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i am just mad

  • 22-02-2010 9:15am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    i met a guy I have been seeing him 18 months but I have a huge issue with the fact he still talks to his ex girlfriend it been over between them 4 months when I meet him
    He told me he was madly in love with her and wanted to marry her . She dumped him.
    we have had two major fights because of her .
    1)when i found them flirting together onlinein an open forum i lost the plot
    2) When she started leaving messages all over his facebook she hadn't left a message in months untill he updated his profile to say he was in a relationship with me . he deleted her.
    she is constantly testing messaging him asking him to fix things and to help her . last episode was she was cutting herself and really depressed of course he just had to call over to her because she needed a friend .Now apparently she cuts herself on her arms . i have seen them there is no scars would she not be scarred ?
    next thing was she broke her laptop and called him to fix it .on friday night she called him at two in the morning he didn't answer . I would probably have murdered him . I am slowly going insane over this. He says he is with me and wants nothing to do with her get is in constant contact . These are only the things I know about its the things that I don't see that are driving me to distraction. worse of all i am 100 miles away and she lives across the road.
    I have asked him to cut contact with her he says that I am the one with the problem and need to sort myself out .
    i cant get past this she wont leave him alone and he is following her around helping her out .why ?


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  • #2
    Peggypeg
    Closed Accounts Posts: 578 ✭✭✭Peggypeg


    Hey OP,

    I'm sorry but I agree with Sunflower. I think he's still mad for his ex. Walk away from that one and cut all contact.

    Best of luck.


  • #3
    Mozart1986
    Closed Accounts Posts: 191 ✭✭Mozart1986


    You can do better, there are plenty of decent single lads that would not be so insensitive. Tell him he can have his head-banger. As soon as you leave the scene she will get bored with him again and he'll come crawling back. Then you can tell him "[he] has the problem." Goodluck;)


  • #4
    Sephiroth_dude
    Moderators, Computer Games Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 81,083 Mod ✭✭✭✭Sephiroth_dude


    I agree with the above,there nothing worse than your partner still being in love with his/her ex,I have experienced it before and its just ****e to be honest.


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    i am going unregistered for this because I have been in a similar situation and my ex is on here . I walked away so should you OP.
    i have to agree with all the other posters here .
    At best he is showing a complete lack of respect for you and worst he is still in love with her
    and telling you that you should sort yourself out ? He is the one with the problem and he is manipulating you into feeling that you are crazy. there is absolutely no way you should put up with this what you are feeling is perfectly normal under the circumstances .
    His ex is clearly a head case , telling him she cuts herself to get his attention ? seriously she really has issues and yes she would have a lot of scars on her arms if she was .I know this for experience . The skin on your arms is very delicate and scars very easily they also take a long time to heal . This is what makes me the most angry about this there are people out there who have very serious issues who do this how dare she?
    also i bet she would have no interest if you weren't together.
    i would suggest telling him ' she goes or I do ' you should expect nothing less. If you ask me they are both welcome to each other . I am so sorry for you but after 18 months together and he is still carrying like this I think it is time to walk away.


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