Ladies - would you go for a younger guy?

grenache

I think this topic is more relevant to this forum instead of AH or Personal Issues so i've posted in here. I'm male, 25, and have recently found myself being commented on by my older sister's teacher friends (early 30s). I overheard them joking to my sister that they find me attractive and wouldn't mind giving me some ''extra curricular lessons'' if they were single! :eek: I find this strange as i'm nothing more than average in looks, and i cant seem to attract any girl my own age - if i do, it just ends up being casual and dying a death after a few weeks. I also seem to get on with older people in general (i'm the youngest in my family), i find older girls more mature, relaxed and worldly. So the question is, do older ladies really go for the whole toyboy thing, is there something inherently appealing about it? Or it is just a big joke to some girls? Would you for instance, jump into bed, or even go out, with someone nearly ten years your junior? And is it worth trying it on with either of these girls? So many questions!

Some serious (and not so serious) replies welcomed!

SoupyNorman

I dont think you can call yourself a toyboy if your 25 and she's 30. Head over to AH and follow Freekys adventure if you want an example.

grenache

SoupyNorman wrote: »

I dont think you can call yourself a toyboy if your 25 and she's 30. Head over to AH and follow Freekys adventure if you want an example.

she's 33 and the other girl is 32! I dont know many girls that age going out with a guy my age!

PCPhoto

it would probably only be mindblowing meaningless sex ....


Does the age difference bother you ? would you do the same if roles were reversed (ie. older man younger woman).....age is only a number unless you allow it to get in the way, what have you got to loose.

Didn't you just say that neither are single?

Sinall

grenache wrote: »

And is it worth trying it on with either of these girls? So many questions!

Sounds to me like you are focused on the "results" at the end! Stop focusing on how old a girl is and just try to find one you are attracted to and get along with! I personally would not consider an age difference of 5 years prohibitive where the guy or the girl is younger.

For me, it genuinely depends on the guy's personality and attitude to things that determines whether I want to go out with him or not! I am 28 and have found younger guys who I really click with and get on brilliantly with, and conversely have met some guys in their 30's who I find to be pretty immature/don't click with at all. This also works the other way around, so it's not a person's age that influences how I feel towards them.

Personally I would not be put off if I guy I liked was 5 years younger than me. There are a lot more important things than age.

SarahSassy

I would go with a young guy for a fling but cant imagine having a relationship with a guy over 5 years younger than me.

Silverfish

grenache wrote: »

she's 33 and the other girl is 32! I dont know many girls that age going out with a guy my age!

I'm 33 and going out with a 25 year old for the last two years.

I think focusing on age is pretty shallow.

Catari Jaguar

I'm 25 and my boyf is my age, but I can't help being attracted to 18 - 23 year olds. Sometimes (um.. alot *ahem*) I think lads in school uniform like in 6th year are hot. It's my sekkrit shame. They'd probably wreck my head maturity wise, but for having fun or just for sex I'd definitely go for a younger man.

idontknowmyname

I'm 27 and wouldn't go out with a younger guy. I tend to like guys around the 29/30 mark as they're usually more settled. But that's just my preference.

Sure go for it, if you like her and she likes you....why not!

Any key?

Sorry bud your 25 so 30 is not that big a difference......ps older ladies = your a roooooide cause most girls wouldn't go for younger men;)

Black Swan

Hook up with a younger lad? Ask me when I'm middle aged.

Ickle Magoo

There are loads of things that turn me on or off prospective partners but age has never been one of them - and to be honest, I don't think five years difference in age is a big deal past teens.

grenache

Hmmm....some interesting and if i may say so, suprising replies. Firstly, the girl(s) in question are both 32, i found that out today. Secondly, they are both in casual relationships, nothing serious, probably more of a fcuk buddy scenario. I do really like one of them in particular, but cant really get the age difference out of my head. Stupid i know. I shall be going up to Dublin over Christmas where i hope to bump into said lady on a night out with my sister. So i might keep you all posted. Hopefully i'll have better luck than the legend that is Feeky Magee

Warfi

25/18 is a big difference. One has been to college/worked/travelled/etc, the other is still in school. Worlds apart.
32/25 not such a big difference, both have gone to college/worked/travelled etc, both have a lot more in common. After that it's down to compatibility, and maturity on both sides.

EDIT:You should go for it (as long as she's not seeing anyone-can get messy if she is). Don't worry about the age difference, if she's not worrying, why should you?

shellyboo

If I liked the guy, age wouldn't stop me seeing him... But I tend to go for older guys.

Lilym

it depends how young but if the age gap was 5 years or so why not ..if you got on