How will I know I'm not rushing into anything with a girl?

newbie91

Hi I'm a newcomer here and this is my first thread.

I am a 5th year student currently single and there is a girl I would like to ask out but I don't want to rush anything. We are in different schools (I'm in an all boys and she's in an all girls).

I've been friends with her a few years now, we get along very well and I get along with a few of her friends too.

I feel uncomfortable asking her on a "date" because I don't want to rush anything (and not make it look like I want to go out with her).

I was considering asking her to a movie with my best male friend, the girl and one of her friends.

However I wouldn't be able to arrange it for midterm because we are both going on school trips abroad.

Would this be a good idea or is there anything else I should consider?

Thanks for reading
Newbie91:)

Liam Byrne

Bite the bullet and ask her out on a proper date.

Kimia

Why are you worried about rushing things OP? I don't really get that part... all you're doing is asking her out?

newbie91

Well it was really just the other week I asked about the whole group cinema outing. She said she doesn't know but will see about it.

I was considering asking again but I'm not sure whether or not I would be rushing anything if I did.

I am aware that girls lose interest if a guy keeps asking them until they get a yes. Thats why I'm nervous about asking again.

I actually just met her yesterday and we just sat down and chatted. I said nothing about the group outing I asked her about earlier as I didn't feel it was the right time to bring it up again.

shellyboo

You want to go out with her... But you don't want to do anything that might make you think you want to go out with her.

That could prove to be a tricky relationship. Listen, if it's gonna happen she's gonna find out you like her eventually - so just ask her out.

karaokeman

It is kinda weird when you think we worry about these things.
I would say that it is probably because you really like a girl that you don't want to rush anything with her.
If you want to go out with a girl it doesn't make sense that you would do anything that might make her lose interest.
Good luck anyway with this girl.

mobilecore

this thread is so good i couldnt pass on it yes baby woooo! ok sorry. i was just smiling at how much advice i can give

You said 5th year so I imagine you are around 16/17.

First is, regrets weigh more than rejection - if you dont make a move you will regret it my young man
Second, When you finish school and as you enter college (or move onto a job?) you will most likely not have as much contact with her. if any maybe. Most school friends drift. Only one or two (if you're lucky) remain friends. People grow apart. So try
Third, Why shouldnt you let her know you like her? you obviously want her :P ... **op wants a girlfriend** (ha sorry couldnt help myself seeing as your in 5th year :P )
Fourth, I can read things my young friend and I read whats going on :P you like her but you dont want to accept what may happen if she says no. You dont want the rejection or you dont want the friendship to stop. It wont. In worst case she says no and you dont have as much contact for a while. As simple text or chat of "hey look, lets just still be friends ok forget all that nonsense" - will make everything back to normal.
Fifth, The prize. The good result ... she says yes. Think about that one What weighs more her saying yes, or having the regret of never asking

Now go man go!

Angus Og

Maybe she's not sure about the group movie going because she just wants to go with you. Does she flirt with you? Show any body language when she's with you? Have you tried flirting with her to see how she reacts?

Sanjuro

OP, does your idea of a date involve a church, priest, two rings and a couple of sacks of confetti? If not, then just go for it. Asking someone on a date is not rushing things. It's being proactive! As the ad says, Just Do It!

newbie91

Angus Og wrote: »

Maybe she's not sure about the group movie going because she just wants to go with you. Does she flirt with you? Show any body language when she's with you? Have you tried flirting with her to see how she reacts?

Thats a good point.
I don't flirt with her all the time. But when we do its always a little bit of craic.
I want to do it a little more I'm only a little nervous I might have left it too late because we've been friends for 3 years.
Now that I think of it I'm glad I started this topic, it has given me a lot to think about:)

Angus Og

God gave us flirting for a reason: it often says more than our mouths ever could (especially when love ties our tongues)

If three years have passed and she's still your friend then it's not too late.

Tigger

all you need in this life is yer balls
an
if i could tell 15 year old me that he'd habve had some craic

seriously just do it we can't have 5th year girls ( rightly so) but you can

there is no downside

also dont drink you will be so much more attractive its unbeliveable#
#

newbie91

Sanjuro wrote: »

OP, does your idea of a date involve a church, priest, two rings and a couple of sacks of confetti? If not, then just go for it. Asking someone on a date is not rushing things. It's being proactive! As the ad says, Just Do It!

I like the way you put it.
Its funny to say it like that in the sense that if I ask this girl out its not like I'm proposing and asking will she marry me.
I plan to ask her out, thanks for all the help you guys/gals gave me in this thread. It really makes all the difference to me:)