Should I send the mail

LegacyUser · 30-01-2010 11:15pm #1

I recently broke up with my girlfriend. There were a few problems in the relationship, she blames herself for the split, and at first I was angry and blamed her too. But to be honest it was my own foolish jealousy that really got in the way of things, and having spent some time apart I realise this now. I feel like I know this now, and I really just feel like I need to tell her and talk to her about how I feel.

At the moment she feels she needs space from any relationships but wants to be friends. A few weeks ago I told her that I didn't think we could be friends for a while and then didn't really talk for a few weeks. A mutual friend asked me the other day did I think we could get back together and I said no. I really regret saying that now, because I know he has probably said it back to her and she thinks there is no hope now too. When we were breaking up she said she kept thinking of it as only temporary and I really just want her to still think that.

I wrote down a whole load of stuff I wanted to tell her last night. I was going to send it to her in an email. I feel like even if she doesn't want to be with me right now, at least she will know how I feel and I wont be torchered by not saying anything. But at the same time I don't want to stress her out or mess with her head. But I just feel like I need her to know. Should I just send it and see what happens? Or what should I do? I love her I want her back

gerrycollins · 30-01-2010 11:47pm

dont send the mail.

if the oppertunity arrises just make contact and arrange to meet in a nice quiet place and tell her plain and simple that you still love her and you realise your mistakes in the past and that you want to give it another go if she wants to.

however and big personal experience on this one if she says no then walk away and dont look back. dont mess either of your heads with maybe's,mights and wishes just move on.

littlefriend · 30-01-2010 11:52pm

Just ring her and tell her how you feel.

Miller Boy · 31-01-2010 11:00am

If you don't send the email or contact her soon to tell her how you really feel, you may regret it. The longer you leave it, the harder it'll be for both of you. And you'd really kick yourself if she falls for someone else in the meantime.

LegacyUser · 31-01-2010 11:46pm

thanks guys, its the op here. I am meeting her this week. wish me luck now =]

Wacker · 01-02-2010 8:17pm

991191 wrote: »

thanks guys, its the op here. I am meeting her this week. wish me luck now =]

Good luck!

LegacyUser · 01-02-2010 8:45pm

Hi OP,

Firstly, I commend you in meeting up with this lady to say what you gotta say. A lot of men wouldn't be able to do this. Please, for your own sake:
-look/smell your best
-be yourself
-be fun
-do not be melancholy
-do not beg her for the relationship
-say what you must say in a confident way

The only reason I say this, is to try and help. If she should not want to continue the relationship, accept it, and DO NOT try to beg, or ask why. If you act nonchalant about it, she may want you soon in the future.

To get what you really want and love, u gotta pay the price of risking rejection. Safety has no place with dreams!

GOOD LUCK, WE ARE ALL ROOTING FOR YOU!!

D.I. Magnum

Should I send the mail

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