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Can people change opinion on relationship?

  • 26-02-2010 10:33pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Was seeing a girl a while. She doesn't want to be bf/gf because it doesn't feel right but she's still attracted to me. Can that change, I'm actually heartbroken right now.

    I know I should leave it be because I'll hurt myself.


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  • #2
    unreggd
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    Curious Heart wrote: »
    I know I should leave it be because I'll hurt myself.
    You said it yourself

    Seems like she has commitment issues, or just wants something physical

    Move on, don't waste your time, and happiness waiting around for something that will probably never come around


  • #3
    LegacyUser
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    Curious Heart wrote: »
    I know I should leave it be because I'll hurt myself.
    You may end up permanently unhappy if you're depending on a certain girl to make you happy. Learn to be happy in your own skin first. If you really love the girl, let her be. She'll be more attracted to you if you are happy and confident with yourself.


  • #4
    Exclamation Marc
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,801 ✭✭✭✭Exclamation Marc


    Curious Heart wrote: »
    Was seeing a girl a while. She doesn't want to be bf/gf because it doesn't feel right but she's still attracted to me. Can that change, I'm actually heartbroken right now.

    I know I should leave it be because I'll hurt myself.

    There is a hcance somewhere down the line she may "feel right", but to hang on for it while you're heartbroken is not the answer. If I've learned anything from life is that changing some peoples perspectives and approaches to some things is impossible.

    If you hang on just hoping, you'll be hurt in the end. If she's attracted to you and likes you, if you tell her its all or nothing, that will be the true test and indicator whether she will change. If there's any chance of her changing her mind, you'll know from her repsonse, and if she says no then you're better off being heartbroken now and getting over her, then staying with her and living in heartbreak on a long term basis.

    Good luck.


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