May be slated for this...

LegacyUser

Right here goes...
Been single for a few months.. was going out with the guy for a year.. pretty horrible breakup.. was absolutely mad about the guy.. took me a few months to even think about kissing anyone else or anything like that...
a few weeks ago during a drunk night in coppers... we all have them lets face it!! I met this dude ok... for like 20 mins max we were kissing and stuff.. we were chatin also and he says to me here... me name is XXX... look me up on facebook.. anyways i went to find my friend who was sick in the club and ended up leaving without the guy..
so the next monday i remembered his name.. well if someone said to you thier names 10 times and said look me up on facebook.. ya prob would.. so i did and i said well feck it ill message him for the craic! and i did.. so anyway.. he gave me his number etc

right so the text banter and phone calls have been going on since before christmas.. i really dont have a romantic interest in him like but really am about the mischief and laugh of been single at the moment.. it turns out after amny conversations.. that this guy is one very very hurt guy.. his ex of 7 years cheated on him and messed his head around...

so basically its flirty texts etc and both of us are not looking for a relationship but he keeps saying stuff to me like.. i should trust him and believe what he tells me and that if i need "entertaining" that he will help me out and as we are in the same boat perhaps it might boost both out ego's after the **** weve both been through etc...
one min hell send fairly bold texts and the next hell say something like "i give great hugs and its the part of a relationship i miss the most" etc etc and he keeps saying oh im looking for more then just sex.. im looking for the intimacy stuff with someone at the moment..and your the one who interests me and we could be good for each other right now..

its confusing.. do you guys reckon hes just looking for an f buddy really?? whats all this intimacy talk etc ??
I havent met up with him since and this is riliing him up and think hes loving the fact that he cant just get into my pants like other girls..

im pretty much going through a **** time at the moment getting over a tough breakup.. this guy is nice.. i like him and could be fun... would it be wrong of me to indulge in a few nights of fun.. or would i be completely lowering myself haha.. im not the one night stand type generally!

stripysocks85

Go for it! If that's what you're both into, and who knows where it might lead. Could be exactly what you both need at the moment.

Remember to stay safe & use precautions however! No harm though in giving things a go!

hollis12

whynot1 wrote: »

Right here goes...
Been single for a few months.. was going out with the guy for a year.. pretty horrible breakup.. was absolutely mad about the guy.. took me a few months to even think about kissing anyone else or anything like that...
a few weeks ago during a drunk night in coppers... we all have them lets face it!! I met this dude ok... for like 20 mins max we were kissing and stuff.. we were chatin also and he says to me here... me name is XXX... look me up on facebook.. anyways i went to find my friend who was sick in the club and ended up leaving without the guy..
so the next monday i remembered his name.. well if someone said to you thier names 10 times and said look me up on facebook.. ya prob would.. so i did and i said well feck it ill message him for the craic! and i did.. so anyway.. he gave me his number etc

right so the text banter and phone calls have been going on since before christmas.. i really dont have a romantic interest in him like but really am about the mischief and laugh of been single at the moment.. it turns out after amny conversations.. that this guy is one very very hurt guy.. his ex of 7 years cheated on him and messed his head around...

so basically its flirty texts etc and both of us are not looking for a relationship but he keeps saying stuff to me like.. i should trust him and believe what he tells me and that if i need "entertaining" that he will help me out and as we are in the same boat perhaps it might boost both out ego's after the **** weve both been through etc...
one min hell send fairly bold texts and the next hell say something like "i give great hugs and its the part of a relationship i miss the most" etc etc and he keeps saying oh im looking for more then just sex.. im looking for the intimacy stuff with someone at the moment..and your the one who interests me and we could be good for each other right now..

its confusing.. do you guys reckon hes just looking for an f buddy really?? whats all this intimacy talk etc ??
I havent met up with him since and this is riliing him up and think hes loving the fact that he cant just get into my pants like other girls..

im pretty much going through a **** time at the moment getting over a tough breakup.. this guy is nice.. i like him and could be fun... would it be wrong of me to indulge in a few nights of fun.. or would i be completely lowering myself haha.. im not the one night stand type generally!

listen ive been on both sides of this, he is a man but a hurt one i had problems with hurt before but with different reasons there is the strong masculine side of him that and like all human beings there seems to be some hurt there, the bold texts like i want to f*ck you ect are true but theres also the lust for compassion like hugs ect because compassion is the healer of all hurts, id say go for it he seems to be a nice chap.

Bonito

Op i'd leave it before it goes any further. He's hurting, you're hurting, he's on a rebound, you may well be on a rebound and someone is going to end up in tears. He's also playing odd's and evens, telling you what you want to hear with all the "it's just harmless fun" but then he's hinting he wants a relationship. You can't have your cake and eat it too unfortunately. When he's saying he misses the intimacy and embracements most from when he was in a relationship he's basically saying "I miss holding my ex close" Because lets face it, unless he has physically cuddled up with you then he wouldn't know if it was your cuddles he missed. He's missing what he did have and is trying to find it elsewhere. Also what's he achieving by telling you about what his ex done to him? A pity vote perhaps? Hoping you'll feel sorry enough to eventually love him beacuse he has had such a **** time and "deserves" to be loved. It's not your fault he was hurt by his ex so don't be pressured into playing a happy relationship with him when you're not ready for one yet yourself.

dublingal80

id leave it op.

Yeah he says he isnt looking for a relationship but the next minute he is talking about hugs and missing that from a relationship. He soooo isnt over his ex, 7 years is a long time to be with someone, so he definitely needs his space. I think the last thing either of you should be doing is meeting up and be a f buddy to eachother and then for that line to get muddled and him to think its turning into a relationship or vice versa. Just keep going out, meet random guys and dont properly see another guy until you are 100% ready to and same with him