Confussed

Noodles23

Hi,

I'm engaged to the most wonderful bloke in the world, he makes me laugh every day of the week, he truly is amazing to both myself and my family! we have been together for nearly 4 years with our fair share of up's and down's!

But for a long time I have been going onto facebook / Bebo and looking at my ex's page? I don't no why, I can't stand him, he makes my skin crawl he was a horrible bloke to be with who cheated on me all the time, My whole family hates him and my fiance said he would kick his arse if he seen him out and about!

Since we broke up he's had 3 children in with this girl,But I no from a friend that he is cheating on her all the time!

My Fiance and i have been talking about having a baby of our own, I want this more than anything in the world, My ex wanted me to have one with him but i felt i was too young at the time to have a baby, The want of a baby has come so far as to dreaming about it and already picking out a baby pram! Everytime i see a baby my heart melts!

I'm wondering if i feel this way cos my ex's has something i want (a baby)

Please Help

Thanks in advance

Miss Fluff

Facebook stalking has that effect. The teeniest fraction of information you have on someone, makes you want to know more. It is so unhealthy. Just block your ex once and for all so you can't check up on him anymore and get on with living your own life rather than concerning yourself with his!

Noodles23

Miss Fluff wrote: »

block your fiancee once and for all so you can't check up on him anymore and get on with living your own life rather than concerning yourself with his!

My fiancee is the my one true love, My soul mate, he means everything to me, but i just don't understand WHY i keeping checking his pages all the time! I don't have ANY feelings for him whatsoever!

Miss Fluff

Typo on my part:o

It's natural to be interested in what other people are up to, especially people who were a big part of your life. I look up ex's pages too, doesn't mean I want to get back with them. If it is becoming obsessive though, just block them, what he is up to should have no effect on you and how you live your life.

Barracudaincork

Noodles23 wrote: »

My fiancee is the my one true love, My soul mate, he means everything to me, but i just don't understand WHY i keeping checking his pages all the time! I don't have ANY feelings for him whatsoever!

Because you are obsessed, its like a soap opera you can look at what is going on in his life and he doesnt know about yours etc You love the drama, the thrill etc etc

What you are doing is something many people do, but its not healthy!

Facebook, facebook, facebook, thats all i hear these days, and it seems to cause many many problems for people and their relationships. If you love your fiancee as much as you say you do, then end this stupid childish obsession with your ex today and be 100% focused on the real man in your life and your dreams of children together, stop looking in the gutter at the man in your past!

Wurly

Noodles23 wrote: »

My fiancee is the my one true love, My soul mate, he means everything to me, but i just don't understand WHY i keeping checking his pages all the time! I don't have ANY feelings for him whatsoever!

You say it like you've no control over your actions. You do. Simply stop looking at his page if it bothers you so much.

But to be honest, I think everyone does it. It's just a curiosity thing really. Like, a while back, I saw a pic of my ex on Facebook on his sister's profile (facebook friends with the sis) and I was like, jaysis, he's let himself go.. etc etc. It's just one of those things. Even if they were w@nkers, they were part of your life at some stage. A tiny part of you will always be a bit curious, even if you couldn't give a sh!te about them anymore.

So I wouldn't worry. As Miss Fluff says, just block him. Then you can't see anything.:)

Noodles23

Thanks you all so much for all your help I think its just the same as u all say, I don't care for him but its just been nosy!

kenbrady

Noodles23 wrote: »

My fiancee is the my one true love, My soul mate, he means everything to me, but i just don't understand WHY i keeping checking his pages all the time! I don't have ANY feelings for him whatsoever!

I think you might be worried that you have feelings for your ex and that is why you are checking his facebook.
He's your ex he played a part in your life you will always be interested in what's going on with them on some level. If you had a buddy that you fell out with and didn't talk too, you would do the same. It's just human nature and curiosity, doesn't mean you still hold a torch for him.

Noodles23

kenbrady wrote: »

I think you might be worried that you have feelings for your ex and that is why you are checking his facebook.

I can put my hand on my heart and tell u that i do not have any feelings towards him, he makes my skin crawl thinking about him, I blocked him so thats the end of that