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Father has Cancer

whitelightrider · 2010-02-25 18:15:10

Hey folks, Just found out today that my Dad has lung cancer. Was in the doctors office with him when he got the news and I think Im still in shock. Felt so helpless. He was a smoker until a month ago when he first went for tests and was never sick a day in his life. Its in the right lung, but has spread to some lymph nodes…

25-02-2010 6:15pm

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Hey folks,

Just found out today that my Dad has lung cancer. Was in the doctors office with him when he got the news and I think Im still in shock. Felt so helpless. He was a smoker until a month ago when he first went for tests and was never sick a day in his life.

Its in the right lung, but has spread to some lymph nodes in his sternum. The doctor cant operate because of this but said it is localised. He wants to treat with with Chemo and Radiotherapy in the same session. Not sure when that will start.

Just wondering what we should expect? Is there anything I can do for my Dad? Reassurance, certain foods to eat, etc.

Any help will be greatly appreciated.

G

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#2 25-02-2010 7:07pm

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There is a good thread a few pages back called Cancer - what to expect

I would just reiterate what I said in that thread, there will be a lung cancer clinical nurse specialist in your hospital who will be able to give you answers to all your questions. There are different kinds of lung cancer and the CNS will be able to give you advice and details of treatment specific to your father's diagnosis.

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#3 18-03-2010 8:22am

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Just a quick update - on the 15th March my Dad took a deep breath in his sleep and never woke up. He passed away beside his wife, in his own bed. We are still in so much shock.

You will never know Dad how much we miss you.

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#4 18-03-2010 8:26am

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whitelightrider wrote: »

Just a quick update - on the 15th March my Dad took a deep breath in his sleep and never woke up. He passed away beside his wife, in his own bed. We are still in so much shock.

You will never know Dad how much we miss you.

Sorry to hear that. May your father rest in peace.

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#5 18-03-2010 8:31am

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RIP, I know your pain only too well. Time is a great healer.

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#6 18-03-2010 8:34am

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Im so sorry to hear that . My Dad passed away on Oct 17 of Cancer of the Liver so I know exactally how you feel .

If you need someone to talk too you can PM me anytime

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#7 18-03-2010 8:48am

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Very sorry to hear that. I lost my dad to cancer 3 years ago and understand the heartbreak. If its any comfort to you, at least he was taken gently and without any prolonged pain and, while things appeared to have happened very rapidly in this case, at least he was spared the pain and suffering of a lengthy decline.
May he rest in peace.

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#8 18-03-2010 11:56am

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sorry to hear that OP. RIP.

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#9 18-03-2010 11:58am

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sorry for your loss op

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#10 18-03-2010 1:34pm

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Am so sorry for your loss.

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#11 18-03-2010 1:38pm

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Sorry for your loss,

my dad died last august age 54. Some days are better than others and some days are really hard. My husband coulndt talk to me till after xmas because when i tried to talk all i could do was cry. Crying is good though. I can talk now without crying.

Take care...

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#12 18-03-2010 1:49pm

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Sorry for your loss, also lost my father to cancer, just over 9 years ago, same kind of scenario, healthy 64 year old, went into hospital for tests and two weeks later he passed away

It's hard to take, but you learn to live with it and remember the good times, there's not a day goes by that I don't think about my da

As DrBill said, at least he didn't suffer the pain of a lengthy decline

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#13 18-03-2010 7:41pm

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To everyone that has posted here, Id like to say Thank you. It has been a hard week but as so many have said, we know, and are thankful that he didnt suffer. We have no bad memories of Dad and somewhere in my mind I think he was making sure of that.

I know some days will be easier, and then others will be hard. But his legacy and memory will live on in our hearts and memories.

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