My nose is bent!

LegacyUser

Hi, I am a 21 year old male and I am pretty happy about how I look in general. Ok I could be taller, darker etc but gotta love what the good lord gave ya Anyway I'm not really vain or anything (really!) and I dont spend loads of time in front of the mirror but I have always been concious of my bent nose. Nobody has every said it to me apart from my brother so I am sure it is not too noticeable but I always notice it in photos and in annoys me.

I looked back at photos of me as a kid and my nose was straight but somewhere along the line it became bent. I never broke it or anything and have only been ever hit once (not too hard) so don't know how it even became bent. If I turn my head one way my nose looks normal but when I tilt my head in the other direction it looks ugly. I know I shouldn't obsess about things like this but I would love if it was straight as my self esteem would be higher. I wouldn't consider plastic surgery or anything like that but I am wondering if there would be an easier more standard procedure of just straightening the nose back in to place. Am not looking for medical advice on here of course but just wondering if anybody has had a similar experience with their nose?

Kevster

Actually - yes - I knoew what you're talking about because my nose is slightly crooked (not in the thieving sense...) too. Do I care? - Not one bit. You should be proud of who you are and not let anything about your physical and mental being upset you. As yuo've said too, it's not really noticeable (as judged by the fact that only your bro has commented).

In my case, my ex girlfriend and all of her friends commented on it, but I honestly didn't give a damn. Mine is crooked because I weas punched in the face.

Kevin

Pinkpuppy

I wouldn't worry too much about this. I cant ever remember noticing a guys nose as such when i look at them,also i think it gives some guys a unique look. Plenty of celebs out there with a crooked nose. Dont worry and if u meet a girl that does worry about it then you know straight away she's not worth it!

barleybooley

Hi OP,
My nose has been crooked since I fell off a wall when I was 3, it veers to the right and is unbelievably noticeable in photographs if I'm looking straight on. There is also a bit of bone that sticks a little. The thing is though, nobody cares especially not my other half. I'd never dream of getting it straightened because it's not a big deal. Now I'm going to let you in on a little secret of us girls: Chicks dig faults, really we do, scars, wonky noses, the lot, so don't sweat it! I suppose if it did bother you that much you'd probably have to get it broken and reset but I can't imagine it'd be worth it.

Hope this helps!

LegacyUser

barleybooley wrote: »

Hi OP,
My nose has been crooked since I fell off a wall when I was 3, it veers to the right and is unbelievably noticeable in photographs if I'm looking straight on. There is also a bit of bone that sticks a little. The thing is though, nobody cares especially not my other half. I'd never dream of getting it straightened because it's not a big deal. Now I'm going to let you in on a little secret of us girls: Chicks dig faults, really we do, scars, wonky noses, the lot, so don't sweat it! I suppose if it did bother you that much you'd probably have to get it broken and reset but I can't imagine it'd be worth it.

Hope this helps!

Thanks, yeah I think I obsess about it way too much. I really need to just practise not thinking of it any more. I mean half the guys out there have some distinct nose features. I would never go through the pain of having it broken and re-set as its not that crooked and I'd never live it down if my friends or family found out I got cosmetic surgery! Ha, if anything that would just draw attention to my nose.

alias06

Have a look at this: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_dismorphic_disorder

LegacyUser

alias06 wrote: »

Have a look at this: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_dismorphic_disorder

Wow, this actually made a lot of sense to me and I think I suffer from this disorder. Some of the reading was like it was written about me to be honest. The only difference is that I wouldn't have this disorder enough to the point that I would exclude myself from social situations or anything like that but I do constantly obsess over whether or not someone is thinking about any physical facial defects I may have. For example as I mentioned in the OP, I am very concious of my facial appearance from one direction as I feel it accentuates my crooked nose. I also have reservations about my hair which I find very hard to not think about.

I can remember seeing myself on a recorded video tape when I was 17 and I remember it being the first time I noticed some features I was not comfortable with. It is not that I am trying to look perfect or anything and I don't think I am the best looking guy around but I feel that people take up on my defects and I often feel pressured around people I do not know, especially if they are themselves attractive be it male or female. Its more a self esteem thing and it sometimes causes lots of anxiety in me which I hate. For example I've recently also started to obsess about my smile which I feel is weird. This stuff just go's on and on and I always just say to myself that I will grow out of it, but I would really like to do something to help this. Thanks for posting this link, I had no idea that this was a common disorder and I feel a bit better about it now, but still how do I go about working on overcoming this?

banquo

barleybooley wrote: »

Hi OP,
My nose has been crooked since I fell off a wall when I was 3, it veers to the right and is unbelievably noticeable in photographs if I'm looking straight on. There is also a bit of bone that sticks a little. The thing is though, nobody cares especially not my other half. I'd never dream of getting it straightened because it's not a big deal. Now I'm going to let you in on a little secret of us girls: Chicks dig faults, really we do, scars, wonky noses, the lot, so don't sweat it! I suppose if it did bother you that much you'd probably have to get it broken and reset but I can't imagine it'd be worth it.

Hope this helps!

It's a beautiful nose

alias06

Hey, the best book for sufferers of this condition is called The Broken Mirror. Honestly, you'll be amazed to read stories just like your own of people who had no idea there were many others out there going through the exact same thing. The book explains in detail what are the most effective treatments.

You should think about seeing your GP and getting referrals to either a psychologist or psychiatrist or both.

You can break free of this but you need to see it a long-term project. Recovery is something you will have to commit yourself to and work hard at. I would really recommend you see a clinical psychologist. If you can afford it at all it would be money well spent. You can see a clinical psychologist at The Clanwilliam Institute for €110 an hour.

Body dismorphic disorder tends to be chronic without treatment. That is to say it is very unlikely to go away of its own accord. With treatment the prognosis is quite good but as I said it takes time and committment.