No friends!

Seoige

Basically I don’t have very many friends! I have a few close friends from school and a few from college but no defined group of friends. My ‘individual’ friends have groups of friends who they see regularly, go on holidays with, who they can make plans for Stephen’s Night or New Years , the kind of group they call ‘the girls’...I don’t have any ‘girls’!! I have a fantastic boyfriend but he doesn’t live near me so we don’t see too much of each other. I do meet up with my own friends regularly but just seems they’re often busy with their own friends. I’m not totally miserable - most of the time it doesn’t bother me because I do have a few close friends but I sometimes feel sad that I don’t have a solid group of friends to do things with, I feel like I’m missing out...just wondering if anyone else is similar?

Lollipops23

Sure I'd be like that too. Don't mind it tbh,I havn't had that kind of group since I was 12! I actually don't know how certain groups of friends stay together all the way through teens,through college and afterwards Like,I changed so much throughout those years, people just drift apart naturally. I have 1 mate from school that I'd talk to a fair amount, and my best mate has been the same since I was 16 but I don't have that "group".

There's nothing wrong with you; if you feel concerned about it try joining a sports team or some other kind of hobby. I know my hockey team has a great social scene, but I'm not with them long enough to consider them the "girls"!

McCABE1

Yep I'd be like that too, have three very good close friends but they are all different from eachother, have their own other good friends too etc. I always wanted as you say "the girls" but just never really did. In school a little but its so long ago. Have often thought about joing a group or something to meet people but in honesty I think when you reach a certain age, that kind of big group of girls thing is long gone. Can you not join in with one of your other friends when she goes out with her group? Something like that happened to me recently and I've had some good nights as a result! Felt a little like an outsider but that happens until you all become friendly, friendships take time as you know !

LegacyUser

I would describe much of my past social life as similar to yours. I never had a gang, only individual friends. The good thing is that I've made so many individual friends over the years (I'm now older than you) that over time - lots of time - they've formed a loose gang, with me at the centre, which is great.

Making friends isn't easy but try not to worry about it. If you're stuck for new years, just suggest doing something together to one of these friends, even if they have other plans, if they're decent people, they'll invite you along. I once had a friend who wouldn't invite me along when she was with her 'gang', though she'd hang out with me all the time otherwise. Then if I did want to go out on New years or some important night when her gang was out, she'd act like I was doing her a big favour. You don't need people like that!

I find a make a new friend about once a year or maybe every two years. That isn't alot, but over time it adds up, of course you loose a few as well, but the friendships that remain deepen. Just keep busy and keep doing different things and therefore meeting more people.

Clare Bear

A lot of people have made great friends from Boards, if there's a Boards Beers near you (they're often held around the country, not just Dublin) you should head along. Failing that definintely try and join some form of group that you'd be interested in, do you have any hobbies or sports that you would like to pursue?

LegacyUser

I feel the exact same here but Im the reverse! I have no lads to hang out with, which kinda sucks! I used to hang around with a group a couple of years back, but now I feel like a freak when I meet new people because most people have a group they hang with! I do have a girlfriend though and a few other ''mates'' but they are not real friends! I cant seem to get over this and its ****in me up socially and in other areas aswell!

unreggd

Another one here!

I've about 2 close friends, the rest are mates I'd see every now and again

and as above, I've no lads to hang out with! There used to be the 5 of us, but one moved away, the rest turned out to be drama heads, worse than the girls!

Hopefully I'm sorted when Im back to college

Read online about makin new friends. It's hard, especially when your in your own country, but basically you just hafta try talkin to random people all the time