The Friend Zone

Pedro K

So we all had a read of tom's thread about a girl he likes, hope all goes well tom!

And there were numerous mentions of that dreaded area known as the friend zone. Its damn near impossible to get out once condemned to it.

I want to know, how many of you have ever successfully (sic) transcended the friend zone?

I've only ever managed it on one occasion, and that particular relationship didn't work out!

So who's managed to get out of the friend zone (in a good way)?

Tristram

Break up with your friend and then have make-up sex.












this will only help you get laid, you will not get a "relationship" out of it, but who wants one of them anyway?

define good wayre-edit:

Cookie_Monster

Saw this on the title page an presumed it was Brummy announcing he has been sent there.

Is there still hope?

phasers

Catch a girl on one of her fat days, get her drunk and you're in like flynn

Kiera

phasers wrote: »

Catch a girl on one of her fat days, get her drunk and you're in like flynn

You said i was cuddly

super_furry

I've done it, but it wasn't my doing - it was hers - so I don't know if it counts. We were friends for about five years, I kinda fancied her at first but never did anything and as time went on we were cool just being mates. Then one night out the two of us kinda got seperated from everyone else, she jumped me and told me she had wanted to do it for ages. I'd no idea but it was cool. We split up about a year later and drifted apart.

SV

Yep. And back into friend zone again cos it wasn't that great.

Gone Drinking

I was in the friend zone with my current girlfriend, originally. I came all over that friend zone after half a year of friendship. Together over three years now.

Biggins

I managed to get out of it but it took a while, a change of career and a new perspective of myself as viewed by the other person.

GavRedKing

Its impossible, and there is nothing worse then when your doing all the ground work and get nowhere because it would be "weird". B0llocks to weird i say

az2wp0sye65487

'Tis a vicious cycle really....

Generally if you like someone you want to spend time with them. When relegated to 'The Friend Zone' you still like them so therefore keep spending time with them.... Thus re-enforcing the ever-growing friendship!!!

The only way out is to become distant, aloof, mysterious! This will re-ignite the initial spark that she had in you, and you can make your move...


There, I've just saved a lot of you months, if not YEARS of self inflicted frustration & torture.


You're Welcome.

Tristram

gavredking wrote: »

Its impossible, and there is nothing worse then when your doing all the ground work and get nowhere because it would be "weird". B0llocks to weird i say

In fairness doing with someone suffering from gigantism is going to be weird for anyone I would think. Unless they are into that sort of thing. Which is fair enough. I'm not judging...

Gone Drinking

phasers wrote: »

Catch a girl on one of her fat days

For some girls, that's everyday.. i call them, fat girls.

and yes, even they need love.

Wazdakka

Says it all really..

we'llallhavetea_old

Kiera wrote: »

You said i was cuddly

haha! feckin brilliant

pennylane22

I don't know it seems quite common for couples to be friends before they get it together, some of the best realtionships I know of have started that way.

bonerm

Gone Drinking wrote: »

For some girls, that's everyday.. i call them, fat girls.

and yes, even they need love.

Plus the bigger the cushion, the sweeter the pushin'

PopUp

pennylane22 wrote: »

I don't know it seems quite common for couples to be friends before they get it together, some of the best realtionships I know of have started that way.

Yep. I think guys who get stuck in the 'Friend Zone' get stuck there because they don't actually want to be friends, they want to get in the girl's pants and being a 'Friend' is a way to have the shadow of the romantic relationship they want. Girls do take advantage of it but honestly in every case I've ever seen, the guy asked for it. If you want to go out with someone, ask them out, and if they say no, move on to other fish in the sea. Nobody ever got laid for pity. Well okay maybe they did, but it's bloody rare and it's better to have a year of self-respect than a year of mooning after someone who doesn't like you until you get a pity shag.

Actually being friends though - as in, you don't want to be someone's boyfriend, you don't mind seeing them with other fellas, you just have a laugh with them - can be an excellent foundation for a relationship for certain personalities. Some people swear they'd never make the jump, but I've seen some great relationships kick off that way.

Wazdakka wrote: »

Says it all really..

It really does :D

ejmaztec

If all else fails, there's always the sibling zone to get out of.

Dartz

I don't even have an friends....

So no.

Jay P

It can be a good thing. Being friends with a girl can give you invaluable insight into the minds of other girls and the way they think, hence giving you a better chance of getting into other, potentially hotter, girls' pants.

brummytom

/awaits answers hopefully

ejmaztec

Jay P wrote: »

It can be a good thing. Being friends with a girl can give you invaluable insight into the minds of other girls and the way they think, hence giving you a better chance of getting into other, potentially hotter, girls' pants.

Unless that girl happens to have given birth to you.




Did you see the way that I avoided saying Yore Ma in this post? ...oh sh1t.

Abi

Yeah, some relationships have grown from friendships. I like that you can see someones good and bad qualities from this angle. It's not right stringing a guy along, so if its only going to be just that for me I'd find a way of making it known without being a bitch about it.

I speak generally here; certainly the guys I'm friends with - they are great for a laugh and are really good guys, and I've always had more male than female friends. But theres something about this friends-with-a-woman scenario that bothers some guys every now and again. It could be just a look you catch that says "just once, to get it out of my system then we're game ball" =P


*prays another woman noticed this*


But the bottom line is, a lot of women probably dismiss their male friends as nothing but, but maybe the one shes looking could be a bit closer than she thinks. Though I've never crossed over the friends line unless I knew that it could get past just frustration, it will only wreck a friendship otherwise. I think its kinda cool when it works out though

justaday

ive always been of the mind that i want to be in relationship becoz i really like that person. in a relationship or just friends its all the one i think..ok without the perks but meh

liah

I've never been in the Friend Zone. I have put guys in the Friend Zone before, though.. quite knowingly. But you can't help who you're into and who you're not.

Is the Friend Zone just a guy thing? Have any girls ever been put there? Strange concept to me.

Pittens

some of the best realtionships I know of have started that way.

possibly, although I bet that those relationships may have not been the closest of friends in the first case.

Ask yourself this: it is a time of easiness between the sexes but how many people are going out with long time friends? There is a element to the female pysch which makes the chase interesting, and the guy on the white horse will not be at work, but will turn up at the club, pub, party and be more appealing than workaday Bob however nice Bob is, and however charming he seems to people new to work. Bob is dull, and there everyday. Bob is everyday.

There is a girl I used to work with who had terrible relationships. She continually complained about the type of guy she met. There were genuinely nice, attractive, and normal ( and well paid) single guys at work - I can say that not being single - whom she liked but not in that sense. They were friends. Decent chaps, yes....

Anyway one day she comes in on Monday all happy after meeting a guy ( must have been a pub or club since we never met him before). Later we find he was the sleaziest guy ever. Had she worked with him nothing would have happened I am guessing.

Dunno what is happening now but at least Mr. Sleazy made the move, I suppose, and wasnt a bit of everyday. For that reason, guys shouldnt bother with the friends thing.

Be friendly, ask a girl you work with ( or socialise with) out ( specifically on a date) when you get to know her a bit. Take no for an answer. Move on.

brummytom

Cookie_Monster wrote: »

Saw this on the title page an presumed it was Brummy announcing he has been sent there.

Is there still hope?

Course there is!


/blind optimism

cian1500ww

It's either a relationship or nothing with me, to hell with 'the friend zone'.

Conor108

Did Brummy succeeed?

bonerm

liah wrote: »

Is the Friend Zone just a guy thing? Have any girls ever been put there?

Sure, ugly ones.

extra-ordinary_

I became friends with a girl who I could have hooked up with in the beginning but I really only wanted to be friends.

We became best friends and after 3 years I told her I was mad about her and wanted more. She wanted us to just be friends but a month or two later she jumped me and we were together after that for 5 years. Pity it ended:(