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Coping with cancer

  • 20-02-2010 10:51am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi guys,

    Just looking for a bit of advice. We got word yesterday that my uncle has cancer and that he may just have a month to live.

    He's my mother's brother and obviously she is distraught. What is the best way to help her through this? She herself was diagnosed early last year with lymphoma but she didn't even need chemo, got the all clear, and she just goes back every 6 months for a check up.

    But this is completely different and I want to help out my mum as much as possible. What is the best way to help her?

    thanks in advance


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  • #2
    6th
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,247 ✭✭✭✭6th


    Hi OP, first off sorry to hear about your uncle. Its great that you want to help support your mother at this time.

    Boards has a great forum for Longterm Illnesses which may have some good resources and advice: http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/forumdisplay.php?f=862


  • #3
    xzanti
    Moderators, Entertainment Moderators Posts: 10,446 Mod ✭✭✭✭xzanti


    Sorry to hear that OP, my Aunt died some years back from cancer and my only advice would be just rally around your uncle as a family, and be as positive as possible, I know all families are different, with us, it brought us all closer together.. our case was from the sounds of it similar to yours, in that my Aunt wasn't treatable so it was a case of us literally camping out in her house for the 6 precious weeks we had...

    He will have good days and bad days.. just make the most of the good days and take comfort in each other on the bad ones.. Be as normal as possible for your uncle, you'll have plenty of time to cry when he's ready to go.. Keep smilling for him if you can...


  • #4
    LadyMayBelle
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,096 ✭✭✭LadyMayBelle


    Hi Op
    Such hard news to take, and ye all need to rally together and support each other. I suggest contacting the Irish cancer society, as they have some really great and useful publications and mini-books for everyone on different aspects of cancer; I have found them a great resource
    http://www.cancer.ie/


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Thanks so much for the replies.

    I'm feeling a bit better now after the shock of hearing this morning. I don't understand how cancer can go so far without being caught... :(

    6th - thanks I will check it out.

    xzanti - we're lucky we have a big, close family. I suppose the way to look at these things is it could be worse. At least this way he has a chance to say goodbye to everyone, instead of being killed in a car crash or something.

    LadyPennyworth - thanks so much - I will check them out and give them a call.


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