I'm a functioning lonely female

LegacyUser

Hi all,

Just a little background on my story , i married my dream man when i was 21, he was my one and only boyfriend, We lived fine for a few years till it turned out that i could not get pregnant ,so at his request we went through months of test's and then tablets,scans and injections with no joy so as a last resort we signed up for ivf + before we had our first treatment he decided to head off to scotland for job interview-new environment and all that cept he wasnt looking for a job was he ?- after 3 days of worrying and getting the cops involved i found out that he was meeting a girl that he had met online -
needless to say we split up for a year and then got back together and durin the 3 years we had been together after the original split -we never had sex- he absolutley never touched me except when he was sleeping and would try to ****, i was always receptive but he stopped himself even when sleeping ...talk about being starvin of affection.....anywhoo he did leave me again.. for his online girlfriend again and they are apparently happy out with a baby in tow...
now this leaves me as a 30 yr old woman with only one sexual mate -no hubbie -no job and no security so what do i do ...i tried hanging out with my own mates but all of their domestic bliss pissed me off- my younger single mates pissed me off - heck i am an aberation..i have nothing in common with any generation.....so i have stayed home and now find myself lonely ....horny and dont know what to do about it..... i found myself a job and go from work to home and vice versa .......
how do i meet someone - not looking for life long commitment or anything - please help cos i need advice

wing52

I think you'll find a load of sensible sods over in TLL?

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

You just need a bit more variety in your life. Join clubs of things that interest you, do an evening course, do some voluntary work. Network that way. The trick is to ask yourslef what are YOU interest in and what do YOU like to do and then try and find like-minded people.

theg81der

Hi Op!

Sound to me like your not over the break up of your marriage and the fact that you couldn`t conceive. I think you should 1. give yourself a break and 2. go to couselling (what have you lost if it doesn`t help).

From my side I would be angry if I was left in this situation. You`ve done nothing to deserve it and must feel like you`ve been punished. Your husband, well I have a few other choice words for him, but he is certainly a very selfish person and not the man of your dreams because that man would never treat you that way.

You can let go of the resentment you can choose to smile more and gravitate towards your own happiness. You don`t have to be resentful of happy friends, I`m sure they`ve had their own hardships everyone has. And who knows you might meet Mr Right through one of the people you might otherwise turn your back on.

xoxox

opinion guy

You've already gotten yourself a job so thats step 1yeah ?

ow about taking up a hobby. Dance class or something ? They are a great way to meet new people, have fun and get some exercise all in the one event.