is it possible

cheesey1

Just wondering is it possible for a "relationship" to be based solely on sex - myself and the boy have fantastic sex, love to talk about it and what we would like to do.

I call him the boy as we are not gf/bf but we do have a good laugh when we are together.

I have even suggested that we try some new tricks and he was all for it so told him I had up dated my cosmopolitan collection (may not have been a good idea as I'm sure men don't like to think we get ideas from magazines)

desolate sun

F*ck buddy relationships are based solely on sex. Of course the buddies are usually friends before that. But afterwards it seems to be solely about sex.

Be careful. Sooner or later one person develops feelings for the other and can cause problems.

Are the two of you exclusive, i.e. you don't sleep with other people?
If not, would it bother you if you saw your 'boy' kissing another girl?
Do you want to get emotional support from this boy?

It could be that you too are really at the start of a relationship where you can't take your hands off each other. It's common then to having sex all the time.

Anyway good luck and hope it works out

I'm sure men don't like to think we get ideas from magazines

Don't think men care TBH, better a magazine than a long string of previous boyfriends!

ash23

It all depends on what you want from a "relationship".

If you're ok with it being just about sex and he is too then it's perfectly acceptable for your relationship with him to be about sex. You'd be in a fu*k buddy scenario.

However, problems arise when you want the "relationship" to be about more than sex and want to have common interests, dates, monogomay, committment or have him meet your friends and family etc.

If these are things you want from him then I suggest you start taking the relationship out of the bedroom and try having a conversation about something other than sex and see how it goes.

cheesey1

We do have good conversations outside the bedroom and we have good fun together is there anything else that can be done to add that extra spark.

Was thinking the next time he came over to light some candles and maybe not turn on the TV and just sit and have a glass of wine and a talk about what is going on?

ash23

cheesey1 wrote: »

We do have good conversations outside the bedroom and we have good fun together is there anything else that can be done to add that extra spark.

Was thinking the next time he came over to light some candles and maybe not turn on the TV and just sit and have a glass of wine and a talk about what is going on?

Do you ever go out on dates?
Does he contact you about things other than sex? Like, are his texts always about sex or does he ask about your day?

If it's all about sex with him then be prepared that he might not feel the same. No harm talking to him and asking him but he may give you the "I want to be single" spiel. In which case I'd move on and find someone else.
F*ckbuddies is only fun when both parties are on the same page.

cheesey1

I guess we haven't gone on dates but we do talk about other stuff he asks about my day/friends and I do likewise.

aidan24326

+1 to what ash23 said.

"F*ckbuddies is only fun when both parties are on the same page"

That's what it comes down to. You need to establish what it is that you are to each other, and whether you're then happy with that one way or another. There's nothing at all wrong with a 'fcukbuddy' type of situation if it's what both halves of the equation actually want. You haven't really said what you want but I'm guessing you'd like it to be a bit more than just the sex.