Is it too late to confront her now?

LegacyUser

Hi,

From the start, Im from the big smoke and GF is from down the country. We both work here and live together. She would go home probably about twice a month and the majority of the time I would go with her. Have been together for about 2 and a half years at this stage.


So on one of her trips home alone, I had to stay up due to working the weekend. She was out with her friends and as usual they went from a house to the pub to the nightclub. Normally when this happens I get the drunken call at 3am saying she is on her way home and who was out etc etc. As usual, I got call at 3:30am this particular saturday night. She was talking her usual dribble and then she comes out with 'I kissed a guy'.

She was too drunk to realise what she said and I was too tired to realise it as well. She said it again. I told her to go home and I would talk to her the next day Anyway she hung up and then I was kinda like 'WTF'. Woke up the next day and didnt bother texting her. Ignored her calls for a while and then after a while i answered. She told me her friends weren't talking to her and asked did she say anything to me about them on the fone. Didn't say anything as I was in work which was going crap and I couldn't have been bothered dealing with any crap. This happened 3 months ago

Now im kicking myself for not saying something. i really like her and don't want to lose her but I can't get this thought out of my head and it's driving me nuts.

She's gone home now for christmas and I know she will be out with her friends till I get up there next week .

IS it too late to ask her about it now?

How do I know if it was a once off?

Taltos

No - its not too late.
As you can already see this is eating you up inside. You need to talk to her and let her know how this has affected you.

Look - at a min she should take this as a lesson and really watch what she drinks - but drink is not an excuse here.

Obviously her friends were not impressed with her. Talk to her soon though - as you might be acting a bit off with her and she might instead think that you are going off her.

Clear the air soon. All you know is she kissed someone - but you don't know if the other guy initiated it and she just stood there in shock - and didn't respond. So it might not be all that bad - but until you talk you are torturing yourself...

Sanjuro

To be honest, OP, I'd be very concerned about the amount of booze your girlfriend is downing when she's out. If she's drinking to the point where she's mumbling 'her usual dribble', and indeed, kissing other guys, I'd have a pretty big problem with that. And it sounds like she has a problem too.

LegacyUser

I agree with above poster. Anyone who gets that hammered is at risk of kissing someone else. So although its difficult, I wouldn't even dwell too much on the kissing part. She needs to grow up and handle her drink better.

So no, not too late to confront, in fact its better that you do.

miec

Hi Op

It is never too late to confront a situation, tell her how it made you feel and that you have worries about her doing this again.