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  • 28-12-2009 2:33am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I'm in a LDR, boyfriend is due home in a couple of months. We talk loads and I thought we were really open with each other, but today he told me that a few weeks ago, a girl he met in a bar asked him to go home with her. He said he wasn't flirting with her or anything, he wasn't interested and he knew she'd already been with his mate, according to him she just walked up and said she wanted him to go home with her. What kind of desperate slag even does that? I'm confused as to why my boyfriend didnt mention this at the time. I believe he didn't do anything but it seems a bit weird, no?


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  • #2
    Bad Seed
    Closed Accounts Posts: 14 ✭Bad Seed


    I often do that (sleep around) and find that most boys don't want to mention these things to their girlfriends. :o


  • #3
    CDfm
    Closed Accounts Posts: 20,649 ✭✭✭✭CDfm


    I was on a trip a few years back to Brussels which was work related and there is an expat community there.I came accross the same thing. It is part of the scene there for some people and some people partake.

    Maybe your boyfriend has told you this just to say he is not that kind of guy and can still pull if he wants too. Major ego boost to be asked but gross to contemplate.

    Tell him he is your action man and if she does it again you will scratch her eyes out.


  • #4
    cafecolour
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,328 ✭✭✭cafecolour


    He's basically saying "Look, i've had opportunities to cheat, but I haven't. Aren't a good boy. Give me a cookie." It's silly but ultimately harmless bragging/ego boost.


  • #5
    Nevyn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    Unhelpful and off-topic posting will get you banned from this forum.
    Do take time to read the charter which contains the rules and abide by them.
    Have a nice day.
    Thaedydal


  • #6
    PaddyInChelsea
    Closed Accounts Posts: 25 ✭PaddyInChelsea


    I sometimes wonder if telling your gf/bf about such an experience, when nothing happened, as a result, is a good idea at all. It can often, as in situations like this, lead to needless suspicion, paranoia etc.

    I often see replies to posts here, telling an OP that he/she should tell their partner what happened (and didn't happen as a result of it). I don't think it's always the right thing to do in situations like that. Many of you would disagree, I'm sure, but I think it can often lead to unnecessary hassle in a relationship.


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  • #7
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    No doubt he was making the point that other girls find him attractive and that he didn't cheat but it's odd he waited so long to tell me, imo. I don't know what to think now.


  • #8
    CDfm
    Closed Accounts Posts: 20,649 ✭✭✭✭CDfm


    Unregistered wrote: »
    No doubt he was making the point that other girls find him attractive and that he didn't cheat but it's odd he waited so long to tell me, imo. I don't know what to think now.

    you like him and he likes you and misses you so its only natural that he would tell you that he is faithfull.

    A bit too much info but maybe you said something and he felt he had to reassure you.


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