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  • 27-12-2009 6:58pm
    #1
    pepperpot
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5 ✭


    i have a friend and i know her boyfriend is cheating on her all the time, i attempted to tell her and now she wont speak to me and hasnt for the past 6 months....now lots of ppl are turning against me..

    what do i do?


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  • #2
    Kiera
    Closed Accounts Posts: 13,130 ✭✭✭✭Kiera


    Is there no one else willing to back you up about this? I'm assuming you're not the only one who knows he's cheating on her?


  • #3
    pepperpot
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5 ✭pepperpot


    so many people know. but he is so charming and seems to just have people wrapped around his finger....

    lots of guys know but lads wud never turn in another guy


  • #4
    Kiera
    Closed Accounts Posts: 13,130 ✭✭✭✭Kiera


    Well unless you can get someone to back you up you're gonna have to ride it out i'm afraid. If he's at it all the time the truth will come out and she'll come back apologising. If she doesnt then she wasnt really a good mate to begin with.


  • #5
    pepperpot
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5 ✭pepperpot


    your right....just sucks that i was tryin to help out a friend and she actually believes i wus make that up....

    maybe she wasnt the friend i thought she was


  • #6
    martdalto
    Closed Accounts Posts: 211 ✭✭martdalto


    Nobody wants to be told that their bf is cheating on them, so even though you did the right thing, she thinks you are just causing trouble in her relationship.

    If he's that much of a "charmer", she might even think that you're jealous of her going out with him, and want to split them up. Some people/couples tend to believe that everyone wants to either be them or be with them!!

    Anyway, I suppose the best you can hope for now is that she eventually finds out what he's like, and comes back to you to apologise. If she does, and if she really was a good friend to you, I'd suggest you don't go too hard on her, she's just "standing by her man"! The man in her eyes, that every girl wants..

    If she finds out and still decides to blank you, then you've not really lost much, have you?!


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  • #7
    CDfm
    Closed Accounts Posts: 20,649 ✭✭✭✭CDfm


    OP - I have a theory that unless you have enough witnesses for an Islamic adultery court or if it is someone who is in your family than you should say nothing.

    If you dont have that you should keep your mouth shut.

    So if you are getting in touch with her it should be about your friendship and if you value the friendship apologise and say you were mistaken.

    Other than that anything you say will come across as gratuitous and she still will not talk to you as that will only be your ego getting the last word in.


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