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Terrified to get into anything

  • 08-02-2010 10:37am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    So I am about 7 months out of a relationship with a guy which I felt that was the guy for me and the one I wanted to be with for good.
    The end of the relationship was pretty messy and it resulted in him coming back and forth to me like a yo yo and then changing his mind back and forth and messing me up completely.

    Even though the relationship only lasted for a year or so.. we were close.. and we talked about moving in together and at the time really seemed to see it going somewhere. A year to some people may seem like nothing but the connection was there at the time and I guess i have been in other relationships before that and i never felt anything like what i had with him.

    Whilst i know in my heart and soul - he is no good for me (he told me that he has walked away from every relationship in his life without regret and the time he said he didnt want that to happen with me.. but of course he did the same with me) and I know that he now has no interest - I still cant get him out of my mind. Its everything, music we listened to, places we drove to, things we talked about, pictures we took... its tough.

    I am keeping myself occupied, have loads of friends a great family, great job.. ive dated a few guys since.. but still my mind revert back to him all of the time?

    Has anyone had experience with this.. i know that contacting him is not an option anymore.. is it just the case that i need alone time to get over him.. or is time really a healer?

    Im terrified to get close to anyone else now in case the same thing happens to me again and i open my heart up for nothing


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  • #2
    Angus Og
    Closed Accounts Posts: 401 ✭✭Angus Og


    Your heart told you he was wrong for you, and you are right to follow it's advice.

    If you are thinking about alone time, then it's probably what you need. Listen to your heart, you will find someone, but it takes time.

    Don't rush.


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