EX GirlFriend

madmac187

Hi Girlfriend broke up with me, last Saturday. She said she didn't care about me at all and said we were finished.

The night before we had a row. Later on I wasn't feeling well and ended up in hospital. The next day, the day she broke up with me, I told her. She was unsympathetic and didnt really care. She asked me did I know some girl where I live. Anyway, she then said doesn't care about me and we were finished.

Next day she text me, wondering how I was after hospital. We talked a bit and she said she ended it in haste. She still includes the x's and smiley faces when we text. I asked her any chance to fix this and she said maybe. She text me to see if i was still around. I had gone home. She said it would have been perfect because her daughter was with her father. My Ex is 21 and shes in college, so am I. I am from the south and in Belfast in college there too. She is from Belfast.

I want to fix it this but she has hurt me, telling me she didnt care and not caring about me in hospital. Didnt tell her that night because she would see it next morning and be really worried.

When we were together she would take the head off me and rarely see. But when things were going well they were great. I don't mind her having a daughter. I do care about her but I don't know if she feels guilty about me being in hospital or cares or just wants to **** with me.
Just texting me there she said to me why do I wanna fix it?

So what do I do?

LegacyUser

madmac187 wrote: »

Hi Girlfriend broke up with me, last Saturday. She said she didn't care about me at all and said we were finished.

The night before we had a row. Later on I wasn't feeling well and ended up in hospital. The next day, the day she broke up with me, I told her. She was unsympathetic and didnt really care. She asked me did I know some girl where I live. Anyway, she then said doesn't care about me and we were finished.

Next day she text me, wondering how I was after hospital. We talked a bit and she said she ended it in haste. She still includes the x's and smiley faces when we text. I asked her any chance to fix this and she said maybe. She text me to see if i was still around. I had gone home. She said it would have been perfect because her daughter was with her father. My Ex is 21 and shes in college, so am I. I am from the south and in Belfast in college there too. She is from Belfast.

I want to fix it this but she has hurt me, telling me she didnt care and not caring about me in hospital. Didnt tell her that night because she would see it next morning and be really worried.

When we were together she would take the head off me and rarely see. But when things were going well they were great. I don't mind her having a daughter. I do care about her but I don't know if she feels guilty about me being in hospital or cares or just wants to **** with me.
Just texting me there she said to me why do I wanna fix it?

So what do I do?

well my ex broke up with me while i was going through hard times we got on great but she basically left me during a time when i was sorting out issues from the past, i dont see this as a reflection on me rather a inability of hers to deal with things once the sh1t hits the fan, dont anylise her motives instead look at how she acts when times are tough, 21 is old enough but it doesnt sound like shes mature enough for a relationship and if she tells you things like she doesnt care well then id be careful continuing with her.

krudler

To be frank, why on earth would you want to get back together with someone who didnt care you were lying in hospital? she sounds like shes playing games with you, or trying to put off her guilty until you're better and then break up with you again, i'd stay well clear, people like that arent worth it

madmac187

She text me this evening saying she missed me and I told her the same. I told her I was alright after the night in hospital. Maybe thats why she was like that. I think she said it all mad at me but will see.

hollis12

sorry to hear about your troubles man, its tough especially around this time but you dont deserve to be treated like that, if i said that to someone who went to hospital id be ashamed to ever look them in the eye again, let alone say lets meet up its convenient because the father has my daughter, put yourself first.

madmac187

All of you, I think you are right.. I only realise that it wasnt a nice thing to do. She turned on me this evening, for what someone else said so I can't be bothered or be treated like that.

star-pants

Madmac - it sounds like she's broken up with you and was feeling a little lonely so wanted some attention maybe off you.
She didn't care you'd been in hospital at the time, you can't really come back *after* the fact n go 'sorry I was angry then, I care about it now' and you say she's now turned on you over something trivial?

She broke up with you - leave her to it and cut contact, you'll be doing yourself a favour, as hard as it is.

Sephiroth_dude

Do yourself a favour and dont bother txting her anymore she sounds like a wreck head.

arybvtcw0eolkf

OP, although you don't mention if she gave you the "I'll always care for you, you'll always be special to me" bullsh*t but herein lies a lession for us all.

They never mean it, and proper break ups are rarely a spur of the moment decision.

Your GF has most likely been little by little, slowly but surely been breaking emotional ties with you for awhile now.

Walk away, its over. Probably no one's fault, things have most likely run their course.

Merry Christmas.

stateofflux

listen to what these guys are saying....but once you cut it , cut it....and stick to your guns and thinking with the head that has a brain.....she prob will try and draw you back in with everything from sobbing to guilt trips to whatever....but you can't change people man as much as your dick thinks you can.....

CDfm

OP - what were you in hospital for - hope it wasnt a seasonal thing like too much high living.

For what its worth -lots of people argue at christmas and take the hump. That doesnt mean the relationship is over,but listen to the whys and see if its stuff you can work out.Also see if she is genuine and not just being manipulative.

After Xmas you have a quiet time so see how you two relate doing ordinary stuff. If your illness is self infliced -then a lifestyle change in the New Year may be in order.

beauty101

OP you sound like a really nice guy + you definitely don't deserve to be treated like that.

I think you need to take time out + really think about what you want + what's best for U.

If she really wants to get back with you she'll wait for u