what's for you will not go by you?

leahyl

My mum always says this. Who here has this proved to be true for? I'm having one of those moments in my life where i hope this phrase is true!:)

Xiney

Being passive and waiting for things to come my way isn't how I work.

If something isn't working out I'll drop it but if everyone just sat around on their bottoms waiting for prince charming or a career to drop out of the sky the human race would be extinct.

Crumble Froo

i prefer the line that 'fate is what you make of it'.

im quite happy in my life at the moment, but there's a hundred and one different ways my life could have gone at different times, and i strongly suspect i would still be happy in those different scenarios. i think that some things do only come by once, while others do seem to keep popping their heads up. certainly some themes in people's lives seem to be recurring, like a bus that keeps going past till you eventually decide to take it.

Fink Goddie

leahyl wrote: »

My mum always says this. Who here has this proved to be true for? I'm having one of those moments in my life where i hope this phrase is true!:)

Its one of those phrases people make up to make themselves feel better!

leahyl

Xiney wrote: »

Being passive and waiting for things to come my way isn't how I work.

If something isn't working out I'll drop it but if everyone just sat around on their bottoms waiting for prince charming or a career to drop out of the sky the human race would be extinct.

Well i guess if you have the confidence to go for something then this phrase doesn't have much meaning but i would be quite shy when it comes to certain affairs of the heart so i guess that's why i like it! It is the case though sometimes.....

Das Kitty

My Mam usually wheels this out after a let down. Like when I was job hunting years ago and not even getting replies. If you think about it, it means nothing. No matter what you do or don't do, things will happen to you, opportunities will arise (if not the same ones). Think it's more of a "chin up and keep going" message really. The job I ended up getting that time nearly had me in the psych ward. Mam said: "Everything happens for a reason." LOL

Novella

I am an absolute pessimist so I dunno about this. I'm not really sure if everything is all set out for us. I think things just happen depending on all of the millions of split second decisions we make tbh.

scatterpillar

If you believe that things will happen the way they were somehow preordained to, then what's the point in even trying?

You're "meant" to get that promotion? Then why bother working hard, it's either "for" you or not, whatever you do or don't do isn't going to make a difference.

You're "meant" to end up with a certain guy? So why make your own decisions about what's best for you, just go with the flow, let him make all the decisions about where your relationship goes, no point in fighting it.

It's just such a passive approach. And I think that people who believe that sort of thing will always, eventually, look back and say "Oh wow, where I am now is clearly where I was meant to end up all along" - without realising that they could easily have been just as happy or even happier with any one of several other outcomes.

SeekUp

Yeah, nice sentiment, but I wouldn't make it my mantra, that's for sure! If you're lucky enough where something thats "for you" actually passes your way, it's not going sit there and wait for you to get it together. You'd better hop on board when you get a chance, that's what I think . . .

EL_Loco

I tell ya I will win that lotto, not even going to buy a ticket.