Anyone ever have total stranger say...

LegacyUser

hi all,
just wanted to know if anyone had any wierd or wacky stories of things total strangers said to them...was going into town on bus today- when this old lady who i had never seen in my life before said that i could do with slimming down a bit!! its not that it upset me, to be honest she is right-actually started diet last week have put on 10 pounds over xmas- am 10-7 , 5-6 in height --but just got me thinking is is the older generation that come out and say things like this in ireland... or what ? am american if that makes difference...

Victor

Don't worry. There are lots of whack-jobs in the world and others who just can't mind their own business. Others just can't self censor.

It would have been one thing if she butted into a conversation about weight or diet, but you give the impression this was something she came up with by herself.

Sometimes, my brother calls me fat. One of these days, I'm going to call him bald.

LegacyUser

I've had people comment on my weight loads of time. I'm slim and they assume it because I don't eat when in fact I eat more than any of my friends. But these have always been people I have meet not total strangers.

Some people are just rude.

LegacyUser

slimgirl wrote: »

I've had people comment on my weight loads of time. I'm slim and they assume it because I don't eat when in fact I eat more than any of my friends. But these have always been people I have meet not total strangers.

Some people are just rude.

Yeah I get that too and its really really annoying. I get called 'skinny'. I'm not skinny, I'm a CURVY size 8 and have not gained or lost a pound since I was 16. Though its always 'our heavier sisters' who speak such nonsense!

OP, I don't think its an Irish thing, simply rudeness, which some people think they can get away with on account of being old.

LegacyUser

thanks all, guess it not so much upset me, but looking back on it suppose it did bug me enough to post here- just was so embarassed as it was busy and a lot of people over heard- ah well suppose turning it into a positive will give me extra motivation to shift those 10 plus pounds!

chocfan

Hi OP

Don't let it get to you-if it's any consolation, your BMI is only around 23-24 which is perfectly within normal range so I wouldn't worry about losing too much weight

Having said that, if you still want to then I wish you all the best of luck with your new regime!

LegacyUser

ah thanks chocfan...yes am over it now, just guess mortification did'nt hit me till i came home, maybe kick i needed to get back to some proper training which has not been happening since bad weather over xmas- i no absolute no excuse now- want get back down to 9-7... again thanks for listening here- didnt mean to turn it into diet thread!

clartharlear

Is it just as weird if a stranger says something nice?
I walked past a girl today (I'm a woman!) who had the most amazing hair colour. (purplish) I had to bite my tongue not to comment out loud on it. Would it have been a compliment, or would I have just been hella creepy?

sam34

clartharlear wrote: »

Is it just as weird if a stranger says something nice?
I walked past a girl today (I'm a woman!) who had the most amazing hair colour. (purplish) I had to bite my tongue not to comment out loud on it. Would it have been a compliment, or would I have just been hella creepy?

a few weeks ago a woman queueing behind me in supervalu tapped me on the shoulder and asked me what shampoo i used to get me hair "so shiny and silky looking"

i was dead chuffed

op- if you decide you want to lose weight, i would use the comments to spur you on a bit, as every bit of motivation helps, but dont het unduly upset over them either. youve never seen this person before and youll never see her again, so fcuk her.

LegacyUser

slimgirl wrote: »

I've had people comment on my weight loads of time. I'm slim and they assume it because I don't eat when in fact I eat more than any of my friends. But these have always been people I have meet not total strangers.

Some people are just rude.

Same as. Worst is when your called anerexic when your clearly not. I could eat for Ireland but I'm still a size 8. I look even thinner because I'm nealy 6ft.


I once had some random person come up to me and say "you are the chosen one" then walk off. Strange...

OP, if your going to lost weight, bare in mind as stated above, your bmi is normal so dont lose too much.

skooterblue

Get over it! tell 'em to "Fupp off!!" I love that phrase so local but with an international translation.

Now back to post. NowIt is called life skills, "Daddy cant buy you that in Trinity College". You get it from experience.

El Siglo

I was once talking to one of my college friends and two of his own friends outside a lecture theatre one day, one of his friends says to me; "how did you get that scar on your face?" I have a wee scar near my mouth where a dog attacked me, I explained this to him. I was so tempted just to say something back but I was taken aback as it's never occurred before. Our mutual friend sort off half-apologised on his behalf but it still pisses me right off. It's nobody's fucking business what you're like. op, some people are absolutely retarded, especially old people considering they have a lack of education, manners, are usually racist and sectarian anyway. So pay no attention to them.

WesternNight

Never a stranger, no. An older member of my boyfriend's family once said to me "ooh you're getting skinny!" and in the next breath turns to my boyfriend and goes "and you're heading the other way". It was funny, but personally I wouldn't dream of saying anything like that to anyone...maybe we get less restrained as we get older.

Toots

If you can put a positive spin on it and use it as motivation, fair play to you OP. I agree with Victor, some people are just a bit nuts and can't mind their own. Not being ageist, but I do notice a lot of old people seem to make very personal comments towards people, without any apparent regard for how it might make them feel.

kmick

Old Ladies on buses are lethal. I was on a bus once and this old lady was giving some girl hell for having a black baby. Eventually someone on the bus told her to shut up and everyone clapped. Then the driver booted her off because she kept at it.

There are a lot of crazies on buses - dont take it personally or buy a bike and avoid them .

Dark Phoenix

Its an Irish thing I think - some people have no tact filter plus the compulsion to talk to strangers - especially on public transport!

AssaultedPeanut

Yup, Irish old people love to comment on anything that is really none of their business.

I've gotten "you need a haircut" from an aul fella a few months ago (I'm a girl and have mid-length to longish hair)

And also "you'd be too big & heavy to be a jockey wouldn't you" at some sh!tty races day in Kerry, by some old guy in a paddy cap and a filthy suit that would probabaly have to be surgically removed, it was that encrusted with scruff.
He looked like wurzel gummidge's uglier brother, yet passed a remark on me

Don't take any notice of them OP

we'llallhavetea_old

when i was pregnant i went into the shop to get myself and my mam a whipped ice-cream. the woman serving me was like "ooooooooooooooooh, you know you can't have this because of the raw eggs", i was "oh right...................." then she goes "do you still want it?????!!!!" (all incredulous like)

me: "yes". she was spitting fire the nosy ould cnut.

sexdwarf

This happened to myself and my friend once OP, we were walking down the street and an elderly man said, "You women are SO fat!" I wouldn't mind but I was 5'7 and 10 stone, hardly dragging my belly after me doing the street!

LegacyUser

El Siglo wrote: »

some people are absolutely retarded, especially old people considering they have a lack of education, manners, are usually racist and sectarian anyway. So pay no attention to them.

And that is an AGEIST comment. Shame on you for that.

Panthro

JustSaying... wrote: »

And that is an AGEIST comment. Shame on you for that.

ageist's are in a minority..shame on u for pointin his/hers comment out!:D
(ohh im funny me)

tbh

unregistered wrote: »

hi all,
just wanted to know if anyone had any wierd or wacky stories of things total strangers said to them...was going into town on bus today- when this old lady who i had never seen in my life before said that i could do with slimming down a bit!! its not that it upset me, to be honest she is right-actually started diet last week have put on 10 pounds over xmas- am 10-7 , 5-6 in height --but just got me thinking is is the older generation that come out and say things like this in ireland... or what ? am american if that makes difference...

was out for a few drinks with my mate and his wife - who'd recently given birth. A total stranger came over, handed my mates wife a card for his gym and said - totally straightfaced - "you should join this place, it's a total disgrace a girl your age being that size".

He'd walked out before we copped on what he was saying - probably the rudest thing I've ever seen first hand.

sexdwarf

tbh wrote: »

was out for a few drinks with my mate and his wife - who'd recently given birth. A total stranger came over, handed my mates wife a card for his gym and said - totally straightfaced - "you should join this place, it's a total disgrace a girl your age being that size".

He'd walked out before we copped on what he was saying - probably the rudest thing I've ever seen first hand.

:eek::eek: That's absolutely outrageous

Leilak

when l was pregnant afew years ago, l was on a bus and this ole bag got on sat beside me and told me l was soo fat the bus would roll over,lol l was 5 months pregnant and 12 stone at the time, she kept it up for the entire journey, about half an hour, l was so mortified - thought the journey would never end! l can't understand how people do that, they're definately not well

LegacyUser

when i lived in nyc one summer i used to sometimes get random passers by commenting on my clothes - never anything negative, always compliments that seemed totally genuine like "wow, nice jeans!" or whatever. i dressed kind of out there, but not too weird. if the same thing happened in ireland i would *always* assume it was sarcasm, or else just think it was really weird.

once i was stopped on grafton st (this is years ago before fashion/street style blogs) and a couple asked me where i got my necklace (it was a big chunky weird coloured thing i found in a charity shop). i only stopped because i thought they were going to ask for directions or something, nice surprise when it was a compliment. they were american too. seems like strangers are generally nicer to each other over there? at least i never heard any of the snide remarks you'd hear here when i was in nyc. probably because there's so many people that anyone dressed differently is just considered interesting and worth complimenting rather than weird and deserving of ridicule like they would be here.

commenting on peoples body size or physical attributes is just not fair though, anywhere. it's like childish bullying. i don't see the point in commenting positively either - i would never really be compelled to do that, i would be compelled to tell someone i liked their hair if they had a nice hair style or dye job like someone said above, but i wouldn't want to stop a stranger in the street to tell her she had nice eyes. eye makeup, sure, if it was really interesting, but not her eyes. those are things you don't have control over. complimenting someones clothes or style is like complimenting their personality.

op - the woman on the bus might've heard you speaking and realised you were american, this might explain her harsh words as it sounds like you're not really over weight, she might just have decided hates americans and taken it out on you. either way she was just a grumpy woman who should concentrate on things she likes rather than trying to make strangers miserable

Anthony16

lkjasdop wrote: »

when i lived in nyc one summer i used to sometimes get random passers by commenting on my clothes - never anything negative, always compliments that seemed totally genuine like "wow, nice jeans!" or whatever. i dressed kind of out there, but not too weird. if the same thing happened in ireland i would *always* assume it was sarcasm, or else just think it was really weird.

once i was stopped on grafton st (this is years ago before fashion/street style blogs) and a couple asked me where i got my necklace (it was a big chunky weird coloured thing i found in a charity shop). i only stopped because i thought they were going to ask for directions or something, nice surprise when it was a compliment. they were american too. seems like strangers are generally nicer to each other over there? at least i never heard any of the snide remarks you'd hear here when i was in nyc. probably because there's so many people that anyone dressed differently is just considered interesting and worth complimenting rather than weird and deserving of ridicule like they would be here.

commenting on peoples body size or physical attributes is just not fair though, anywhere. it's like childish bullying. i don't see the point in commenting positively either - i would never really be compelled to do that, i would be compelled to tell someone i liked their hair if they had a nice hair style or dye job like someone said above, but i wouldn't want to stop a stranger in the street to tell her she had nice eyes. eye makeup, sure, if it was really interesting, but not her eyes. those are things you don't have control over. complimenting someones clothes or style is like complimenting their personality.

op - the woman on the bus might've heard you speaking and realised you were american, this might explain her harsh words as it sounds like you're not really over weight, she might just have decided hates americans and taken it out on you. either way she was just a grumpy woman who should concentrate on things she likes rather than trying to make strangers miserable

The reason people make fun of others is to make themselves feel better,because of their own inadequacies.I know a guy who mocks tons of people about weight,acne,long hair,being dumb et etc.Ironically the guy that says all these things has a twitch when hes nervous

Lollipops23

sexdwarf wrote: »

:eek::eek: That's absolutely outrageous

Holy fúck I'd ring the number and scream down the phone at the guy til he apologised.

LostinKildare

OP, you said it was an old lady. Possibly she is in the early stages of dementia, which can make you do or say strange or offensive things. That happened to my mom .

Brush it off.

mood

Lollipops23 wrote: »

Holy fúck I'd ring the number and scream down the phone at the guy til he apologised.

I would write a letter of complaint to the gym in question giving a description of the guy who handed you the card.