a girl in work

LegacyUser

i work in quite a large company ~200 employees and i get on very well with one of the three receptionists. she's unbelievably cute - although she talks to me like she's not (Eg. she'd be always saying that the other girls are way hotter than her) - she's extremely intelligent , she's very witty - like myself, now i'm not going to toot my own horn here but i like to think i'm quite witty myself - she loves the same music as me and the same tv shows.

she makes me laugh, i make her laugh. she takes her lunch at 12 and the other two receptionists thake their's at 1, i can take my lunch anytime so i usually take mine at 12:30 with the rest of the lads, grab a quick sandwich out side the office and come back and talk to her at her desk for the rest of my break. we even stay back after work to chat even til 7 one night (finish at 5:30).

there was one day i found her nearly in tears in the recreational area but she was reluctant to tell me what was wrong. i eventually got it out of her and it was that someone in work - she didn't say who - was looking down on her because she is "just a receptionist" i basically listened to her, told her that her job is one of the most difficult jobs in company - she deals with a lot of complaints - and told her that she has a huge character to be able to deal with the amount of **** she does, not everyone can do that job, i know i couldn't.

anyways long story short i told her to ring one of her friends and go out for a couple of drinks. the next day she was much happier and gave me a massive thank you. i probably should have asked her there and then to go out for a drink with me. but i wussed out.

i'm also fairly new in the job 1-2 months but i feel like i know her for a lot longer. the only thing that's putting me off is that one day we were talking on the internal instant messaging service and she told me she had a date, i was like "ohh congrats, who's the lucky guy and why didn't ya tell me" (jokingly) i can't remember exactly what she said but she made reference to the don't eat your cake where you sleep (i.e. don't date in work) and that she never mentioned her date to me incase others found out it's a mostly girl populated office so i guess she's scared of that.

should i make a move? how should i approach it?

CityMan2010

To be blunt and honest dude, dont make a move. At least not yet...

Dont want to bust your bubble but there is nothing at all in your post that would indicate that she has any romantic designs on your good self...

but I tell you what..it sounds like you are all making good friendships and having a laugh...you aint been there long dude..leave it....you wouldnt want to drop a clanger and everyone feeling awkward...

keep on being friends and going out and see what happens gradually...but If I were you I wouldnt rush in..ok dont leave it years...but 1-2 months is way way too early in my opinion...

good luck whatever ya decide..

rob

mbren

I hate to be the bearer of bad news man, but it sounds to me like you are in the friendzone with this girl.

You said you provided an ear for her when she needed someone to listen. That to me would hint at friendzone so give it a while before asking her out.

Best of luck

snowy2008

email her and ask her how shes doing!!! dont just leave it, follow your heart, nothing ventured nothing gained, go for it!!!

Peggypeg

Yeah I agree, just ask her out. If she says no just say "ah well, no harm in asking" and if she says yes well then there you go. I would always say if it's a case that you and the other person are unattached then why not go for it, worst that'll happen is you'll get a knockback. If you just continue being friends then that's all you'll ever be because you'll move from yummy man to friend and it's hard to go backwards in that respect.

gandalf

Ah just go for it. All this bull about Friendzone and 3 days rules etc makes me laugh. If she likes you then she will say yes, if she doens't that way at least you know and you asked. Nike man Nike!

OwenM

You are slipping into friendzone and the longer you leave it the more you are in that zone, go for it now - valentines is coming up.... every girl loves to have a dozen roses delivered to her in work, having them delivered in work is more important than the flowers!

CityMan2010

Well dude! did ya or are you going to make your feelings/intentions known?

let us know how you get on....the general straw pole here suggests you should go for it......rob

legend365

shouldI wrote: »

there was one day i found her nearly in tears in the recreational area ..

..anyways long story short i told her to ring one of her friends and go out for a couple of drinks.

....and you say you want to go out with her?

If ever there was an opportunity!

pfishfood

I really think your slipping into the friendzone, but im also an advocate of not s****** where i work. It makes life very awkward and difficult at work. Although its almost worth saying something like "oh, there's this girl im thinking of asking out etc. etc." and mention a name you can then see what her reaction is and where you stand.