Think my ex is stalking me

d1975

I can't be 100% sure, but couple of times I've heard a car beep and when I look out the car looks like hers with a 99D reg, only reason why I think it's her is the fact when she did call up she would beep her horn,

3 times I've heard this beep and see the car drive away? what do you lot think? and should I say something to her?

Angus Og

Don't say anything yet, she might be innocent. Try sneaking up and get a look at the driver.

OS119

d1975 wrote: »

I can't be 100% sure, but couple of times I've heard a car beep and when I look out the car looks like hers with a 99D reg, only reason why I think it's her is the fact when she did call up she would beep her horn,

3 times I've heard this beep and see the car drive away? what do you lot think? and should I say something to her?

no, you need to determine whether it is her - best thing i can think of is either you, or a trusted mate, going round to hers and finding out the full registration number and any obvious markers like stickers in the window, fluffy dice etc... you only need to do a 'walk past', no stalking required.

while thats progressing you should change all your email passwords/bank paswords and PIN numbers, as well as getting a new phone number. entirely precautionary, probably unrequired, but easy to do and potentially saving an enourmous amount of hassle if it goes bad.

if you determine that it is her - and you don't believe that its an innocent 'being in the same place at the same time' thing (ie: the location isn't on her way to work, near friends houses etc..) then you should take standard 'anti-stalking' measures - try and vary the routes and times you take to work, wear a different coloured coat/hat, grow a beard, maybe alter where you socialise. the initial idea is to make stalking you hard work and unproductive, ideally so they find some other hobby/victim to devote their time to, allowing you to return to your normal life. however, you should also start planning for the longer term - keep a note of possible sightings, anything out of the ordinary like silent phonecalls, wrong numbers, interactions on social networking sites, pizza deliveries you didn't order etc... as well as talking to friends, housemates, and work-colleagues to see if they have noticed anything, as well as to warn them to be on their guard.

if you do discover a pattern of supsicious activity then you need to contact the police asap. while they may not be able to do much right now, the fact that you have a demonstratable 'heads up' will almost certainly mean that any future incidents are less likely to be treated as one-offs or heat-of-the-moment type events.

good luck, and be prepared to move house, change your car and even change your job to avoid this person. don't be brave, rightous and end up dealing with a nutjob with a breadknife at 3am in your bedroom.

encore1

OS119 wrote: »

no, you need to determine whether it is her - best thing i can think of is either you, or a trusted mate, going round to hers and finding out the full registration number and any obvious markers like stickers in the window, fluffy dice etc... you only need to do a 'walk past', no stalking required.

while thats progressing you should change all your email passwords/bank paswords and PIN numbers, as well as getting a new phone number. entirely precautionary, probably unrequired, but easy to do and potentially saving an enourmous amount of hassle if it goes bad.

if you determine that it is her - and you don't believe that its an innocent 'being in the same place at the same time' thing (ie: the location isn't on her way to work, near friends houses etc..) then you should take standard 'anti-stalking' measures - try and vary the routes and times you take to work, wear a different coloured coat/hat, grow a beard, maybe alter where you socialise. the initial idea is to make stalking you hard work and unproductive, ideally so they find some other hobby/victim to devote their time to, allowing you to return to your normal life. however, you should also start planning for the longer term - keep a note of possible sightings, anything out of the ordinary like silent phonecalls, wrong numbers, interactions on social networking sites, pizza deliveries you didn't order etc... as well as talking to friends, housemates, and work-colleagues to see if they have noticed anything, as well as to warn them to be on their guard.

if you do discover a pattern of supsicious activity then you need to contact the police asap. while they may not be able to do much right now, the fact that you have a demonstratable 'heads up' will almost certainly mean that any future incidents are less likely to be treated as one-offs or heat-of-the-moment type events.

good luck, and be prepared to move house, change your car and even change your job to avoid this person. don't be brave, rightous and end up dealing with a nutjob with a breadknife at 3am in your bedroom.

lol, are you serious? where did you get that - the fbi website? lol

OP, try and make sure it definitely is her. my guess is that it'll probably die down after a while. if not, a simple acknowledgment of the fact that you know its her might embarrass her into stopping. keep us posted....

dolliemix

OS119 wrote: »

no, you need to determine whether it is her - best thing i can think of is either you, or a trusted mate, going round to hers and finding out the full registration number and any obvious markers like stickers in the window, fluffy dice etc... you only need to do a 'walk past', no stalking required.

while thats progressing you should change all your email passwords/bank paswords and PIN numbers, as well as getting a new phone number. entirely precautionary, probably unrequired, but easy to do and potentially saving an enourmous amount of hassle if it goes bad.

if you determine that it is her - and you don't believe that its an innocent 'being in the same place at the same time' thing (ie: the location isn't on her way to work, near friends houses etc..) then you should take standard 'anti-stalking' measures - try and vary the routes and times you take to work, wear a different coloured coat/hat, grow a beard, maybe alter where you socialise. the initial idea is to make stalking you hard work and unproductive, ideally so they find some other hobby/victim to devote their time to, allowing you to return to your normal life. however, you should also start planning for the longer term - keep a note of possible sightings, anything out of the ordinary like silent phonecalls, wrong numbers, interactions on social networking sites, pizza deliveries you didn't order etc... as well as talking to friends, housemates, and work-colleagues to see if they have noticed anything, as well as to warn them to be on their guard.

if you do discover a pattern of supsicious activity then you need to contact the police asap. while they may not be able to do much right now, the fact that you have a demonstratable 'heads up' will almost certainly mean that any future incidents are less likely to be treated as one-offs or heat-of-the-moment type events.

good luck, and be prepared to move house, change your car and even change your job to avoid this person. don't be brave, rightous and end up dealing with a nutjob with a breadknife at 3am in your bedroom.

omg - the OP will end up looking like a stalker if he follows this through!

Can you not just ask her? If it happens again, just ring her or text her and tell her you thought you saw her car again in your area. Hopefully, if it is her, it will scare her off.

krudler

OS119 wrote: »

no, you need to determine whether it is her - best thing i can think of is either you, or a trusted mate, going round to hers and finding out the full registration number and any obvious markers like stickers in the window, fluffy dice etc... you only need to do a 'walk past', no stalking required.

while thats progressing you should change all your email passwords/bank paswords and PIN numbers, as well as getting a new phone number. entirely precautionary, probably unrequired, but easy to do and potentially saving an enourmous amount of hassle if it goes bad.

if you determine that it is her - and you don't believe that its an innocent 'being in the same place at the same time' thing (ie: the location isn't on her way to work, near friends houses etc..) then you should take standard 'anti-stalking' measures - try and vary the routes and times you take to work, wear a different coloured coat/hat, grow a beard, maybe alter where you socialise. the initial idea is to make stalking you hard work and unproductive, ideally so they find some other hobby/victim to devote their time to, allowing you to return to your normal life. however, you should also start planning for the longer term - keep a note of possible sightings, anything out of the ordinary like silent phonecalls, wrong numbers, interactions on social networking sites, pizza deliveries you didn't order etc... as well as talking to friends, housemates, and work-colleagues to see if they have noticed anything, as well as to warn them to be on their guard.

if you do discover a pattern of supsicious activity then you need to contact the police asap. while they may not be able to do much right now, the fact that you have a demonstratable 'heads up' will almost certainly mean that any future incidents are less likely to be treated as one-offs or heat-of-the-moment type events.

good luck, and be prepared to move house, change your car and even change your job to avoid this person. don't be brave, rightous and end up dealing with a nutjob with a breadknife at 3am in your bedroom.

Best post I've read on here in ages:D

Nevyn

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