age gap..

missunderstood1

do you think a 21year old woman and 30 year old man is to much of an age gap for things to work out even though they get on very well.

mobilecore

Nah. I dont think so.
You're 21. You are a woman. My 22 year old friend is dating a 28 year old man. Only 6 years I know but there is nothing wrong with it.

Alot of bad vibes that come from age gaps are maturity and same goals in terms of age. Women and men usually under 21 tend to not want a serious relationships (of course some do, but usually relationships are "for now" with that age. lets be honest)
Its not like your 21 and he is 37, lol. Most people would be like "that wont last!" :P They'd probably be right. but 21 and 30 is ok. But thats as long as you want the same thing. At 30 some people could be thinking marriage & kids over the next few years. If they havent done so already. Most 21s probably wouldnt be ready to start a family. Thats the only problems that can happen from age gaps. But witin saying that its too soon to think like that

I dont think an 9 year gap is much.
But of course its realitive to what ages :P 26 and 17? lol. Bad. 21 and 30 good :P Its not like 19 and 42? what the hell? lol.

G-Money

I was recently contacted by a 21 year old girl on an internet dating site. I wasn't sure if she hadn't seen my age or something so when I was in contact with her I sort of gently reminded her that I'm 32 and it doesn't/didn't bother her at all. In fact it was her who asked me if I had an issue with it when I mentioned it.

Anyway, I don't know if I will actually end up meeting her (she lives about an 1hr and 30 mins from me) but it was nice to know that my age didn't bother her.

ChocolateRamses

That's a significant age gap, but whether it makes a difference or not depends on the two of you.

Generally when people take about "age difference", what they're really on about is the disparity in experience/maturity between people of different ages. Typically the difference becomes less pronounced as you get older, but between the beginning of teen years and your 30s the difference tends to be more pronounced.

No-one can decide if a 21/30 couple will work or not, it depends on how the two of you get along with each other.

If you're asking whether or not that kind of an age difference is likely to work, that depends on the two of you entirely. Personally I think a 9-year age gap from 21 to 30 years of age is considerable, mostly because a 21-year-old is probably only just out of college/school, (if even), and is really only starting to figure out who they are whereas a 30-year-old has most likely been working over a decade, and has a much better idea where their life is going. So what can happen is that the relationship begins to take a nose-dive as the younger party learns more about themselves and what they want, and realises they aren't getting it in this relationship.

That isn't to say that relationship is doomed to failure, but I think whether or not it will work is a question of how well the goals/wants of the two parties overlap.

I hope that wasn't too meandering

January

Not a big age gap at all, same as me and my partner 22/31 respectively.

It depends on the two of you if you can make the relationship work or not.

Angus Og

Agree. Some people only learn how to treat people with respect when they are in their thirties. Any human now should expect to live into hundreds. Don't be judgemental. That is how you miss out on true love.

dammitjanet

I'm 22 and my OH is 30, we never even make referance to age in our relationship, it was never a factor. It'll only become a problem if you let it. It's when people obbsess about a small detail like that that it becomes and issue

Darthhoob

missunderstood1 wrote: »

do you think a 21year old woman and 30 year old man is to much of an age gap for things to work out even though they get on very well.

nope! i was 21 and my OH was 31 when we got together....6 years and a bit later here we are

both want same things from life. i had a kid at 19 and so matured pretty quickly after that. he lived the clubbing, drinking, concert going, single tween life that people like me are meant to miss....so matured a bit later lol.

I hope not.

Colonel_McCoy

Nothing to worry about..........no difference at all

Kevster

missunderstood1 wrote: »

do you think a 21year old woman and 30 year old man is to much of an age gap for things to work out even though they get on very well.

Sorry, just noticing this thread now but my reply is: 'Certainly not'. I mean, it's not too big an age gap at all. What is age when compared to two minds coming together who make each other happy? Age should not be an issue.

Kevin

Ickle Magoo

It's not too big a gap depending on what you are like as people. Some very young 21 year olds would struggle to have a relationship with an old 31 - and a mature 21 yr old would struggle with an immature 31.

I think relationship success in general depends much more on life stage, interests, etc, than age.

G-Money

I think it's true that the age gap tends to mean less as people get older. I guess the only potential problem might be that someone in their very early 20's is still not sure what they want and may not be ready or want a long term relationship. Whereas I guess it's a fair enough assumption that someone in early 30's is probably a bit more settled and perhaps ready to settle down having lived life a bit more.

But that's not to say everyone is like that.

I'm not exactly looking to get married tomorrow and I'm 32. But if I met my dream girl tomorrow, there's no way I'd turn her away.

If you's are both happy then that's all that matters. However you can probably expect a little slagging from your friends about the age gap initially