Men Who Cry

Shivers26

I was just reading a thread over on Relationship Issues about mens reactions to women crying and I was just wondering what are your thoughts when its the other way around.

Ladies - how do you feel about men crying?
Men - are you criers? What makes you cry?

Just to get things started my last bf was a massive crier. He bawled his eyes out both times we saw Riverdance (citing patriotism as the reason), he bawled watching The Notebook and he cried when our son was born (although I'd let him away with that one). At first I thought it was sweet that he was so sensitive, then I thought it was a little odd and eventually I just got used to it! In general though I like my men to be men.

bonerm

A kick in the balls ... or a facekick.

anniehoo

I dont care if they cry (better out than in and all that)..just dont do it in front of me!!:p

emeraldstar

Not unless it was really called for: death or injury or something. Otherwise, no.

Tchaikovsky

"Ray, I'm a big, strapping truck-driving bodybuilder but I'm in tears after hearing that last piece"

Xluna

Shivers26 wrote: »

In general though I like my men to be men.

What does that even mean?

Quazzie

Crying at Riverdance.

I'm assuming you are no longer together because he finally owned up that he has teh ghey.

alwaysadub

I don't mind a man crying in front of me over something emotional or something. But crying at something like Riverdance i would find a tad strange!!

Wazdakka

Pffft.. Whinging pussies tbh..

In a sign of my true manliness I soldered my tear-ducts closed when I was 7.

EL_Loco

yawn, been done, go find it.

pickarooney

Shivers26 wrote: »

He bawled his eyes out both times we saw Riverdance,

This is one situation where I could legitimise tears. TWICE? Christ Jesus...

IM0

Onions - actually they dont even.

Death of a pet
Marriage of son/daughter
Ireland winning the world cup


/only legitimate reasons.

Captain_Generic

Noodle armed pansies, i sweat beer, shìt steaks and wipe my ass with a chainsaw

The only time i will ever cry is when i see The Expendables, due to sheer manly awesomness

3hn2givr7mx1sc

I cry over manly things like sporting events and such.:P
Never over something like X Factor though.:o

ScumLord

emeraldstar wrote: »

Not unless it was really called for: death or injury or something. Otherwise, no.

Dog dying, only valid excuse there is.

Elessar

As much as they would try to have us believe otherwise, women hate men crying.

Admit it lads, if you cried in front of your gf she would dump you, or at the very least, see you as a lesser man.

Xluna

I often wonder is the sexist attitudes exhibited here part of the reason why there is so many suicides and mental issues,depression and alcohol dependence amongst Irish men,especially the younger ones.
Expressing said emotions is frowned upon by society,so other coping mechanisms are employed to deal with grief ect.

pickarooney

Xluna wrote: »

I often wonder is the sexist attitudes exhibited here part of the reason why there is so many suicides and mental issues,depression and alcohol dependence amongst Irish men,especially the younger ones.
Expressing said emotions is frowned upon by society,so other coping mechanisms are employed to deal with grief ect.

I think a lot of them do it because they don't get sarcasm.

Mimikyu

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Hogzy

Death Of a Loved one
Death Of a pet
Watching Marley and me
Being Hurt.
Being so drunk that you bleed alcohol from your eyes!

Mimikyu

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brummytom

Death of a close friend/relative. Then and only then.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

Shivers26 wrote: »

I was just reading a thread over on Relationship Issues about mens reactions to women crying and I was just wondering what are your thoughts when its the other way around.

Ladies - how do you feel about men crying?
Men - are you criers? What makes you cry?

Just to get things started my last bf was a massive crier. He bawled his eyes out both times we saw Riverdance (citing patriotism as the reason), he bawled watching The Notebook and he cried when our son was born (although I'd let him away with that one). At first I thought it was sweet that he was so sensitive, then I thought it was a little odd and eventually I just got used to it! In general though I like my men to be men.

PLEASE tell me you're joking?!

Hogzy

Captain Morgan wrote: »

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It all depends on whether or not your a dog lover and whether or not you have had a pet that you loved that died.

I did and i cried, its the only time iv ever shed a tear for a movie

tech77

alwaysadub wrote: »

But crying at something like Riverdance i would find a tad strange!!

Some people just find it excruciating to watch i suppose.

GLaDOS

Deleted User wrote: »

Ireland winning the world cup

I never really got the whole tears of joy thing, tears of laughter yeah, but I can't comprehend why you would cry because something good happened? Unless it was a matter of (literal) life and death I suppose.

RobbieTheRobber

Xluna wrote: »

I often wonder is the sexist attitudes exhibited here part of the reason why there is so many suicides and mental issues,depression and alcohol dependence amongst Irish men,especially the younger ones.
Expressing said emotions is frowned upon by society,so other coping mechanisms are employed to deal with grief ect.

By coping methods you mean drinking yeah?

seanybiker

Would never cry over a movie or some fella scoring a goal or anything gay like that.
Death of a family member or good friend and I would probably ball me eyes out. Oh last orders sometimes upsets me alright.

My name is URL

I don't cry, even when people close to me have died.

Dunno why it is, I felt deeply upset and everything but no tears.. maybe I'm just unable to express that much emotion

ScumLord

Hogzy wrote: »

Being Hurt.

The correct male response to pain is anger and violence (the modern man restricts his violence to inanimate objects). Actually the correct male response to just about everything is anger.

greendom

Seems to be a preponderance of hung up attitudes here - if you feel the need to cry, cry. There's no wrong or right

Ridley

Quazzie wrote: »

Crying at Riverdance.

I'm assuming you are no longer together because he finally owned up that he has teh ghey.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KGzeC9IaGLc

I'd say it depends on context but the OP makes him sound like Brendan Fraser's wish to be more sensitive in Bedazzled.

Odysseus

Xluna wrote: »

I often wonder is the sexist attitudes exhibited here part of the reason why there is so many suicides and mental issues,depression and alcohol dependence amongst Irish men,especially the younger ones.
Expressing said emotions is frowned upon by society,so other coping mechanisms are employed to deal with grief ect.

I think there is something to your point, but I see men cry quite a few times every week. However, that is because I work as a psychotherapist. Generally the mask goes back on when they leave the room.

However, there does need to be a balance on it, expressing ones thoughts, feelings and emotions is healthly. However, there are also times when you just have to deal with the situation, when that is done you can deal with whatever needs to be addressed.

ColmDawson

Shivers26 wrote: »

I like my men to be men.

Sentiments like this don't exactly promote a healthy collective male psyche.

Xluna

ScumLord wrote: »

The correct male response to pain is anger and violence (the modern man restricts his violence to inanimate objects). Actually the correct male response to just about everything is anger.

Good to see such open mindedness on AH. Did you also know that all women react to pain with mind games and cannot think logically,that all gay men love the Wizard of Oz and hate sports and all lesbians are seven foot tall and play Rugby?:rolleyes:

Augmerson

I cried at the end of Brokeback Mountain...."I swear Jack , I swear."

windowlicker

Hogzy wrote: »

Watching Marley and me

glad im not the only one

Little Acorn

Shivers26 wrote: »

I was just reading a thread over on Relationship Issues about mens reactions to women crying and I was just wondering what are your thoughts when its the other way around.

Ladies - how do you feel about men crying?
Men - are you criers? What makes you cry?

Just to get things started my last bf was a massive crier. He bawled his eyes out both times we saw Riverdance (citing patriotism as the reason), he bawled watching The Notebook and he cried when our son was born (although I'd let him away with that one). At first I thought it was sweet that he was so sensitive, then I thought it was a little odd and eventually I just got used to it! In general though I like my men to be men.

It would depend on how often/easily they cried,the same as with girls.
I mean,I would take less notice of a guy or girl who regularly cried crocodile tears in an effort to seek attention,or guys or girls who just always cried when drunk,just wouldn't pass much heed of them.
However,if it was a person who wasn't a regular crier or had a very good reason to cry,they would have my full attention and I would do my absolute best to comfort them,or just listen to their problems.
I don't really have a problem with guys (or girls) crying the odd time for sentimental reasons,relationship reasons,or just something they feel passionate about.
I Don't like the "men don't cry" line,-as although someone who was extremely over-sensitive(like crying everyday) would bore me,
I would much prefer to occasionally witness some genuine emotion in people,than to think of them as "robot-like".
I know some people don't have to actually cry to express emotion,just saying that it is one display of emotion that I don't have a problem with,if happening for understandable reasons.
Happy tears are the best though!:)

Taco Corp

Xluna wrote: »

What does that even mean?

It means he needs to have a stick in the shed purely for stirring paint.

DazMarz

I cry over serious emotional things:

-break up of a relationship

-Dublin getting beaten by Mayo (2006), Tyrone (2008) and Kerry (2009) and many other times but those ones stick in my mind as being really bad.

-Chelsea losing big matches; key ones I remember quite clearly are Champions League Final 2008 (heart ripped in half at that one), Champions League Semi-Final 2009 (heart thrown into a blender and someone hit ''Gooify'').

-Remembering Dublin winning the 1995 All-Ireland Final... Seven years old and I didn't cry then... But whenever I think of it now, it makes me tear up a little.

-Chelsea lift the Premiership Trophy for the first time (and win England's Top Flight League for the second time) in 2005. And repeat said feat 12 months later.

As you can see, matches involving either of my Beloved Blues can cause me to blubber (and recently it has been unfortunately for the wrong reasons). Sporting events (and relationships breaking up) are perfectly acceptable for men to cry over. Other than that...... up for debate.

Cool Running

After the events that happened to these man, I believe they were well justified in crying
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DB10

Funerals always bring tears to my eye. I don't bawl my eyes out though like some women do, I try to keep it in if it isn't somone close.

I hate them...:(

Bar that I would never do it in front of anyone though. Although I have done so due to relationship issues, and even watching some films...:pac:

It is good to have a cry once in a while IMO.

Hank_Jones

I honestly can't remember the last time I cried, I do get a bit misty eyed watching certain films though.

There's a scene in the film Cry Freedom in which thousands of children are prostesting against having to learn afrikaans and the police open fire, killing hundreds. Based on a true story. So that sort of thing would get to me alright and I start to feel slightly moist around the eyes.
It's just films get to me though, I don't know what it is about them.

I've never cried after a sporting victory, I'd probably balls my eyes out if Dublin won an All Ireland though.

AnonoBoy

Some of those Barry's Tea ads can really choke me up.

Odysseus

greendom wrote: »

Seems to be a preponderance of hung up attitudes here - if you feel the need to cry, cry. There's no wrong or right

Your right of course, but since this is AH, instead of my original post, maybe I should have posted about the way we laugh about making people cry in sessions, or the special abrasive tissues we offer to the ones we classify as whingers, or the that all we really do at therapeutic congresses is joke about our patients.

Liam Byrne

Shivers26 wrote: »

In general though I like my men to be men.

What exactly is this supposed to mean ?

No cooking, cleaning, baby-minding, listening, understanding or crying ?

Or is there just a particular subset of those that doesn't suit you, while the others come in handy ?

Sheesh! No wonder us guys haven't a clue what goes on in women's heads!

I like "my" women to be women, too........but I just wish it didn't involve going mental over stupid little things and watching rubbish chick-flicks or x-factor.

Shivers26

Colm Dawson wrote: »

Sentiments like this don't exactly promote a healthy collective male psyche.

Maybe I should qualify the statement a little bit. I dont have a problem with men crying as such, but for legitimate reasons. Riverdance will never be a legitimate reason. Dog/friend/close loved one dying = legitimate reason. Ireland winning World Cup = legitimate reason (dream on).

And no, the ex didn't have the ghey, he was a strapping 6ft soldier but bless him, he could cry for Ireland.

I actually remember my brother crying when his dog had pups but he was pretty pissed at the time.

Dr. Baltar

The only time I have ever cried properly is when my mother kicked me out when I was 10. I never knew my Dad either and well, the next door neighbour was a complete dope.... the only thing that kept me going was my dream to become a pokemon master.

AnonoBoy

Liam Byrne wrote: »

What exactly is this supposed to mean ?

No cooking, cleaning, baby-minding, listening, understanding or crying ?

Or is there just a particular subset of those that doesn't suit you, while the others come in handy ?

Sheesh! No wonder us guys haven't a clue what goes on in women's heads!

I like "my" women to be women, too........but I just wish it didn't involve going mental over stupid little things and watching rubbish chick-flicks or x-factor.

Maybe she means she doesn't want to go out with a guy and then find out he's actually a woman or something.

AckwelFoley

yea. cried about an hour ago.

d'ol depression has me by the scrotum at the mo.