Anxiety over casual relationship

LegacyUser

Hi,

So to start I do suffer from anxiety - keep that in mind when you read this so I just want some people opinions.

Basically I went out with somebody for nearly 4 yrs and broke up early last yr. Since then I've kissed a couple of people but nothing more than that.

Before xmas I met a girl and went for a few drinks, met up a few times, maybe twice a week till last week. We have a lot in common but after xmas I just sorta realised that I dunno if I actually liked her that much and also I really feel like I'm not ready to have a relationship as I'm not over the one that ended last yr. If you'd asked me before this I would have said that the number one thing I'd like is a new relationship. But now it just doesn't feel right.

The other day I was hanging out with the girl and I felt so guilty and bad that I just had to tell her that I didn't know if I wanted a serious relationship. She was cool about it and I said I needed to think about it. The next day I told her that I think we should spend a wk or 2 apart and see what happens, even though Im pretty sure that I've made up my mind. She was fine and said we're just getting to know each other and it's still early so its ok to take some time and figure out what I think.

I guess my problem is I'm a worrier and I get very anxious about things, so even though she was ok about it all, instead of just accepting things the way they are or letting things happen I'm thinking things like, "I wonder is she ok" "I hope I haven't hurt her" and just generally overreacting. I guess there's also thoughts of "am I doing the right thing ?", "I'll be alone after and will i regret it then ?" because I do like to have company etc but when I think to the times when we're just sitting talking, just hanging out, I know she's not for me, I dunno why but I find it hard to hold onto that decision afterwards. I know I'm overeacting but I'm not used to this dating/casual thing and just feel bad about it and I'm wondering what people think.

Kiera

Well you said you know she's not for you so you did the right thing by ending it and not wasting anyones time. You'll meet someone when you're ready, dont settle.

LegacyUser

Yeah I know deep down it wouldn't work out and that it's the right thing but I feel so bad about it, that maybe I hurt her, even though we were only together about 6wks, and weren't even actually going out. I'm overreacting right ?