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  • 14-12-2009 6:21pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi,

    Was looking for advice on how to deal with this sitation. Feel a bit stupid to be honest. 4 of us from my work hang out together - all girls. I get on really well with two of the girls but one of them really seems not to like me though we have never had a falling out. I like this girl a lot and she is very friendly with the other two but different with me. She is never rude or anything but its just little things that bother me. for example if the other two are not there and I ask her to go to lunch she will make some excuse that she can't go. This has happened a couple of times and only happens with me. Other examples are like on coffee break she will never sit next to me even if there is a free chair- will pull up another chair. I have thought about saying something but don;t want to cause an atmosphere. This girl is very popular with everyone. I am a nice person and have never done anything to this girl that I am aware of. Should I just accept that she doesn't like me for whatever reason and leave it at that? Any advice appreciated?


Comments

  • #2
    Kevster
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,980 ✭✭✭Kevster


    Hi,

    I'm thinking that this w hole situation might be rather innocent. For some people (like her, maybe), new people coming into their lives are difficult to deal with; and it can take a long time for that person to become familiasr with the new person. She might just have been a nervous person in her youth and - despite the fact that she's popular - she still might carry some of those nervous feelings with her now.

    Kevin


  • #3
    jdivision
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,260 ✭✭✭jdivision


    Sometimes you just don't click with somebody. If she's civil with you then don't worry about it, it happens, particularly in work. A group of about 7 of us from college meet up about once a month for drinks and I don't think I've talked to one of them for more than two minutes per night out. nothing in common. it's not awkward or anything but we're just not close. don't worry about it.


  • #4
    davyjose
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,287 ✭✭✭davyjose


    I was in this situation years ago. the guy turned out to be one of my best mates in the end. Just be yourself, don't let it affect your confidence, and this person will come around eventually.


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    OP here

    Thanks to those who responded. Am moved by your empathy and kindness- so refreshing
    thanks again - feel so much better!


  • #6
    Kevster
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,980 ✭✭✭Kevster


    You're welcome.

    Take care,
    Kevin


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