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Is this going behind friends back??

  • 19-01-2010 6:40pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I'm going to keep this as short as possible. A close friend in college was meeting a girl for a while, they only ever kissed a few times. I was introduced to her on a night out and got talking to her for ages, had loads in common etc.

    After a 2 weeks my friend stopped contacting her but i continued to chat to her on Facebook etc. After I told him that he should stay with her because she was really nice he said he didn't want a GF in college and said jokingly that I like her more than he does!

    So a month on and it has became clear that she likes me from hints she has dropped (she has told me that I'm hot a few times) so we decided to meet up for coffee. I like her too btw. We'd a really nice time and spoke about our mutual friend she said she liked him but now thinks he's weird for not showing any interest in her and doesn't care about him anymore.

    My problem is that I'm wondering would it be bad form to get closer than "friends" with this girls, she said she'd liked to meet up with me again. Should I clear it with my friend first?

    Thanks people!


Comments

  • #2
    MIN2511
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,398 ✭✭✭MIN2511


    Talk to your friend, see what he says....

    That shouldn't stop you pursuing a relationship with this girl but just let your mate know before he finds out...


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Thanks for that! Will do :)


  • #4
    unattendedbag
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 456 ✭✭unattendedbag


    Depends on how close a friend he is. If he's a close friend or best friend then have a quick word and say ur interested in her and hope he doesnt mind. More than likely he wont give a damn especially if he's the one who lost interest in her.


  • #5
    kittenkiller
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,433 ✭✭✭kittenkiller


    Have a chat with him about it.
    Ask if he's stopped pay her as much attention due to what you said to him before about liking her more (I doubt he would, but it would be nice to know for sure).

    I'm sure he'll be cool about it.
    Try not to make too big a deal about the whole thing, it can put way too much pressure on you and the relationship.

    Best of luck! :)


  • #6
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Thanks again people :)

    And it was actually him that said (in jest) that I like her more than he does.

    Ya I won't make a big deal out of it but because he's a very close friend I'll say it to him before anything else happens.


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