break up - really struggling

LegacyUser

Can anyone please give me some advice here?

I have just broken up with the love of my life and I feel like I might pass out with the pain. I'm in absolute bits.

The person is going through a hard time and cant be with me for that reason. Apparently there are feelings still there but the hard time needs to be dealt with first.

So I feel in limbo. I feel like I can't move on while I hope that this person comes around. I dont want to move on. But this is killing me. Please help.

LegacyUser

Hi OP

Broke up with my bf nearly 2 months now. For pretty much the same reasons, he needed to be on his own for various reasons. The first two weeks are the hardest, you actually get an aching feeling in your heart, it does get easier though i promise, i still think about him everday, miss him terribly, but life has to go on.

We have kept in contact for most of the time since the break-up, i find this very difficult and told him it had to stop, emotionally it was killing me. And if he wanted to be with me he would be with me. Sad fact is he is happier now, dont let him string you along it only makes things harder in the long run

Keep strong the pain will ease.

SheRa

The pain is horrible at the start. You think that no-one has ever felt like you do. Eating and possibly sleeping goes by the wayside for a while. But it does get better. It wont feel like that now but it does. Please mind youraelf and do confide in your family and friends when you are down, they will want to help. xxx

beauty101

I know how u feel..I've been there twice with the same guy + I'm still sort of there..

But i know its hard to forsee now but it will get easier, it'll be slow at first but keep urself busy-go out with friends, read, watch a movie, go to he gym, go shopping, even go for a walk, get a pet, take up a hobby...it really does help cos it distracts u.

Talking really helps too. When i broke up with my bf I really had nobody to talk to, cos he was always the one i'd go to, so i wrote it down..every single thought in my head. It helps clear ur mind.

I hope everything gets better for u

Juicy

Breaking up with someone is ****. I broke up with the greatest love of my life nealry 5 years ago and even though I have sort of seen a few people since I haven't even been CLOSE to being in love since him.

Lately I've been thinking that maybe 30% of something is better than 100% of nothing. He's getting married next year. I'm still flying solo.

Lucyx

Juicy wrote: »

Lately I've been thinking that maybe 30% of something is better than 100% of nothing. He's getting married next year. I'm still flying solo.

No way, this isn't true at all and you mustn't compromise on what you want and need and accept less than you're worth. And just cos he's getting married doesn't mean everything is rosy and perfect.