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How can friends and family help?

  • 23-02-2010 9:09am
    #1
    Blacey
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 161 ✭✭


    My SO is in the early days of quitting cold turkey. Naturally, I want to help - but I'm wondering what is the best way to help, seeing as he expects to be a bit moody for a while. So, for those of you who have given up, how did family and friends help and/or, what didn't help at all?


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  • #2
    N.Dynamite
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 16 ✭N.Dynamite


    I'm on my 9th day cold turkey. Admittedly I have been a little snappy and impatient but your right, it's to be expected. The best thing you can do is ignore the little outbursts and just give a wide berth, sometimes we don't even realise were doing it. It really gives me a boost when I'm asked how I'm doing and congratulated on the effort. A 'Well done you' works wonders, shows your support and adds a bit of encouragement. Worst thing you can do is encourage him to have a cig if his mood gets too much to bear! Best of luck to him, I know how he feels!!!:)


  • #3
    Orion
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12,807 ✭✭✭✭Orion


    Patience. He will be cranky. Bear with him. Don't go pointing out the benefits - he knows them already. We all know them. He knows his reasons for quitting - you probably don't. Just be patient with his crankiness. It will pass - and his short fuse will get longer. And the immediate shortness will be worth it in the long term.

    Point him towards this thread. I'm not being vain here - it's an honest log of my quitting. It's not easy - I'm nearly 2 months now and it's still not easy. But reading another addicts log may help. It may not help - in which case I disclaim all responsibility. But if it does help I claim the soul of your first-born child :D


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