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Single mother

  • 21-02-2010 12:09am
    #1
    Mega_Me
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8 ✭


    OK, so there's a young single mother that i get on really well with, and it seems there's more there than just friendship there. we have nearly kissed on a number of times but i've backed out cos of either drink or the fact that she has a kid. i don't know if it's even know why i'm posting tbh. thanks for reading and all opinions/advice is appreciated.


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  • #2
    Miller Boy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 47 ✭Miller Boy


    I think that you probably want to give it a go and you're hoping someone will advise you to do that. I think you should give it a try. Talk to her in advance and let her know that you want to take it slowly. Tell her that you don't want to hurt her and that you don't want to get hurt yourself. And quite often, men in your situation become friendly with the partner's child. I've seen many situations like this work very well.

    Good luck.


  • #3
    Tail Wagger
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 670 ✭✭✭Tail Wagger


    Mega_Me wrote: »
    OK, so there's a young single mother that i get on really well with, and it seems there's more there than just friendship there. we have nearly kissed on a number of times but i've backed out cos of either drink or the fact that she has a kid. i don't know if it's even know why i'm posting tbh. thanks for reading and all opinions/advice is appreciated.

    =========================================================
    :cool:

    in like flint, bath your feet and the feelings will follow on
    or you'll soon know where it's taking you.
    If you don't someone else will.
    I don't even know why your looking for advice.
    get to be fcuked into her place as quick as you can.
    Can't be any straighter than that.


  • #4
    kryogen
    Closed Accounts Posts: 25,953 ✭✭✭✭kryogen


    if you do get involved romantically be aware of how your actions will affect her child.

    but as long as your intentions are good in nature then just go for it man!

    fill your boots as they say :D


  • #5
    Peggypeg
    Closed Accounts Posts: 578 ✭✭✭Peggypeg


    Hey OP,

    Dating someone who has a child can be very hard. The child, quite rightly, is their first priority and you have to take second place. Just go into this with your eyes open. My advice is to avoid being around the child until you see how the relationship is going. If you connect with the child and grow close to him/her it could be double heart break if you break up with the mother. Just take things very slowly and proceed with caution.

    Best of luck.


  • #6
    newmember2
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,599 ✭✭✭newmember2


    Tail Wagger wrote: »
    =========================================================
    :cool:

    in like flint, bath your feet and the feelings will follow on
    or you'll soon know where it's taking you.
    If you don't someone else will.
    I don't even know why your looking for advice.
    get to be fcuked into her place as quick as you can.
    Can't be any straighter than that.
    kryogen wrote: »
    ...fill your boots as they say :D



    I'm lost.

    Can anyone explain what these posts mean?:confused:


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  • #7
    The Recliner
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,630 ✭✭✭The Recliner


    newmember? wrote: »
    I'm lost.

    Can anyone explain what these posts mean?:confused:

    In their own special way they are both saying go for it


  • #8
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I am a young(ish) single mother, and i am dating. To be honest, if i knew any guy i was seeing was asking this question in his head after knowing me for a while like you describe knowing this girl, i wouldnt want to date him!
    If i just met a guy, and he didnt really know me i'd expect that, but after getting to know me i'd hope he liked me, and not my situation wouldnt be an issue! I wouldnt even introduce my child to anyone for a long time and until it was serious and any single parents i have spoken to would have the same policy!
    Yes, having a child is a massive part of any single parents life, but that is her reponsibility and i am 100% sure that there is more to her than her child.
    What i'm saying is that if you are that concerned and you've 'backed out' already, and it is an issue that you need opinions to deter, you probably shouldnt be getting involved with her at all after knowing her for 'a while', if you really liked her, you would take it as part of!


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