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Just wondering if anyone has some good advice?

  • 28-02-2010 11:12pm
    #1
    puddygal
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4 ✭


    Hi everyone,
    Just wondering if anyone could provide some advice on the following:
    Last yr I broke up with my BF, he broke it off with me, and i think i am over him now, but i am still kinda hurt about the way i was treated. Now I feel ready to meet someone, but it just isnt happening. Im very active, outgoing etc but i just dont seem to be getting anywhere. All my friends say that you will never meet anyone if you are looking for them, but i dont know how to do this? l dont think i come across as a desparado when i go out, but maybe im putting out those " I want a BF" vibe and i dont know it? Also have heard that you have to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with someone else- I consider myself to be fairly happy, have had depression in the past, but i think i have a good handle on that now, just dont know what im supposed to do!!!!
    Any thoughts? Tired of being alone :(


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  • #2
    Gannicus
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,736 ✭✭✭Gannicus


    Its simple you need a couple of tune up games. Now I don't mean anything rude by this. Like pre-season friendlies in football. Go on a couple of dates have friends set you up on blind dates etc. get back into the swing of things relax and then before you know it you're back in the game and you might meet someone you like


  • #3
    puddygal
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4 ✭puddygal


    Thanks Steve,
    Only thing i would be worried about by asking friends to set me up on blind dates- like if they didnt work out, I would be worried that my friends would be offended if i wasnt keen to meet the blind date person again?


  • #4
    Munster_Gal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,274 ✭✭✭Munster_Gal


    It'll take time. Nobody can give you any definitive advice on it... Your friends won't be offended if you don't want to meet a blind date again... match making isn't that easy.. but you shud defo give the blind dating a go! As big steve said... it'll help you to get back into the swing of things...


  • #5
    puddygal
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4 ✭puddygal


    Cheers Guys!
    Suggestions noted :)


  • #6
    Munster_Gal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,274 ✭✭✭Munster_Gal


    I'm a serious belief in fate... what's for you won't go by you! You just need to be happy with yourself! Take it from someone who knows... ;)


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  • #7
    puddygal
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4 ✭puddygal


    I know this might sound strange- but how do you become happy with yourself or know that you are? I think im happy enough, I do have my bad days, but do you think that the fact that i want to meet someone is maybe a sign that im not really happy with myself or being by myself?consider myself to be maybe 65% happy, but is that enough, or is anyone ever truely 100 % happy?


  • #8
    Gannicus
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,736 ✭✭✭Gannicus


    nobody is ever 100% happy all the time you have to find a healthy balance. do the little things that make you happy in life and be appreciative of what you have. What i try to do is if i have a bad day in work i leave it it work. as soon as i step out that door i look forward to my freedom form the grinder till the next day.


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