He got with so her fast

LegacyUser

I'm so depressed right now. Basically, I was going out with a guy for 2 years. I was in love with him but deep down knew we weren't right for each other. Things started going downhill mid-2008, and it all ended in November 2008 when I found out he'd cheated on me and lied repeatedly about it.

He said how sorry he was, that he'd learned his lesson, that he'd stay away from girls and have time to get his head together. We met up regularly until I left the country in March last year. I even stayed in his bed a few times (nothing 'happened' but there was dirty talk etc).

I found out last June that he had a new girlfriend, I thought it was a bit soon, but I couldn't hold it against him, I knew he had the right to move on etc. Well, yesterday I found out from a mutual friend that they got together about a week after I dumped him. Meaning they were together the times I visited him and stayed over (he said he wasn't with anyone). He even sent me a text on Valentines Day wishing me a happy Valentines Day. Yet he had a girlfriend the whole time!!

I feel so betrayed and so stupid that he fooled me again. Not only did he cheat on me but he got with a different girl not even a week after we broke up over said cheating (I was devastated). It's not even like that girl was a fling, seeing as they're together over a year now. I guess I should be happy that he's her problem now and not mine, but I'm so down over it.

kjl

bit of a rant, but here is the outcome.

You're better off without him.

That_Guy

Your ex sounds like a horrible person and as the poster above said, you're better off without him.

thinks too much

I believe you know your better off without him but its understandable how ****ty it makes you feel finding out now what a dick he was. don't get too down about it. he is not worth the effort at this stage..

Sephiroth_dude

Your better off without him,dont contact him anymore and if he tries to contact you by or txt or call you ignore it.

Bonito

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I'm so depressed right now. Basically, I was going out with a guy for 2 years. I was in love with him but deep down knew we weren't right for each other.

If you knew in your heart you should break up then maybe this is all for the best.

He said how sorry he was, that he'd learned his lesson, that he'd stay away from girls and have time to get his head together. We met up regularly until I left the country in March last year. I even stayed in his bed a few times (nothing 'happened' but there was dirty talk etc).

In seeing you and allowing you to stay in his bed and "talk dirty" wasn't keeping him away from girls to get his head right. He was obviously still thinking sex sex sex.

I found out last June that he had a new girlfriend, I thought it was a bit soon, but I couldn't hold it against him, I knew he had the right to move on etc. Well, yesterday I found out from a mutual friend that they got together about a week after I dumped him. Meaning they were together the times I visited him and stayed over (he said he wasn't with anyone). He even sent me a text on Valentines Day wishing me a happy Valentines Day. Yet he had a girlfriend the whole time!!

It is very soon to move on from what is seen as a serious relationship. Although seeing as he was cheating on you and messing about then both of these factors would point out he was never really serious about you two and he was nothing but a dirty, rotten, lying piece of scum.

I feel so betrayed and so stupid that he fooled me again. Not only did he cheat on me but he got with a different girl not even a week after we broke up over said cheating (I was devastated). It's not even like that girl was a fling, seeing as they're together over a year now. I guess I should be happy that he's her problem now and not mine, but I'm so down over it.

So he is now with the girl he was cheating on you with? I'd be stretching to ask your mutual friend does his now GF know about you and him and he was having her on the side while in a relationship with you. You're allowed be upset and feel betrayed at this moment in time. He hurt you and then while he was off having his jolly's with her he was pretending to be your friend. He's gone now and you should let him know he is never welcome to speak to you again as all he does is lie through his teeth to you and mess you around.

You've done right by yourself in dumping his sorry arse. Hopefully this new girl will realise it and toss him off too. If and when she does make sure you don't make yourself available as the shoulder to cry on as I'm sure he'll have another girl in the wings waiting for him!

Overall just steer clear of him Op and don't get upset over him. He's nothing but dirt and you deserve an awful lot better than him.