Boys Can't Argue

lifeishard

I was on the bus coming home from college, and there was this guy on the phone to his gf and I was shocked to hear what he was saying to her. Obviously I don’t know them but there was no need for this. He was roaring calling her horrible names and the reason why was because she confronted him about hearing that he kissed another girl. It was so cruel, he start laughing when she began to cry and said 'ohhh here we go'. He was telling her to shut her mouth; the language was shocking I won’t even say. I bet everyone is thinking im being nosey but it was so loud and I was sitting so far away and I could still hear the conversation. I know she could be at fault too but boys really don't know how to argue with girls and maybe vice versa.

Anyways getting to my point, when a girl argues with a boy why the boys always get so angry. This is your girlfriend and I know them prob piss u off all the time but to laugh at your gf when she is crying. And I notice this a lot around friends and stuff with their bfs.
Girls are more emotional than boys and I think when a boyfriend argues, he gets too wound up

Most times they could be arguing about something small but the way boys act, it’s as if the girl is the worst person in the world and that they detest them or something

Sorry about long post and im prob not making any sense :P

martdalto

::BROAD, BROAD SWEEPING GENERALISATION ALERT::!!

I think at "boys and girls" age, it's more to do with maturity. "Boys" tend to not be so mature in their arguing, and not into the drama of fighting. Whereas "girls" do tend to revel a little bit in the drama of tears and upset, and possibly.. "if I cry, he'll know how really upset I am and stop shouting"

You rarely see "older" couples having such arguments, well not in public anyway!!!

Silverfish

This isn't a PI.

However not all people are like that.

Liam Byrne

I can understand some of where you're coming from, but at the same time there are two issues that you're missing:

1) You don't know the full story
2) You don't know her / their regular behaviour

You say she "confronted him about hearing that he kissed another girl"; can I ask if you believed her, or if you immediately thought that she was being paranoid ?

I notice that you didn't say that it was horrible that she accused him of such in public on a crowded bus - why is this ?

You also don't know if she's regularly wrong, and then when he pulls her up on it uses tears as a mechanism to get herself out of it (I'm loosely basing this on his "ohhh here we go" comment).

Fact is, I don't know either, but I could see where - if she was regularly accusing him of stuff like this and he hadn't done it, and if she regularly uses tears to get out of making unfair accusations - then yes, I'd lose the rag too; not the first or second time, but definitely if it was a regular occurrence.

the way boys some people act, it’s as if the girltheir partner is the worst person in the world and that they detest them or something

TBH, I'm getting sick of comments on here that box things into stuff that guys supposedly do and stuff that girls supposedly do. I've been there in the past with accusations of cheating - for no reason, might I add - and if someone accuses me of that, it's they're being horrible, because it's an insult.

I haven't a clue what the facts are in the above scenario, but I do know that siding with her and demonising him (and, by a massive leap, all guys) without knowing the facts is completely wrong.