no sex for 5 years ?? :(

laura29

ive done 2 so far and im really really !! feelin it now . please can someone tell me if its possible ! hes away for a while and i luv him to bits but i rea;;y miss the male company not just the sex but the snuggling and the company how can i do this for another 3 winters ! any advice appreciated

PaddyInChelsea

laura29 wrote: »

ive done 2 so far and im really really !! feelin it now . please can someone tell me if its possible ! hes away for a while and i luv him to bits but i rea;;y miss the male company not just the sex but the snuggling and the company how can i do this for another 3 winters ! any advice appreciated

Laura, your post doesn't make a whole lot of sense. I think you're presuming that we know details that we don't. Try editing it and I'm sure people will offer you helpful advice.

tenchi-fan

Is your boyfriend in jail? dump him and hit the clubs with your friends.

PaddyInChelsea

tenchi-fan wrote: »

Is your boyfriend in jail? dump him and hit the clubs with your friends.

In jail? Yeah, that's probably what Laura meant.

Sorry Laura. Brain obviously not functioning at full capacity this morning.

Not sure what to say. Five years is a long time. I'd probably be thinking of somebody else but that's just me. I think you should talk to friends who know the full story.

laura29

thats the situation . jail ! didnt feel i shud have to say that but clearly i did , so now that its out there wat do i do apart fdrom extra batteries ha

Overheal

I presume congical visits are out of the question.

It's your perogative. You don't wait for someone for 8 years without a reason. So do you continue to wait or do you drop this guy and move on?

TheBlock

This might incur he wrath of the mods but FBuddy for the win. Once both adults know the situation should pose no problems. I'm sure your B/F will understand but doesn't want to know the details so be discreet. Have you spoken to any other spouses who have gone through similar periods of seperation?? Have they offered any advice??

kittenkiller

Find a gay best friend for cuddles and compliments?
Buy a toy for the rest?

mikemac

Is there any temporary release this guy can apply for?
Over a hundred convicts were let out for Christmas on temporary release.

If he's there for a non-violent crime, possibly there is something there.

Now, I'm not saying I agree or disagree with early release but certainly ask around and see.

dudara

Hi Laura, can you please try to avoid textspeak - it just makes it easier for other posters to read your posts?

Does the Irish Prison Service allow conjugal visits? Anyone know this?

Laura, there's no doubt that it's hard to go without someone for a long period of time. Firstly, there's the obvious lack of sex, but then there's also the lack of physical contact - hugs, kisses and cuddles. That's tough. But you'll do it if you want to.

Is there any possibility that he could get out of jail early? i.e. participate in activities that would contribute to good behaviour and better chances of early probation?

tenchi-fan

Hi, me again Laura.

Is he your husband or boyfriend, and how long were you going out with him?

You really need to consider why he is in Jail. 5 years is a long sentence so I'm guessing he has a bad track record. Did he ever stop to consider the hurt he was causing you, dragging your name through the mud by being associated with him, or how inconsiderate it is to expect you to wait 5 years?

Rather than finding ways to keep him in your life for the next 3 years maybe you should consider whether he's actually worth it. If the answer is yes I hope it works out, but if you're not sure maybe you should consider getting back into the dating game.

PS fear or pity is NOT a good enough reason to stay with someone.

Miss Fluff

dudara wrote: »

Does the Irish Prison Service allow conjugal visits? Anyone know this?

No, not permitted in Ireland.