ex on a pedestal

LES23

hey gang.

bit of a story but good to get off chest.
about three years ago i went out this girl. went out for about a year.lived nearby.got on deadly , fell head over heels and thought she was the best.
then we boke up,

went through a rough patch for a long time. did all the no contact and throw out everything and all that.got over it like we all do eventuallly . but at the back of it all i stilll had in my head that she was the best thing since sliced pan and could not see her do wrong.met other girls but again i did but should not have had was compare all of them to her.and again i could not see past her.

the reason i am kicking myself that i can not see past her and i have her on a pedestal is that she is far from perfect.has self esteem issues, did not treat me the best and look at ethe back of it all she just was not that into me.

reason i am posting this is that she has moved away and we have sent a few friendly texts over and back the last year, but i bumped into her on monday. spent a good bit of the day with her, the day ended emotionallly.she is meeting someone else noe but i moved in to my own house and invited her over and she camre over.
i am just a liitle confused, it is obvious i care a lot for this girl . deep down i know we will never make it as a couple, the thing that confuses me is why do i think the sun shines out of her ****. so to speak.

anway thanks for reading , any advice would be helpful, going through a rough patch thinking about it.

Abi

I'm a bit confused over this one tbh, not sure why you split up if everything felt so right. If shes meeting someone else, yet she came over and there was emotions flying all over the place - is it possible shes not quite over you either?

Think you guys need to have a chat, because if she still has feelings for you, then shes not putting 100% into her new guy. Thats not particularly fair on him either

LES23

She broke up with me. was never really given a reason only that she said she was not happy in it.
and your second point i would agree with why she called over and spent so much time with me is not fair on ther chap she is goingf out with, a bit mad really

Abi

LES23 wrote: »

She broke up with me. was never really given a reason only that she said she was not happy in it.
and your second point i would agree with why she called over and spent so much time with me is not fair on ther chap she is goingf out with, a bit mad really

Well how did the conversation go exactly? that really is the bottom line here tbh. Did she indicate in any way that she wanted you back? If its a case where she doesn't she really wasn't helping matters by seeing you

LES23

to be fair she didnt give any indication like that.we didnt kiss or anything.just had a big conversation about old times.but then when i dropped her home it seemed to hurt both of us.like both in bits,.

we both kind of are emotinal lunatics. to be honest i would love to take her back but i know deep down it would not work over trust issues and too much has passed now.

i would rather concentrate on myself again and hope that my feelings for this girl on a pedestal could leave me.

Abi

LES23 wrote: »

to be fair she didnt give any indication like that.we didnt kiss or anything.just had a big conversation about old times.but then when i dropped her home it seemed to hurt both of us.like both in bits,.

we both kind of are emotinal lunatics. to be honest i would love to take her back but i know deep down it would not work over trust issues and too much has passed now.

i would rather concentrate on myself again and hope that my feelings for this girl on a pedestal could leave me.

Well based on that, I think you should limit contact with her. Seeing her won't help matters. If you find yourself comparing her to other women, or still having such strong feelings while seeing someone new, then its time to take yourself 'off the market' for a while and give it some time.

Theres no easy answer to this, you just need time to get over her. I can tell its really upsetting you, so I hope it happens soon.

LES23

Thanks Abitar.
Going through unbelivable emotions. want her back one minute , the next i just want to move on. by having thses feelings just shows our relationship is wrong.

but i would like to stop thinking about her like she was some sort of messiah becuase in reality she is not