Little Advice Needed

LegacyUser

Hey all. Need a bit of advice please. Basically met a girl the other night in a club. We kissed, swapped numbers at the end of the night, etc. Sent a short text yesterday asking had she a good night. A few texts went back and forth - just small talk.

Anyway, I would like to meet her again. Problem is that I've been out of this scene for so long I'm almost back to square one when it comes to experience in asking someone out for a friendly drink or whatever. How long should I leave it? I don't want to look desperate or anything like that. Just unsure as to whether I should leave it a few days or just ask her would she like to meet up sometime!!!

Trishis

Heya....I think you should just bite the bullet....you should kinda know if she is interested by the tone of her texts.....don't bother doing all that game playing and waiting the required number of days crap! if you like her just go for it!

LegacyUser

Trishis wrote: »

Heya....I think you should just bite the bullet....you should kinda know if she is interested by the tone of her texts.....don't bother doing all that game playing and waiting the required number of days crap! if you like her just go for it!

Hey Trishis.

So I bit the bullet and asked her out for a drink. She said yes. Whoop. Cheers for the advice.

Now onto step 2. I'm a fairly confidant person but I'm suddenly dead nervous all of a sudden. Excited mostly but nervous. I'm thinking to just keep it casual and be myself and see how we get on. But when we get up to leave do I just say "Goodbye, had a great night", peck on the cheek or what. I mean we've already kissed but I'm suddenly feeling that I'm going to find it awkward because I've been out of the game so long.

Midnight Sundance

I'd say just go with the flow not expecting anything. You will probably know judging by her body language if she likes you,take opportunities to be close to her,but not clingy i suppose. I'm a huge worrier myself but anytime i've been on a date with someone i like,the kiss will happen naturally,well i suppose with a bit of flirting on both sides and just taking a chance. Whats the worse that can happen? She knocks you back? Least then you know not to waste your time. Honestly,trust your instincts and you'l be fine :-)

mobilecore

Ok Op,
I'm your personal guru right now. listen to me (lol)
When you want to go in for the kiss with a girl on a date its a bad idea to leave it to the last second of the date it will create an awkward tention usually. (usually, not always :P )
Best is to do it in the last few minutes of the date. Example, you are walking to either her or your bus stop home (pick hers looks better with the "oh i'll walk you to your bus stop" line :P (oh and bus stop / car / luas - all the same :P ) before getting to the bus stop hold her hand as you walk. You can then either do it as soon as you stop at the bus stop - or you can stop before the bus stop. as she turns around to face you (or you turn around to face her) keep holding her hand... give a simple line of "i had fun today" (with a smile!) then ... go in for it.
Another tip would be as you stop. Use your hand thats free and touch her waist (grabbing onto it - but obviosuly not "grabbing" it lol) and reel her in after the "i had fun today"

Oh and as for meeting her at the start of the date. Go in for a hug. Dont kiss her as soon as you meet her on the date - unless that happens naturally. Best to kiss at the end. But of course, nothing wrong if it happens in the date naturally



I'm curious to see how my advice will pan out now muha. So write back on this thread after the date

LegacyUser

Thanks guys, made me feel a little more at ease. Although I feel like a bit of a fool asking.

mobilecore I'll let you know how it goes. Although I'm a bit hesitant with the holding hands things. I presume I'll just try and pick up vibes through the night and see if that's pushing it a bit. Am I right?

Jeez, I'm in my mid-twenties. It's not as if I'm a teenager. What's wrong with me? :-)

Beruthiel

...unsure... wrote: »

How long should I leave it? I don't want to look desperate or anything like that. Just unsure as to whether I should leave it a few days or just ask her would she like to meet up sometime!!!

Come on man.

Quit with the texting and just phone her up and ask her out to dinner.

Nothing wrong with holding her hand as you walk down the street btw.
A little bit of physical contact with a new chap can be hot!

/Edit
Not sure about the hug when you first meet up mobilecore.
I'd be more inclined to suggest a quick kiss on the cheek (a la the way the French do it)

ash23

I had a first date last week with a guy and it was good but there was a lot of awkwardness which could have been avoided. He collected me but there was no contact at the start of the date. I would have liked a peck on the cheek as reassurance that he did actually want to be there and was attracted to me in the cold harsh sober light of day lol.

We drove to the bar and he took a seat away from me so there was no way to be any way touchy feely at all. He then dropped me home and only for he asked me would he come in I was totally convinced he had zilch interest in me and had written it off as a no hoper.

So in we went, had tea and a chat and we ended up kissing. And he texted me when he got home and every day since and asked me out again. I think his nerves got the better of him and I was playing it cool because he was. So he thought I didn't like him and I thought he didn't like me. :rolleyes:

So just make sure she knows you are interested without being too over the top. Best of luck!!!

LegacyUser

Cheers for all the advice. I'm soaking it up. T-20 or so hours.

So we're going to meet for a drink but I can't think of somewhere suitable in Dublin City Centre. Only realised that there is Champions League footie on so my usual spots will be fairly packed out I'm thinking!!!

Any suggestions?

LegacyUser

So the date went really well. Was just myself and once we met all the nerves were quashed.

Looks like there'll be a second! :-)

thenashlegend

Awww!:) Its so re-assuring to see that relationships like this still exist!:D Having been out of this whole "love game" for a while and getting more and more out of touch its so nice to see that girls like this still exist! Even if they are few and far between!:rolleyes: