Still in my head

LegacyUser

This is a bit pathetic on my behalf.

Over two years ago I was on a college night out and I was talking to one of my friends and this girl who my mate knows comes over and starts talking to us. Later on that night I end up walking this girl home and giving her my jacket but nothing ever happened. Got talking to her a few times after that night but again nothing ever happened. It was at the end of this academic year that she got stuck in my head. She then takes a year out to go abroad but by the end of it she ends up seeing someone over there (I know this because I kinda kept tabs on her via her social network page) but as they where from different continents they didnt stay together. She returns this year and I have seen her around but I havent spoken to her now in almost a year as she came back last year a few times to see her friends. Her friends are all doing a similar type degree to mine so I know her friends (not like to go over and talk to but I would know a bits about them as we would have a lot of mutual friends and with the exception of one girl they have all been with one of my friends[different guys]) so I see them quite a bit but because I see them a bit I also see her.

I have really tried to get this girl out of my head but I just cant seem to, like what makes her so special? because I have been with other girls but none of these I have stuck in my head, there is a few things I dont find attractive about her but I still look past these. Why do I still think about her even though I havent even got to first base with her?

In an effort to lose interested a few times (well two times) when I was walking past her I blanked her (act like I didnt knew her) but that just made me feel bad.

On a side note I just realised the other day that her friends that I have mentioned above all are in relationships and she is not which has resulted in her hanging around with girls that are all from my hometown (or close enough) but I only know who these girls as but I have never spoken to them but I would have about 30 friends in common with some of these girls.

I know I have missed my chance and I wont see her again after May but this even makes me feel sad. It is also very distracting because I am currently very busy with college and will be for another two months (thesis) but I find myself day dreaming in a fantasy world.

Why cant I get her out of my head?

stuckhead1

stuckhead1 wrote: »

This is a bit pathetic on my behalf.

Over two years ago I was on a college night out and I was talking to one of my friends and this girl who my mate knows comes over and starts talking to us. Later on that night I end up walking this girl home and giving her my jacket but nothing ever happened. Got talking to her a few times after that night but again nothing ever happened. It was at the end of this academic year that she got stuck in my head. She then takes a year out to go abroad but by the end of it she ends up seeing someone over there (I know this because I kinda kept tabs on her via her social network page) but as they where from different continents they didnt stay together. She returns this year and I have seen her around but I havent spoken to her now in almost a year as she came back last year a few times to see her friends. Her friends are all doing a similar type degree to mine so I know her friends (not like to go over and talk to but I would know a bits about them as we would have a lot of mutual friends and with the exception of one girl they have all been with one of my friends[different guys]) so I see them quite a bit but because I see them a bit I also see her.

I have really tried to get this girl out of my head but I just cant seem to, like what makes her so special? because I have been with other girls but none of these I have stuck in my head, there is a few things I dont find attractive about her but I still look past these. Why do I still think about her even though I havent even got to first base with her?

In an effort to lose interested a few times (well two times) when I was walking past her I blanked her (act like I didnt knew her) but that just made me feel bad.

On a side note I just realised the other day that her friends that I have mentioned above all are in relationships and she is not which has resulted in her hanging around with girls that are all from my hometown (or close enough) but I only know who these girls as but I have never spoken to them but I would have about 30 friends in common with some of these girls.

I know I have missed my chance and I wont see her again after May but this even makes me feel sad. It is also very distracting because I am currently very busy with college and will be for another two months (thesis) but I find myself day dreaming in a fantasy world.

Why cant I get her out of my head?

May is loads of time, listen im gonna refer you to what i told another OP
http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showpost.php?p=64289738&postcount=4

To be honest ive had loads of them nights where ive clicked, even got to first base with a girl and nothing after-wards (and it wasn't that they were leaving the country -it just wasn't meant to be). I cant help feeling that TV has dramatised relationships so much that we as humans feel we are experiencing same 'lovesick puppy' symptoms that we see characters on TV experience. being of similar past experience i would advise, its just unhealthy. meet more people, focus on building friendships as well as relationships. put her on the back burner and perhaps things will happen with her when shes not the focal point. learn to enjoy life. i mean we lose perspective of whats really important. would a relationship be your number 1 priority if god forbid, you found out that either you or a family member were seriously ill? think of the poor misfortunates in Haiti.

Dublin Chick

if god forbid, you found out that either you or a family member were seriously ill? think of the poor misfortunates in Haiti.[/QUOTE]


Ok seriously the guy just wants advice please stop bringing ill family members and Haiti up my goodness!

Ok my advice is can you request her as a friend on FB. She is clearly going to be confused if u ignored her on the street, can you get away with the I did not see u thing? FB her and then instigate a chat, post a friendly note on her wall saying thanks for the ad or whatever, if she is interested you will soon know. BTW LOVE that you lent her your jacket v. sweet and she will remember that you are a nice guy. Don't be afraid do it!

PS Let me know how it goes....

Dark Phoenix

Ok, what she said. Stop treating this like an episode of greys anatomy and if you like the girl - do something constructive. Its not a tv show or a movie and some climatctitc event is not going to happen just to push the two of you together.

Add her as a friend on facebook like the last poster said. If she accepts thats a good sign. Say hello and smile when you see her, build it up from there, ask her how she is etc. Don't ever let on you know so much about the past her ex etc as people tend to get freaked out of you have been social network stalking them.

Dublin Chick

Dublin Chick wrote:

Ok seriously the guy just wants advice please stop bringing ill family members and Haiti up my goodness!

Ok my advice is can you request her as a friend on FB. She is clearly going to be confused if u ignored her on the street, can you get away with the I did not see u thing? FB her and then instigate a chat, post a friendly note on her wall saying thanks for the ad or whatever, if she is interested you will soon know. BTW LOVE that you lent her your jacket v. sweet and she will remember that you are a nice guy. Don't be afraid do it!

PS Let me know how it goes....

Oh my god what age are you??? My advice to him was, to get things into perspective and really ask himself is she worth the pedestal she is on before he wrecks his head any more over her? there are far more important things in life then bloody potential relationships and if/when a person realises that only then life starts to really develop. I really don't see how suddenly sending her facebook messages if OP says he blanked on occasion her will help.
You could drive yourself berserk over one woman that may/may not be interested in you and may/may not deserve your interest when there is more to life. believe me ive been there.

If you had actually read the thread he is wondering how to deal with his crush as well as what to do next. i don't see him at any big advantage having lent her his coat. she probably had some other schmuck do the same for her week after.

Even if she accepted him on facebook i wouldn't read that much into it. To be honest i think OP should throw himself into hobbies to keep his mind busy. im not saying he hasn't a hope with her but he is gone into that zone where he is starting to obsess over her (by his own admission) and if he makes her too much the centre of his attention, he will make a complete balls of it. trust me i know. we all do it. there's not a man alive who hasn't pined over some young one that barely if at all acknowledges their existence.

globemaster1986

OP, its obvious you like her and that is why you are overlooking the less attractive aspects of her/her personality! Ya FB is no substitute but by adding her it shows you know who she is and are interested in knowing her. Swap a few chit chat sort of posts and then when you see her, suck it up and ask her out man!

Best of luck!:)

Dublin Chick

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Oh my god what age are you??? My advice to him was, to get things into perspective and really ask himself is she worth the pedestal she is on before he wrecks his head any more over her? there are far more important things in life then bloody potential relationships and if/when a person realises that only then life starts to really develop. I really don't see how suddenly sending her facebook messages if OP says he blanked on occasion her will help.
You could drive yourself berserk over one woman that may/may not be interested in you and may/may not deserve your interest when there is more to life. believe me ive been there.

If you had actually read the thread he is wondering how to deal with his crush as well as what to do next. i don't see him at any big advantage having lent her his coat. she probably had some other schmuck do the same for her week after.

Even if she accepted him on facebook i wouldn't read that much into it. To be honest i think OP should throw himself into hobbies to keep his mind busy. im not saying he hasn't a hope with her but he is gone into that zone where he is starting to obsess over her (by his own admission) and if he makes her too much the centre of his attention, he will make a complete balls of it. trust me i know. we all do it. there's not a man alive who hasn't pined over some young one that barely if at all acknowledges their existence.

Ok clearly you have been burned more than once and are a little crazed over the ladies:) Firstly RELAX I was just giving my advice. Over analyse much?

Dublin Chick

Dublin Chick wrote: »

Ok clearly you have been burned more than once and are a little crazed over the ladies:) Firstly RELAX I was just giving my advice. Over analyse much?

i am not crazed over the ladies. i have had disappointment (who hasn't), but i learned one day that things happen for a reason. You don't get with one girl because there is a better one out there for you and vice-versa. As well as that after some of the things that have happened other people around me lately i realise life is far more important then mulling over one girl.