have to see my ex everyday

LegacyUser

hey,
I went out with my ex gf for 1.5years. broke up at the start of the summer. mutual break up.no hard feelings. probably talked 2/3 times since then. she sent me a "merry xmas" text I sent her a happy new year text. that night she text sayin we should meet up but i think she was drunk. i text her 2 days ago asking does she want a coffee. we're meeting on monday for one.
I know i want a gf. but I dunno if I want her. If she says yes i prob will too. We are in the same class in college so I will see her everyday. It'll prob be awkward at times. she will either see me or I will see her with someone else on a college night out. That wont be easy.

What can i do. I'll prob be polite to her but still want her back. dont know how to react or what to do?

finbarrk

Suppose if you wanted to have sex you could meet her?

Sanjuro

dfghjkloiu7y6 wrote: »

I know i want a gf. but I dunno if I want her. If she says yes i prob will too.

Wow. Sounds like the foundation of a wonderful relationship. :rolleyes:

Here's what you do. Either you go into it 100% or you don't go into it at all. If you have doubts, they'll grow and grow and grow, and you'll end up breaking up again and hating each other. Do both of yourselves a favour. Don't go out with her again.

LegacyUser

Sorry when i said "I know i want a gf. but I dunno if I want her. If she says yes i prob will too." I meant I do want her back but don't want to fall on my face and look like a fool if she doesn't want me.
So that makes my situation crappy because i will see her everyday and that'll just be hard. atm we're can talk to each other without it being awkward. but if I suggest getting back together and she doesn't want to, it'll make college life for us and our many mutual friends very frustrating.
does that make sense?

Ickle Magoo

On the plus side, if you ask and she says no then you have absolute closure and can move on, as you move on things will become less and less awkward. I imagine seeing her every day and a part of you wanting to get back together is stopping you moving on.

jenga-jen

Either way you need to see how she feels and unfortunately this might mean having to let her know how you feel

Best bet is just to go for it and see what happens.

Worst case scenario you tell her and she's not interested, it's only a coffee and you can make your excuses to leave. At least you'll be able to go back to college knowing exactly where you stand and if you meet someone else on a college night out you won't feel the need to protect her by not going for it.

LegacyUser

jenga-jen wrote: »

Either way you need to see how she feels and unfortunately this might mean having to let her know how you feel

Best bet is just to go for it and see what happens.

Worst case scenario you tell her and she's not interested, it's only a coffee and you can make your excuses to leave. At least you'll be able to go back to college knowing exactly where you stand and if you meet someone else on a college night out you won't feel the need to protect her by not going for it.

Easier said than done though. should I just hold out, not say anything and if I feel there is something during the year say something?

wolfpawnat

OP, I live with my ex, and we had a less than amiable break up! Not fun to say the least.

If you dont want to be with her, then don't be.