering what I should do? Should I delete my account with them? I don't want him to stumble upon mine as to me I am living my life now and would rather he was not around, but here he is again, trampling on my space!

It's hardly your space and it's not like he is intentionally stalking you or anything as he probably doesn't know your on the site.

If you want to continue using the site why don't you just block him from being able to see your profile and continue on as if he isn't there?

LegacyUser

This is so funny and a little close to the bone. OP sounds like you could be my ex. Everything that you said sounds frighteningly similar to my situaion and also to the profile I set up on a dating website. Photo from 2005 check, stretching the truth a little check, some of the things I said to my ex on the profile again check. Been seeing someone else yep you guessed it check.

Now I'm going to reply from my viewpoint. I was very much in love with my ex and althogh I didn't show it when we broke up I was heartbroken. I still am. The fact remains that I am having trouble moving on and being on a dating site is helping with this. I didn't do it to step on anybodys toes and it was never my intention to get in anyones way. The way I see it is I should do my thing and let my ex do her thing. Ireland is a small country there are bound to be instances like this.

thegoodoutdoors

May I ask, when did your ex join the dating site?

vicecreamsundae

is there a way you can block him? as far as i know most of those kind of sites let you block a user so they wont see your page at all, it wont even show up in searches. might want to take a look.

apart from that, you could edit your account a bit so that it's unreognisable to him, if you can be bothered. change DOB to a different month, use an alias rather than real name, a picture that doesnt really give you away..though i suppose for a dating site the pic is kind of important!

personally, if you cant block him, then i think you should just ignore it. when/if he sees your profile he will probably feel the same way you did seeing his. just forget about it.