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Friend dilemma

  • 11-02-2010 7:14pm
    #1
    Currywurst
    Closed Accounts Posts: 28 ✭


    Hi guys,

    This may seem like a small issue compared to more serious matters here, but none-the-less it is bothering me and I would like some advice.

    I have a penfriend from Libya, who is a massive massive Green Day fan.Its her dream to go to one of their concerts sometime. Because she lives in Libya, she isnt able to see them, and because she is a she, she is not allowed to travel on her own. And meeting up with a foreign male is a no no really.
    Sometimes she can get quite down about her restricted life there.
    I got hold of two tickets to their concert here for June.

    I am wondering should I invite her? The chances of her being able to go are slim, and she might get jealous and upset about her restrictions?
    Or do I keep quiet about it, so that it doesnt affect her? I'm just worried that i might blurt it out closer to the time and offend her.

    What do you think? Thanks


Comments

  • #2
    Angus Og
    Closed Accounts Posts: 401 ✭✭Angus Og


    You could tell her and show her that you care. You obviously do, and she might take it as a sign of solidarity.

    Just an opinion.


  • #3
    Sir Ophiuchus
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,035 ✭✭✭Sir Ophiuchus


    She knows you're aware of her restrictions. She knows you're hardly either going to boast to her about the tickets or taunt her with an invitation.

    Like Angus Óg said, ask her, adding that you understand she might not be able to make it but that you wanted to ask anyway.

    That way you're not restricting her options for her, she can then evaluate her options and assess what she can and can't do herself. Much better.


  • #4
    lynsalot
    Closed Accounts Posts: 407 ✭✭lynsalot


    Hey OP

    Would it be an idea to tell her - she shouldn't presume you're boasting about it. She might have a male friend from home she can travel with and you could go to the concert together. It's a very nice thing you're doing. What age is she out of interest? If she's over 18 surely she can travel alone? Then again what do I know?

    Definitely tell her it's very sweet either way. i'm sure she'll appreciate the sentiment :)


  • #5
    Currywurst
    Closed Accounts Posts: 28 ✭Currywurst


    lynsalot wrote: »
    Hey OP

    Would it be an idea to tell her - she shouldn't presume you're boasting about it. She might have a male friend from home she can travel with and you could go to the concert together. It's a very nice thing you're doing. What age is she out of interest? If she's over 18 surely she can travel alone? Then again what do I know?

    Definitely tell her it's very sweet either way. i'm sure she'll appreciate the sentiment :)


    She is 19 years old. Perhaps she is legally able to travel alone, but it is a family rule at least. The parents business can be affected if their daughter 'dishonoured' the family.

    thanks to all for the feedback.


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