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Attracted to someone else... I'm in a relationship

  • 27-02-2010 2:21pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Going out with boyfriend for fifteen months. Very good relationship until this point. Very much in love, lot of passion, always fresh although we're relatively settled. This week I got talking to a guy I met six and half years ago while on holiday when I was a teenager. Have kept in touch on and off over that period and seen him a few times. Now I found tha, he's currently living in Asia. t I am very attracted to him, and him to me... and he's coming to Ireland in May for a few months. I find since I spoke to him I am finding my OH unattractive, am avoiding sleeping with him, feel like I miss the guy in Asia and am generally totally out of sorts. I have no idea what to do. I love my OH very much and the last thing I want to do is hurt him... but I thinking I may be falling out of love. Anyone experienced anything similar? Any advice greatly appreciated.


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  • #2
    RealistSpy
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    If you love your OH so much why not cut contact with this other fella? You really dont want to get to deep with this other guy if you love you OH.

    There has to be somthing wrong in your relationship if you have feeling this way.

    Ask yourself this question...How would you feel if your OH has a feeling for someone else?

    GL


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Hi op, I've been in a similar situation myself, a guy who I'd been with many years ago came back into my life and I had very strong feelings for him but was in a relationship myself. I'd had similar roving eye issues in the past and decided enough was enough and brokeup.

    This was despite the fact that nothing was actually happening between mysf and this other guy, I just felt I wasn't being true to myself or my boyfriend.

    My circumstances aredifferent toyours so im not suggesting you break up, but you do needto question why you're feeling like this.

    You also mention that you know he has feelings for you, how do you know this?


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