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  • 27-02-2010 2:03am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    In my family I was the bastard son, beaten and tormented by my stepfather until I moved out at 17, bullied at school, outcast in every way shape or form. I have become a hateful person. Im 23, I have made so many mistakes, pushed so many people away. What is left? I am good at my job...that is it. Few months ago I broke up with my girlfriend after a turbulent relationship, I still think of her 24 hours a day, god I love her. I am depressed every day, I am a loner by nature. I just want to know that there are people out there that feel the same. What do I do?


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  • #2
    booksale
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    Hi, there, now you've noticed your problems. then try your best to control your emotions and behaviours. Emotions are not something that out of your control. Be aware of your emotions, and try change the thinking patterns, and then your behavours would change. Stop pushing people away, open up yourself to the ones you care...

    Sort yourself out first by going to counselling, it helps. You are still young and don't let yourself go like this. It's a hard work, but believe me, a lot of people in the world have to deal with themselves.

    um, maybe you are a loner in nature, maybe you are not. but i wish you are happy with who you are.

    go counselling.

    all the best.


  • #3
    Taltos
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    There are lots of people who feel the same as you.
    Some come from similar backgrounds, some from really happy families, and some from the worst type of disfunctional family you can imagine.

    Maybe as the poster before suggested - try counselling.
    Learn to put your inner demons to rest. Learn to move beyond the hell your step-father put you thru. Learn to value and love yourself.

    Then - when you have moved past that - then would be the ideal time to consider having a relationship. Otherwise you risk bringing so much baggage with you that many people might find it hard to get close to you.

    See this breakup instead of being a bad thing, as a bright new start. An opportunity to turn your life around and to be the person you were always meant to be. Our families define us - but sometime they can scar us in ways most people cannot see.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
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    Who among us wouldn't be hurting to our core after what you have come through. My heart goes out to you.

    Listen, instead of hating yourself and raging at yourself, stop and consider this, you have got through a black storm of suffering that would have broken a weaker person. You also have managed to come out of that with something good to show for it. Your job. You might discount that, but have you considered that many people would not even be able to say that.

    Instead of raining down black, negative hatred on yourself, give yourself a break.

    You know what I'm going to say next and you might resist it but you have to seek help.

    Help to support YOU, because you are the person that is going to be able to make yourself a better future. You have come far and survived. Thats worth a lot.

    You are not what other people see, you are a strong human being who deserves every happiness. Good luck x


  • #5
    LegacyUser
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    it hurts wrote: »
    Who among us wouldn't be hurting to our core after what you have come through. My heart goes out to you.

    Listen, instead of hating yourself and raging at yourself, stop and consider this, you have got through a black storm of suffering that would have broken a weaker person. You also have managed to come out of that with something good to show for it. Your job. You might discount that, but have you considered that many people would not even be able to say that.

    Instead of raining down black, negative hatred on yourself, give yourself a break.

    You know what I'm going to say next and you might resist it but you have to seek help.

    Help to support YOU, because you are the person that is going to be able to make yourself a better future. You have come far and survived. Thats worth a lot.

    You are not what other people see, you are a strong human being who deserves every happiness. Good luck x

    Thank you, the baggage has affected pretty much all my life, I drink and eat a lot gaining more weight every day, I keep making the same mistakes again and again. It feels like I have 0 will power. My sleeping pattern is ridiculous. I have tried being positive so much, but the people I meet in life just put me back in a depressive mood. I will definately try the counselling. Its also very hard to meet someone when you have basically no friends to socialise with.


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