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No cure for being dislikable.

  • 26-12-2009 7:42pm
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Life is a write off.I avoid people because I have had some bad experiences being rejected by every friend I had which was not many. I tried not to bother people as I often sensed I must be an a$$h0le. I didn't always get given the reasons why but I have a pretty good idea.

    I am boring, draining, negative although I've tried so hard to eliminate these traits and make myself paletable to others. Huge efforts made, nothing worked. Now, all I want to be no trouble to anyone. I dont want to be the self pitying, draining person everyone needs to avoid so I save people the trouble of having to make excuses and I isolate myself from them. I have become invisible and withdrawn from society.

    I am used to unhappiness and therefore I don't have the expectation to be happy. My mind is a soup of relentless negativity and criticism which saturates my brain. Every waking minute is spent trying to will these negative thoughts out of my consciousness.Its exhausting and I have no interest in imposing my problems on other people. I find spending time with other people draining. I get very tired after an hour or two and long to be alone again in peace.

    I am a pretty good actress and I can conceal my depression mostly from people but it does take effort. I just want to remove myself from them.I cant take antidepressants as they induced euphoria in me. Just my luck eh. Im sure CBT would be great but I cant afford it. I fantasise about suicide a lot but I would not do that to other people, family members. Rule number one, Other people must not suffer because of me.

    So I am stuck here.No one can help. People only entertain me out of duty and tbh so do I. I love my family members but they have no comprehension of the empty farce that is my life.I've been to GP's, a psychiatrist etc They couldn't help. I get the impression the psychiatrist despised me. But hey so does everyone. He was getting paid to heal me and still couldn't.

    He said my symptoms were caused by my lifestyle (at the time) and if I changed my lifestyle therefore I would have no problems. So with a monumental will to effort I changed my lifestlye, it made little difference. The depression is deep and ever present.

    So ironic too, if I could change my lifestyle as easily as he imagined and solve all my problems doesnt he think I wouldnt have done that before. chicken and egg.The problem is some peoples brain chemistry is depressive. I've been depressed for at least 10 years solid now and its getting worse as I get older.

    I am indifferent to everything. I have no interests, dreams, hopes. Never had. All I do is firefight through every day. I would love peaceful oblivion but that's not allowed, because that would be selfish. Must always think of others first.What am I here for?

    I live in dread of bumping into ex friends who I might meet in a shopping centre or public place. Their pity and my embarassment at my obvious loser-ness would be excruciating.(I am not stupid though I know no one actually gives a fook)

    So I often go without food & medical things I need as I don't have the strength of mind to go into a normal public place. And though it sounds so self pitying what does it matter anyway.

    Im so very tired. All the time, very weak and exhausted. I got told recently I am terribly hard on myself, the same person years before said I was self pitying. Which is it? I can't please people, I have failed in my adult life at the simplest of things, having even one friend.

    Oh yes I have plenty of users who use me for whatever it is they want. But I've had to minimise even them as I can't carry these parasites any more.Someone close to me wants me to go to a GP. Whats the GP gonna do?Tell me the truth for once. I am just a dislikable person. What are people like me supposed to do in this world. I have withdrawn and even that isn't enough for people.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Jesus christ I feel so much of what ur saying its not funny. I dont know what to be doing with myself the last few days. Im tierd and fed up. And its ****ing christmas as well just to make things worse! Im at the point were I dont know what to do anymore so I withdraw from things now! Life is awful for me atm and Im glad that somebody out there from Ireland is feeling the same! Do u have msn??


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Sorry I don't have msn....

    What to do? I wan't to experience pleasure and joy and to look forward to things like other people.

    I am looking at maybe 40 more years on the planet like this. Just doing my sentance. Enduring and clock watching until its over.

    Yet people all around are happy, interested and care about things. They enjoy Christmas.

    I am ashamed of how weak I am. Just trying to get boxes ticked takes everything I've got.
    I can go to work, but it takes me all weekend to recover. Things like food shopping and clothes shopping are horrible ordeals which leave me shattered with tiredness and anxiety.

    Pensioners have more energy than me...

    In public my thoughts race more than ever telling me how worthless and weird and out of it I am. I want to hide myself....


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    GivenUp, can I suggest something?
    Would you consider going to a different psychiarist?

    Reason I ask is that what you're describing is EXACTLY how my best friend felt. She had no joy with the first medical professional she went to but was persuaded to see someone else.
    Thankfully, after some trial and error with medication and a spell in hospital, she is back on form again and loving life. She was severely depressed and so are you.

    Please consider what I've suggested. OK the psychiatrist you saw and the meds he prescribed didn't work but there's a myriad of other options for you out there.

    Life is not to be endured. I really hope you can see that some day soon.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I'd be like that too and I'm glad to know it's not just me. I used to get involved, achieve lots
    of things and had a good set of friends. I rarely meet up with them now and am not good at
    making new friends. They're all off living their wonderful lives while I'm stuck in a rut and
    generally the sort of depressive they don't need to be anything to do with. It's a new year
    soon though and enough small steps in the right direction can get you places.

    While (more) professional help may be of use, you'll need to work hard on this yourself. Maybe
    people entertain you out of duty, but you're probably imagining a lot of this as well.
    I'd recommend taking a course or two when they start back, as a means of getting to know
    people and to boost your self esteem.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,649 ✭✭✭✭CDfm


    You do have a say on who you are friends with and your social and recreationa lactivities and influence your quality of life.

    If you need professional help take it..


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    hi sorry to hear about this. hears two books that will help you socialy how to win friends and influence people and definition book of body language


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,095 ✭✭✭Wurly


    tuf wrote: »
    hi sorry to hear about this. hears two books that will help you socialy how to win friends and influence people and definition book of body language

    Also 'You Can Heal Your Life' by Louise L Hay and 'Your Erroneous Zones' by Wayne W. Dyer.

    All about self love and accepting yourself. Not living to other's ideals and most importantly, how to keep those whizzing thoughts in check.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,328 ✭✭✭cafecolour


    I think you dislike other people more than you're 'dislikeable'. You say you find spending time with other people draining. And that everyone around you is 'users' and 'parasites'. Exactly how are you trying to make friends?

    Sounds like you give up to easy. It's like the fat people who 'try' dieting for three weeks, then give it up and announce that they can help it, they'll always be fat.

    You tried to improve yourself and make friends. It didn't work. Try again. Keep focusing on positive thoughts.

    You went to one psychiatrist. He/she was crap and gave you bad advice. Go to another.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Thanks for all the replies. I will look up those two books.

    Hey Cafecolour, The reason I find being around others draining is not that I dont like them, far from it. But I have to act (mimic) happy/normal which is do-able for a time. But my brain gets tired after a while and its difficult to keep up the facade. I can feel myself becoming silent, losing the patter. I don't have a lot of material, I have no real interests and therfore am boring. I have nothing to say and Im certainly not going to unleash the grim reality on people and totally alienate them.

    To be attractive to people its important to cover up your problems as y'know I dont like listening to victims so I dont want to be that person in other peoples lives. So just to explain that.

    I dont give up easy. I have tried a lot believe me. This is a long term problem. I excersise, eat a good diet, I went to recovery training which I still try to use. I stay away from other people. I dont drain them, I try to think of good and kind things to do for them and not put myself first. I try very hard. My willpower is good (I have lost and kept off 3 stone over the years the hard way without moaning and boring people in the usual way)
    I am not easy on myself. I dont give up easy. I mentioned the psychiatrist but thats not the sum total of what I have done in trying to sort myself out.

    I am not a lazy person who takes no personal responsibility and gives in at the first hurdle. Anyway Im not going to bore you with my life story but just to say I've tried so much and succeeded so little I really am at this stage giving up.

    Re friends. I've given up on that. If a person has no friends, its for a reason. I am not fun or interesting. You can fake that for so long. You do get to a stage where you dont want to humiliate yourself any longer. So no, I do not try to make friends now. Its too hurtful.

    If I've been rejected by the majority of people in life, then there is a good reason for that. I am not going to go into denial about that and stalk people. There is a point you come to when you have to listen to sense and give up. If I wasn't such a weirdo making friends would not be the inpenetrable mystery it is. So simple to most but so difficult to some.

    I can go to more headshrinkers but what are they going to tell me? Im not sick maybe Im just dislikable. Thats what Im saying. Or sick AND dislikable. There is a whole industry attached to counselling etc where they will just take your money and never level with you. What psychiatrist is going to tell you 'yes, sorry but your just an irritating bore'

    Finally not everyone around me is users or parasites but I do attract people like that a lot for some reason. They are very difficult to deal with and past attempts to make friends has always ended up with me attracting these people. I just cant give them anything any more. I have had to learn to assert myelf with these people because they would literally attach themselves to me for their own gain and control me.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,328 ✭✭✭cafecolour


    If you're depressed you should be on meds. There are a lot of different categories of anti-depressents, go to a proper shrink who will have you try several different kinds til you find one that fits. You know you have to give them 4-6 weeks of taking them to adjust, right?

    Have you tried a depression support group, ie:
    http://www.aware.ie/support.htm

    That may help you meet people and give you support at the same time.

    As to making friends, if you're trying too hard to be eager to please and nice to other people, that can actually make you seem very bland. Most people don't want someone who constantly agrees with them/their tastes, etc.

    I guarantee you you have interests. Do you just go home and stare at a wall? No television/movies/books/music interests you? Media is a pretty common topic of bonding for people - both stuff you like and stuff you dislike.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,649 ✭✭✭✭CDfm


    You also have Grow which have a 12 step approach to mental health similar to CBT


    http://www.grow.ie/


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Its more like 3 moths CC, unfortunately though every medication has side effects. For me they induced a semi-manic state. It was actualy extremely pleasurable lol but I was embarassing myself and then suffered agonies of guilt and mch worse depression after coming off.

    I have been trying to control the symptoms with lifestyle as it is supposed to help but so far. Bad advice from the psych.

    As for the friends thing I AM very bland. I do stare at the wall -got rid of tv as no interest in anything on!! MY point is Cafecolour after years of modifying myself to be a more likeable person Im exhausted y'know. I am a good listener but I cant carry on being this Khameleon for ever. TRying to give people what they want, the alternative is a torrent of nihlistic negativity. So its probably best left to one side til I get myself sorted.

    Thanks for the links to aware and grow, I know about them both. So I think its safe to say this 'lifestyle' approach has been an abject failure and its back to drugs again.

    I will go back to the GP I think. Im sorry if Ive sounded inflexable but I am full of dread about letting in any hope again.

    I do thank you all for writing. Its helped me a lot.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    My thoughts on being more likable is to just chill out. I used to be very self-pitying and heavy. I'd be the one at the party sitting alone on the couch all night wondering why I'm not enjoying myself. Which is another chicken & egg.
    I think there's something to dropping the analysis, looking for the good in people, being kind to yourself and enjoying the simple pleasures and the things you enjoy in life where ever you can find them.

    I'm not sold on all the hippy self-help ideas, but I think there's truth to loving and accepting yourself. What that gives you is a sense of self-approval, where it matters less what other people think.
    Which is hard if you've had a life of being socially shat upon. I think we all spend years having people tell (and show) us what we should think of ourselves, which can be very damaging, as some of us come off worse than others. The struggle is to not let that turn you bitter.

    I think laying it all on the line to someone close is great and takes a large weight off, but also important is being able to let it go and enjoy the moment without analyzing or letting emotional burdens drag you down.
    I got into a vicious circle of having my emotional baggage colour my experiences and have the memories of those experiences feed back into my emotional baggage. It's a tough cycle to break.

    Hang in there and be good to yourself.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 542 ✭✭✭scanlas


    Read "A New Earth" by Eckhart Tolle.

    You need to stop willing your thoughts away, resistance to what is causes pain. You need to accept the negative thoughts as they come into your mind and don't fight them. Just observe them and the feelings in your body. Slow everything down as you do this. Take slow deep breaths and really feel all the sensations in your body. The thoughts won't be as overwhelming after a while and soon they will dissipate if you do this. Just don't resist them. It makes them stronger.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,214 ✭✭✭wylo


    OP I think you need more professional help, such a waste of the one life we have. I feel down,insecure,anxious, etc from time to time ,like we all do,but you seem to be living a life of hell.

    If you have a pain in your leg and you go to the doctor and 2 weeks later you still have a pain in your leg, you dont just ignore it and presume its unfixable. You either go back, or find another doctor.

    Everything you wrote is something you have created yourself because your simply not well. The anxiety, the depression, the feeling of being disliked, the loneliness, the lack of self worth, your unwillingness to go out in public, etc its ALL tied in together. I say try again, go to more doctors.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 6 rabtazers


    Hi OP. Sorry to hear you feel so bad, it must be hell. However you obviously put others before yourself and are active in dealing with your depression. These are good things. :)

    Sometimes I feel like you've written too, especially when I have had a bad hangover, like tonight...! :pac: But then I look back at what I've achieved over the last year and how much I hope to achieve in 2010 and I feel better. Life is contingent and you can (must...) create transformations.

    Anyway I think you should go to a different GP or even some private medical centre (like ICIM in Naas) and demand a full check up, full blood test, the works. There are so many underlying health conditions that have huge effects on the psyche, some of them might seem really far out or aren't widely known, like not getting enough sunlight (i.e. Vitamin D3, very common here), mercury poisoning (teeth fillings), candida, hyperparathyroidism, etc etc. Or of course, it could be a 'simple' brain chemistry problem that needs exactly the right prescription... Problem is, a lot of doctors don't really give a toss and will just fob you off, and are not interested in making repeated diagnoses as it costs them money to spend any time on you, harsh but the reality of the system. So you have to find the right one and learn and learn until you find the root cause(s) of this. Otherwise you are just fighting the symptoms.

    Also if you have savings think about moving abroad to a sunnier country where you can reinvent yourself and enjoy new things. Ireland is damp, grey and depressing at the best of times! I know several people who have moved abroad who were depressed but are now much happier. (And a couple in the other direction, of course).

    Oh yeah - what constitutes a healthy diet is up for debate. Great to hear you're exercising and trying but experiment. I'm currently trying to go 70%+ raw food (salads, smoothies, etc) for the year, based on the theory that food we evolved to eat would be this way instead of cooked and processed. Mightn't work but won't do any harm anyway.

    OK - last most important thing. Avoiding people is the one thing guaranteed to make your depression worse. You need to meet more people. Many more people, from all nationalities and walks of life. Anais Nin described a similar process, she described it as the demon of introspection that was only cured by feeding it more and more experience (of new people, places, skills, etc) until it died off naturally.

    Take care!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 153 ✭✭Soul Stretcher


    Oh OP... I feel for you.

    I was once where you are now emotionally and mentally. I am not there any longer.

    CBT worked for me.

    You are obviously an intelligent, observant and insightful person. It's just that those powers of observation and intelligence are looking through broken glasses and are therefore mis-interpreting your life and your situation.

    You are alive and physically healthy in a Developed country in 2009. You are free from external persecution.

    However because you are TEMPORARILY (yes I know your negative self-talk says you've always been depressed and always will) mentally ill, you are persecuting yourself - in a way that you would never do to another human being. At this point, you are your own worst enemy.

    You need help. I suggest CBT. The negativity in your mind is way too powerful to combat just by thinking. You have to write the negative thoughts down and use that wonderful intelligence of yours to find the lack of logic in them and replace them with healthier more realistic thoughts. A CBT therapist would give you the tools to do this. After a while, you'll do it naturally and no longer feel the way you do now.

    You are in pain OP. Your psyche is ill/injured. Get help please :)

    Feel free to pm me is you want someone to bounce thoughts off.

    All the best - I know you can do this ! :)


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 3,838 ✭✭✭midlandsmissus


    OP, you're suffering from depression, end of.

    The worst thing about depression is it makes you not want to ask for help. You will either feel: 'I'm an awful person I deserve to feel this way', or 'I don't want to admit to being 'weird' I don't want people to know this about me'

    I've had it and I'm fine now. It is curable.

    Another main point I REALLY want you to listen to is this:

    Depression is a selfish, 'only me' illness. You will think that you are weird, not normal, failing to be like everybody else, and that nobody else in the whole world could possible feel like you do. This is a symptom of the illness, and it is WRONG. It is so very far from the truth.

    So many people go through depression either long term, or at some point in their lives. I know four people on antidepressants, and I know two other people who have attempted suicide. Alot of people find life very tough, and I don't think anybody feels super confident naturally. Alot of people are terrified of social situations where they don't know many people.

    You need help and you need to get it. A diabetic can't manage his condition on his own, so what makes you think you should be able to handle yours? Think of it this way, you're in a bad place right now, so what could possible make it worse? It can only get better if you try new things. Things can and will get better for you, but you need to get the help you need.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 276 ✭✭c1979


    i don't think everybody dislikes you, you are just depressed. I am sure everybody cares about you. good luck in the new year.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,102 ✭✭✭RossFixxxed


    OP:

    You ARE NOT crazy,
    You ARE NOT alone in this,
    You ARE NOT beyond help or repair,
    You ARE NOT completely unlikable.

    There are ways of getting help with the HSE. But I cannot stress the importance of GOING FOR HELP. I've been that soldier buddy, I've written some posts that scare me now years later how down I was, and how utter hopeless it seems.

    IT IS NOT NOT NOT HOPELESS. The doctor can really help with this. It is something that happens other people too. It's a horrible, nasty thing and the main thing it does is make you believe that you can't be helped. When you can. There are great doctors out there, this is something that CAN be fixed.

    I've seen what you've said about the meds making you euphoric, I've seen some people as they said themselves "it's like taking E". But there are MANY medications and it can take time for them to take effect, and it may take a few hit and misses to hit on the right one. I have a neighbour 60+ years of age. Was suffering so bad they considered Electro Shock Therapy, eek. But they found a medication that worked, and she looks like a different person. Smiles, seems happy, spring is back in her step. It takes time and patience.

    IF YOU ONLY DO ONE THING, GO TO YOUR GP. As others have said if you needed insulin you would go to the doc and you would take it. Keep your mind open and make some gradual changes in your life. Exercise, diet etc, just remember it takes time.


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  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 6,488 ✭✭✭Denerick


    Hi OP!

    **** people! you are your own person, stop trying to make yourself palatable to them! Your entire problems seem to centre around the belief that you need to present a certain type of personality to other people, when in reality people want to see the genuine person inside! There are basics which everyone should follow, such as trying to be kind, generous, caring etc. but by and large, who cares? Who cares if you sit in a corner and don't say anything witty? As long as you mean what you say, people will come round to you. I think 90% of pyschological issues stem from peoples inability to say '**** it'. I really do think that you have more going for you than you think, even from your opening post you seem like an interesting person I'd like to know better.

    So look on the bright side of life! Instead of fantasising about suicide, why not wake up early some morning and watch the sun rise? Buy an ice cream? Drive to the beach at night and watch the sun rise over the horizon? Buy a dog? A cat? Read a good book? Watch a good film? Have you really tried all the alternatives?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I just wanted to write to thank you all so much for your reponses.

    I am going to go to the GP when it re-opens in the new year. I am pretty nervous, hope I can articulate myself properly and not sound too much like a crank. I've been thinking what ye all said about getting the correct fit with the medication. If the doc thinks that is appropriate then Im going to do that.

    I also want to try a talking cure as well. I am interested in CBT. I hear great things about it. Its true about my brain turning on me. From the time I wake up the thoughts are rolling around and around. I am exited to think that might end. I want to feel normal!!!

    I feel better even with just this thread alone.

    I will come back and let you know how I am getting on. thanks so much again.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 153 ✭✭Soul Stretcher


    You are very welcome OP !

    Great to hear you are going to see the GP - can I make a suggestion ? Why don't you print out your original post in this thread and just give it to the GP to read. Then you don't have to worry about not articulating how you feel. I know you probably won't feel confident enough to do that but I think it would be a great help to you and would get the GP "up to speed" with where you are emotionally in 5 mins. Will you consider it ?

    Also a fabulous introduction to CBT is a book called The Feeling Good Handbook by David Burns.

    Maybe your local library has it or you could buy one second-hand on Amazon. A fantastic book - REALLY helped me.

    Best of Luck OP ! :You are on the cusp of a happier life ! :)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I missed this post the first time round.

    It is a devastating piece of writing and so close to how I am feeling that it is scarily uncanny.
    All too clearly I can empathise with how the OP feels.

    I have only begun therapy and I am trying hard to pull myself around and away from these feelings. I read many positive post here and I hope I can be a success story too but I know it will take some time. For me it is not just depressive feelings but tough outside pressures too that have caused me to sink so low.

    Best of luck to you OP, and to the other posters and readers who find themselves in similar places in their lives.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,826 ✭✭✭Anouilh


    I was sorry to hear people are under the weather hear.


    I post on Flickr under the name
    Rosewoodoil.


    I don't get depressed in Winter and frankly, looking at what's happening out of doors at the moment, I'm beginning to find that surprising.

    This is my last post on Boards.ie as I have moved to Twitter.

    Please feel free to post to my Flickr photos, if you feel like it and please remember that there are people who welcome your presence.

    Happy New Year to all!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,339 ✭✭✭tenchi-fan


    hey given up,

    [do not suggest online tests for diagnoses]

    that wasn't particularly helpful but it came with examples of how this mindset can affect your day-to-day activities, ways you deal with people, future plans... basically it's helpful to understand what you're dealing with.

    I'll send you the document if you like - not the scores obviously, just the extra reading (its only an a4 page) & you can decide whether it's helpful.

    [do not give out email address to be contacted at.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    tenchi-fan you seem new to this forum I sugest you take the time to read the rules in the charter which you wil find here.

    Breaching the rules can and will get you banned from this forum, hopefully that won't happen.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Hello All,

    An update. I finally managed to go to my GP. I had today set aside to do it but woke this morning really anxious and scrabbling for every excuse not to go. I rang and after a few tries got through and made the appointment for today.

    I wrote down all my symptoms and thoughts. I didn't want to go blank or 'sweeten' the less palatable feelings. I am in the habit of putting on an act so my mind was in overdrive. One side of my mind was turning somersaults trying to stop me and tell me I'd be fine without the Doc, the other side was strong like a parent and wouldn't listen to the bad side!!!

    Thats thanks to you lot. I know the problems are not in my imagination now!

    The Doctor was fantastic, told her the back story and the now story. She is sending me to a care team who will look at the whole story before deciding about medication. I will get what I badly need, experts to decide my care and if needed supervised medication.

    I am so happy I listened to you all. My mind was not working right.

    I want to thank you all. One part of my mind was telling me I would be wasting the Doctors time and that on 4th Jan her Surgery would be full of whingers crying 'depression' but I overruled those thoughts!

    Thanks again and if you are interested I can update from time to time.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 153 ✭✭Soul Stretcher


    I am so so happy you had such a positive experience with the Doc. She seems to be a good one in dealing with mental health issues.

    I wish you every luck and joy as your embark on your journey to a depression-free place.

    Your post today has made my day tbh.

    Good Luck and keep over-ruling those negative thoughts ! :)


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,102 ✭✭✭RossFixxxed


    Delighted you took that step! It's the most difficult one in many ways, but it's great to be reassured that this is something that happens people, and that there are things in place to help.

    I'd certainly love to hear further info on how it is going for you OP! There's a lot of us in this boat and reading stories like this is always a great thing. Keep at it and be patient and kind to yourself!


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