I let her go :(

LegacyUser

Today I had to get a puncture repaired on my car. While I was waiting for my car to be ready, I was sitting in the waiting room of this repair garage. Just me on my own.

The door opened and in walked this beautiful girl, now i mean BEAUTIFUL! i think she may have been spanish.

Anyway, she just said to me "Hello" out of nowhere and smiled and I smiled back to her and we were having a great chat, she had an amazing personality and I was so comfortable talking to her ( a feeling i rarely feel). I dunno, we just started talking away. She was getting something done to her car for the NCT.

After 5 or 10 mins I see my car come down off the jack and ready to go. The owner of the garage takes me over to my car and the girl is left to deal with one of the mechanics. With that, I never seen the girl again. She went her way I went mine. No goodbye or anything.
We were split so fast by the mechanics. I left the place because I had to collect my brother from school and that was it.

I really wish I knew this girl. We got on like a house on fire and we enjoyed eachothers company so much. I feel like I missed out on an opertunity to be honest.


What do people think? What should I have done?

LegacyUser

Awwww.... how romantic!

In terms of what you could have done, you could have swapped phone numbers, but that doesn't help now.

In terms of what you can do NOW - go back to the repair place, talk to someone on reception (preferably a woman), explain the situation and how you would love to contact this girl - now, they won't be able to give you her details, but you could ask them to pass on your details to her.... if she felt the same about you, she'll also be wondering about what could have been and guaranteed she would find it terribly romantic to have a message from you. If she just saw as it as a nice chit chat, then she won't respond (and the risk is might find it a little creepy - but hey, you'll never know!).

The person at reception is obviously not obligated to help you, but if you are sufficiently pathetic in your new found love (I mean this positively!), then perhaps they too might be caught up in the moment and want to help with the matchmaking.

And if it all works out, it could be a fun story to tell your grandkiddies!

Good luck!

The exact same thing happened me before my driving test.. Was hoping she'd finish hers round the same time as mine but no such luck.

LegacyUser

***123*** wrote: »

Awwww.... how romantic!

In terms of what you could have done, you could have swapped phone numbers, but that doesn't help now.

In terms of what you can do NOW - go back to the repair place, talk to someone on reception (preferably a woman), explain the situation and how you would love to contact this girl - now, they won't be able to give you her details, but you could ask them to pass on your details to her.... if she felt the same about you, she'll also be wondering about what could have been and guaranteed she would find it terribly romantic to have a message from you. If she just saw as it as a nice chit chat, then she won't respond (and the risk is might find it a little creepy - but hey, you'll never know!).

The person at reception is obviously not obligated to help you, but if you are sufficiently pathetic in your new found love (I mean this positively!), then perhaps they too might be caught up in the moment and want to help with the matchmaking.

And if it all works out, it could be a fun story to tell your grandkiddies!

Good luck!

they would be in breach of data protection act giving her details

tbh

you my friend have just had the perfect relationship. Enjoy it for what it was, a pleasant conversation.

Adamisconfused

I have to agree with the post just above me.
She probably talks to loads of people every single day and you were just another one of these people. You could have asked her for the phone number at the time. Other than that, forget it. She has probably had a dozen similar conversations since then with men who might have asked her for her contact details.

LegacyUser

yup, let it go. next time you talk to a gorgeous girl remember to get her number, but don't go stalking this one.

LegacyUser

unregistered wrote: »

they would be in breach of data protection act giving her details

If you read my post, I actually said "now, THEY WON'T BE ABLE TO GIVE YOU HER DETAILS, but you could ask them to pass on your details to her".

As for the other posts that say leave it as it is - I agree to some extent, but if you feel strongly about it, then try to find her. The worst that could happen is that she doesn't remember you and doesn't reply (or the repair place are unmoved!)..... really no harm in trying!

LegacyUser

Snap out of it OP, it was just a pleasent conversation. Forget about it, many people have conversations with strangers on a daily basis.

scarymoon1

I don't think you should pass on your details. However, I would say if this girl fancied you and she got your details she would be delighted. But if she didnt fancy you, she would probably be freaked out and find it odd. Thats how it is!!!

I can hear James Blunt as i read....:D

you could always put n ad in paper like they do in Australia or somewhere. for example

looking for a hot spanish chick from mechanics garage in XXXXX, dublin that i met 11 dec 09. give me a call 08xxxxxxx

EDIT: something like tubewinks.com

otherwise just forget it, take the positives from it and use it for when you meet the next woman that gives you ants in the pants. plenty of them out there mate trust me. i shifted a stunning girl up the country last night. got her number, asked if i could text her tomorrow, sent her a text today, didn't get one back....oh well! :rolleyes:

LegacyUser

Believe me, Spanish girls by their nature are extremely friendly and chatty, its just one of the many great things about their culture - but do not confuse this with flirting. If it was an Irish girl in this situation then you might be picking up the right signals but not with Spanish girls.

Please keep this in mind, I know from personal experience. I have lived in Spain and know many Spanish girls in Ireland and I also speak Spanish.

I've seen many Irish guys misinterpret the signals, understandably of course by their unfamiliarity with the different culture.

wolfric

Deleted User wrote: »

I can hear James Blunt as i read....:D

you could always put n ad in paper like they do in Australia or somewhere. for example

looking for a hot spanish chick from mechanics garage in XXXXX, dublin that i met 11 dec 09. give me a call 08xxxxxxx

EDIT: something like tubewinks.com

otherwise just forget it, take the positives from it and use it for when you meet the next woman that gives you ants in the pants. plenty of them out there mate trust me. i shifted a stunning girl up the country last night. got her number, asked if i could text her tomorrow, sent her a text today, didn't get one back....oh well! :rolleyes:

wasn't there a movie on that? Guy meets girl waiting for a train. They have this great conversation where they name off the presidents of america. Guy doesn't ask for her number and puts out a huge advert looking for her. Of course it got huge coverage and crap loads of girls start ringing in and his buddies take them all out for dates but thats besides the point (it all ends well)

If you decide to do something this time at least you know next time not to let them get away

wolfric

wolfric wrote: »

wasn't there a movie on that? Guy meets girl waiting for a train. They have this great conversation where they name off the presidents of america. Guy doesn't ask for her number and puts out a huge advert looking for her. Of course it got huge coverage and crap loads of girls start ringing in and his buddies take them all out for dates but thats besides the point (it all ends well)

If you decide to do something this time at least you know next time not to let them get away

its gas really when you think of it. crap loads of girls love this sort of film and yet if a fella done it for hem they'd say 'helllllooooo!, stalk-er, ugggh creepy'

Eve_Dublin

Oooooh now I'm torn reading everyone else's posts. It's true that I'd probably spend the rest of my life chasing after mystery-men if I was to pursue every attractive man I had a passing conversation with. You can't really know someone after a 5 minute conversation and I guess the reality of it is that if you DID get in touch, met up and had nothing in common or she had a boyfriend or something, the disappointment might knock the romantic streak out of you. I like being a dreamer and a hopeless romantic, even if some people might label me a little mad so I have to keep it to myself most of the time.

But this is not about me....you're probably more realistic than I am.

I don't see any harm either asking the garage to pass on your details or else sticking an ad in the metro or something but just be sure to keep your expectations somewhat realistic.

wolfric

well yeah(Eve_Dublin) every relationship has that possibility. I know having a really good conversation with someone and being able to click doesn't mean it'll work out but it's a sure sign that you're going in the right direction. Which do you think the op would have better chances with, her or some girl his lips happened to be compatible with in a club. It's not like it's a sure thing otherwise he would have just proposed right there and then.

Eve_Dublin

wolfric wrote: »

well yeah(Eve_Dublin) every relationship has that possibility. I know having a really good conversation with someone and being able to click doesn't mean it'll work out but it's a sure sign that you're going in the right direction. Which do you think the op would have better chances with, her or some girl his lips happened to be compatible with in a club. It's not like it's a sure thing otherwise he would have just proposed right there and then.

I'm definitely on the side of going for it more than not. All I'm saying is that if he went through such an effort to track her down and putting her on a pedastal like he already has, he might have MORE hope that things would work out than just snogging some bird in a club and thus more disappointment if things didn't work out. Kissing a girl in a club is hardly romantic!! I'm a romantic but just as long as he keeps his expectation realistic, I'd say go for it. Why not.