My first 'dear john' letter

chughes

After a year of being out of work and applying for countless jobs, I finally received my first 'dear john' letter on Friday. Up to that, I never heard anything from any of the places I applied to. Even though I was being turned down for this particular job, in a perverse way it was nice to get any form of letter.
It really is a sad state of affairs when a 'dear john' letter is almost something to be welcomed. Has anyone else had the same experience ?

MarkR

I suppose it's a form of acknowledgment at least.

Btw, if you are a guy, you've just outed yourself.

A "Dear John letter" is a letter written to a husband or boyfriend to inform him their relationship is over, usually because the author has found another lover. Dear John Letters are often written out of an inability or unwillingness to inform the man in person. The reverse situation, in which someone writes to their wife or girlfriend to break off the relationship, is referred to as a "Dear Jane letter".

Congrats!

I used to call those letters PFO's

2manyconditions

I've had experience of both highs and lows from FO's.

When I first applied for a job in my field, the first FO I got (I don't acknowledge the Please bit) was so disappointing, I didn't apply again for ages.

Now when I get an FO, I feel the same as you do. Even just an enquiry about my CV motivates further hunting. But be warned too many FO's can put you in a low. Keep positive focus on the end result.

Anyway hope you get something soon.

Mylesie

MarkR wrote: »

I suppose it's a form of acknowledgment at least.

Btw, if you are a guy, you've just outed yourself.



Congrats!

I used to call those letters PFO's

I used to call those letters PFO's

Who's outing who here - in the plural even!

Mylesie

chughes wrote: »

After a year of being out of work and applying for countless jobs, I finally received my first 'dear john' letter on Friday. Up to that, I never heard anything from any of the places I applied to. Even though I was being turned down for this particular job, in a perverse way it was nice to get any form of letter.
It really is a sad state of affairs when a 'dear john' letter is almost something to be welcomed. Has anyone else had the same experience ?

As someone who lived through the late 50's and early 60's in the north of Ireland I can still remember the feelings - despite work being available it was only available for certain people but stick with it. Whats that expression about not letting the wotsits grind you down?

Sephiroth_dude

I've gotten a few of those but not many.

Mylesie

Sephiroth_dude wrote: »

I've gotten a few of those but not many.

I believe in the old adage: "if it's for you, it won't go by you." Cheers

majiktripp

I got one of these recently, a PFO as I used to call them also, however this one was very well put together.
The guy who was letting me know I didnt get the position was polite, offered sympathy with not being offered the position, gave me the reason(s) why I wasn't considered and mentioned an area where he thought I should do some training if possible as it might help with future applications.
This is what a thanks, but no thanks, email should contain , andas the OP mentioned above it actually brightened up my day a tiny amount and took the edge of it being an outright Please F*** Off!.

Mylesie

There's still a decent one about then. Great

tenchi-fan

I got one when I applied to a bank after leaving college, and another from the gardai after not getting through stage 2 of their recruitment process (i don't think i was a serious candidate anyway)

I got most jobs I applied for,although after starting some of them I would have preferred a pfo.

From what i gather most places don't even bother sending out letters now. I can understand the cost saving of not sending letters, but they should at least reply to emails saying "we have no suitable positions at this time."

Mylesie

tenchifan wrote: »

I got one when I applied to a bank after leaving college, and another from the gardai after not getting through stage 2 of their recruitment process (i don't think i was a serious candidate anyway)

I got most jobs I applied for,although after starting some of them I would have preferred a pfo.

From what i gather most places don't even bother sending out letters now. I can understand the cost saving of not sending letters, but they should at least reply to emails saying "we have no suitable positions at this time."

In my day they all had "enclose stamped address envelope" why in the name of whatsits I don't know, they never had the courtesy to use one!!!