Have You Ever Gotten Back In Contact With An Ex?

El Diablo 101

Hi there folks,
My ex gf broke up with me about 10 weeks ago, and because of this, I broke all contact for the next 10 weeks. I would like to be friends with her again though. Honestly. But I don't know whether I would be hurting her if I tried to.


Have you ever gotten back friends with an ex?

If so, what time period did you give to grieve etc?

Thanks as always folks!

hollis12

El Diablo 101 wrote: »

Hi there folks,
My ex gf broke up with me about 10 weeks ago, and because of this, I broke all contact for the next 10 weeks. I would like to be friends with her again though. Honestly. But I don't know whether I would be hurting her if I tried to.


Have you ever gotten back friends with an ex?

If so, what time period did you give to grieve etc?

Thanks as always folks!

well if she broke up with you do you not think you could be hurting yourself , did you both agree on a break up

unattendedbag

"It depends" is the only fair answer here.
If you left things on good terms and still consider each other friends then yes it should be ok to say hello and make friendly contact. My guess is things didnt end that well if you's have had no contact in 10 weeks.

If it was a painful or emotional break-up then chances are she would not like to hear from you. She may be just getting over you and beginning to move on when a text message or phone call could put her back to square one. You have to ask yourself are you able to seperate your emotions from the relationhip from a possible friendship. Do you ultimately want to get back together or is it strictly just friendship you want with her? Also consider the possibility that she may not want to hear from you. I know its not easy to take but if she's moved on then just let it be. Best of luck.

Virgil°

Hi there mate. If im correct i remember your other thread where you did very well to avoid contacting and stayed strong.
As mentioned by the poster above i think the issue is whether or not you'll be hurting yourself. The one dumped is more often in the position of having their feelings trampled on in the aftermath of a breakup.
As for whether or not its too soon i dont know, because i dont really know you.
10 weeks does seem on the short side but to each their own i suppose.

Ill try set up a scenario for you here so you can hopefully see for yourself if youre fooling yourself or not.
You head out to a night club with your friends,her included(as friends do). She ends up in some random lads arms and they spend most the night there that way. They then get a taxi home by themselves to do all manner of deeds.
How does that make you feel?
Im not trying to be harsh here i just want you to geniunely ascertain how you would feel.

Now ive had both sides of the coin ive been out with friends(girls) who have scored quite literally in front of my face. And apart from the odd time being irked that im not having similar scoring luck , my feelings were fairly neutral.
Ive also had a "recent ex" score in front of me(my sorry arse being the dumped party) and it was not f***ing fun. Gut wrenching in fact.
Which side do you see yourself on?
All the best.

kjl

One of my ex and I broke up, then went on holidays together. We had sex during the holiday to just elevate the pain a bit. But when we came back we both had kinda come to terms with the break up and decided to stay friends, which we did. She is still a friend of mine to this day.

Another time I stayed friends with an ex and it crushed me.

So there is really no answer to you question, I would say let her come to you.

rallye

El Diablo i remember your last post and i cant stress this enough but DO NOT contact her.

I know exactly what you are thinking right now, you think that if you get back in with her as a friend she will see how you have changed, how you would now be the perfect boyfriend for her etc.. bla bla bla

Sorry for being so blunt about this but you CANNOT be friends with her because you still have feelings for her, you need to start admitting this to yourself.

You have done well by not contacting her, dont throw this away be re contacting her because you will be back to square one.

She finished with you so she holds all the cards as to wether ye get back together or not. Also she will know straight away what you are at if you try the old "friend" card..